Is this a hotel ?

[anon50]

I know this may sound weird, but from this image does this look like it's in a hotel.
I know it's a bit hard to tell but all opinions are very much welcome.

It’s fire instructions. You can see the plan of the building which is L shaped.

Yes it’s a hotel. OP I have just read your previous thread about this man. He is a lying user and you deserve much better!

I live in a flat and there are fire escape instructions... in the communal area. They're never in the individual flats, it's absolutely a hotel.

Stupid man.

Has he said “where” he is? That might help with responses to help you and to respond to him with.

FYI, your name change has failed. This is going to sound harsh, but it’s not meant that way. Look at how easily you have made a mistake whilst looking for support on here. Therefore, look at how easy it is for someone to make a mistake when they’re trying to fool you.

From the dated decor it looks like a cheap b and b/ guest house hotel not a corporate chain but definitely a hotel.

The thing is you don't need to know the ins and outs I know it's unbelievably hard to let go .. but you obviously know enough to know he's a liar. That might have to be good enough to leave him and have a better future.

Yes, that’s a hotel room. He’s a gaslighting creep. Clearly cannot be trusted. Sounds like everything coming out of his mouth is a lie.
First stop Monday morning…solicitor.

Definitely a cheap hotel room. I'm so sorry OP. He's a lying bastard.

@Thursa

The door looks like a hotel, but the pictures on the wall don’t fit (to me, anyway).

I agree, the placement is too quirky. Hotels tend to be very traditional and go for symmetry in their decor. I'd say it's a room in a house of multiple occupancy or some sort of digs.

Why did he post that pic on facebook? Didnt he guess that you his wife might see it? What a first class twat.

No he's not in a "hotel" but he's definitely in a gritty B n B. Why is sending you this pic? Is he deliberately trying to provoke you? What a P.O.S

And - I have also read your previous thread. So since May last year youve been tolerating this wanker's behaviour? He's doing what he needs to do - staying married for the minimum amount of time for UK status - then he will.disappear. divorce this fucker now.

The thing is, OP if he cared for your feelings and your marriage he would explain where he is and why because he'd not want you to worry.

Sounds to me like he's doing the classic 'i don't want to be the one to end it but I'm going to be as big a dick as I can so She'll have to leave me'. Then, in his mind at least, he's not the bad guy. 🙄

Sorry, OP. It sucks. 😞

Agree that it looks like a hotel.

Fire door.
Evacuation plan on back of door.
Bathroom.
Lighting - tho’ It is very bright & over done as though it’s an internal room like a ship cabin.
Bland decor which looks fresh enough.
Pictures a bit oddly placed.

Nothing domestic about it.
Very chain/corporate style.

Looking at your partner's Facebook is not stalking. FFS.

you don't need to know everything to end a relationship. You deserve better.

Where does he say he is?

That’s a dreadful jacket

Those pictures don't look as though they are in a hotel but the door does. I remember your previous thread. This guy is using you, OP.

What was the context of posting that photo on Facebook?

Yes.
The framed thing on the door (and the door being a fire door- look at top left of door) screams hotel.

I haven't read your other posts but I'm assuming from other replies this guy is telling you he's somewhere other than a hotel.

Definitely a hotel or room above a pub...it's a fire door...look at the hinge thing in the top left corner. I stayed in a lovely pub last weekend with a similar set up...same kind of lighting, air con above the door, and pictures above the bed in a similar formation. The fire evacuation rules were in the back of the door with a picture layout at the top, instructions underneath, just like that one. The handle and lock was the same...no key card...proper key with a chain on the door. Lots of smaller hotels, pubs and B&Bs still use keys.

Your husband is lying...but why?

No I think it looks like they are at a mates house

Possibly a hostel or staff live-in accommodation somewhere or a training establishment of some sort? …So not a hotel, however..

You don't actually need any more evidence though do you, you have known for a while? Are you able to put a plan in place to leave or separate from him?

I see this quite often in my work, ask yourself these questions. What is his visa status? Is he studying or working, do you see his money? Does he have spousal visa, no recourse to public funds? Are you planning to have a child? Does his home culture respect women?

Is he keen to have a child? Frequently what happens is you have a child and then when the time comes to reapply for his visa he applies under right to family life, even better if he can show that you are struggling to cope, hence the gaslighting.

The visa process can take years and some men can keep up the pretence for years because they are often living their own life alongside the marriage. Is he often missing from home on some pretence, how much time do you spend together and how equal is it? How old is he, how old are you? Is he building a network of friends who you are not part of? You do realise that his family are aware of the plan.

Meanwhile each woman explains why this man is different to the others who scam. Grooming is a long game, why did you only meet him once did, what did he need to obtain a visa or enter the UK?

I'm not quizzing you I'm asking you to ask yourself these questions.

Oh and the hotel room with the photos on the wall is often what a hostel looks like or a hotel that is used to house asylum seekers etc, or a house of multiple occupation. A nice clean one too, Ive seen worse.

OP, you do have evidence of some of his cheating—the recordings he made of his video sex with OWs. Why isn’t that enough to be a dealbreaker?

He’s not a good guy, OP.