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First date nightmares tell me yours..

289 replies

Oakleaf40 · 11/02/2022 15:32

So first date after talking to this guy for a while...

I absolutely hated it.. He is such a nice guy but all he did was talk about his Ex... and his food manners were shocking. Talking with his mouth open, using his hands to move food yuck!! rude to the waiter... was such a shame .. Tell me yours..

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CocoCookieCream · 11/02/2022 15:43

After dinner, when the waiter brought the bill, my date said to him, we will split the bill. Without even trying to do the cheque dance / offering to pay / or pretend to offer to pay.

Danikm151 · 11/02/2022 15:47

Agreed to meet for coffee, got there and he said he doesn't like coffee but didn't order anything! so was awkward, me with my drink and him sitting there with nothing.
no thanks

RedCandyApple · 11/02/2022 15:49

@Danikm151

Agreed to meet for coffee, got there and he said he doesn't like coffee but didn't order anything! so was awkward, me with my drink and him sitting there with nothing. no thanks
Sorry but that’s funny, I wonder if that was an excuse because he had no money? Confused
ProudThrilledHappy · 11/02/2022 15:54

Went on a blind date with a man who talked constantly about his ex, by listing all the things he’d paid for in her council house through their years together and how he was pressuring her to pay him back.

The best bit was he’d bought a new front door about a month before she ended the relationship, and he was particularly incensed about having to give her back a key to the door he’d paid for!

I did feel sorry for him but was absolutely turned off by the whole thing.

ProudThrilledHappy · 11/02/2022 15:56

I have to add that he seemed really surprised I didn’t want to see him again, and told the person who had set us up that he couldn’t work it out as we’d had such a great time Hmm . It was a two hour monologue about the price of someone’s kitchen renovations.

DillonPanthersTexas · 11/02/2022 15:57

After dinner, when the waiter brought the bill, my date said to him, we will split the bill. Without even trying to do the cheque dance / offering to pay / or pretend to offer to pay.

So you expected him to pay anyway but only having first allowed you to deploy the insincere fake reach manoeuvre and make token noises about splitting the bill before he refuses to entertain such a thing and takes control of the situation by placing his card in an assertive fashion on the plate?

bonfireheart · 11/02/2022 16:00

Was super rude to the waiters and somehow had a toothpick on his which he used to clean his teeth with.

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Oakleaf40 · 11/02/2022 16:01

@ProudThrilledHappy

I have to add that he seemed really surprised I didn’t want to see him again, and told the person who had set us up that he couldn’t work it out as we’d had such a great time Hmm . It was a two hour monologue about the price of someone’s kitchen renovations.
Nothing worse than sitting listening to then talk about the Ex .
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Snoken · 11/02/2022 16:01

@Oakleaf40

So first date after talking to this guy for a while...

I absolutely hated it.. He is such a nice guy but all he did was talk about his Ex... and his food manners were shocking. Talking with his mouth open, using his hands to move food yuck!! rude to the waiter... was such a shame .. Tell me yours..

TBF, it's really hard to speak with your mouth closed:)
Original poster
Oakleaf40 · 11/02/2022 16:02

Funny! :-)

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Snoken · 11/02/2022 16:02

Sorry, couldn't help myself.

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 11/02/2022 16:05

Having dinner in a restaurant I'd suggested. Halfway through the waiter came to do the usual "everything okay" check. Date said "Yes thanks, she's finished", leaned across and took my plate away and handed it to the waiter. I was sat there dumbfounded with my cutlery still poised above my now-missing plate...

girafferafferaffe · 11/02/2022 16:06

He asked me out and I thought not my type but why not I'll give him a chance.

Told him how I loved animals and was toying with the idea of being vegetarian.

He talked to me all night about how he hunts, kills and skins animals for fun??

For the record, I never did go veggie but Jesus he could not have been worse. I even told him when he drove me home not to get out of the car 🤣 couldn't think of a nicer way to do it!

DillonPanthersTexas · 11/02/2022 16:08

Went on an internet date with a woman called Sarah who I thought was brilliant, she was funny, intelligent, interesting, we really seemed to be clicking and I was getting my hopes up. She asked me if I had been on any terrible online dates and I mentioned the very first date I went on with a lady called Jane who turned out to be a god fearing Bible quoting evangelical. I made some comments to Sarah about being a bit annoyed with Jane for omitting a quite clearly fundamental part of her life from her profile and correspondence prior to the first date and what a complete waste of time it was. At this point Sarah had a look of thunder on her face and through gritted teeth hissed 'thats my sister you are talking about'. There was no second date with Sarah.

deeplyrooted · 11/02/2022 16:11

I don’t remember much about the first date - he was polite, unobjectionable. I agreed to a second date. About 50m from where we had agreed to meet there was a corner and as I got to it I had a terrible sense of foreboding. I’ve never felt anything like it before. I had what I guess was a panic attack - weak knees, trembling all over, was so pale passers by were stopping to help.

When I pulled myself together, I looked at the corner, and decided I wasn’t going to go around it, and went back to my bus stop.

I’ve never stood anyone up before or since. I’ve never felt anything like that. I can’t remember much about that first date - I certainly didn’t feel threatened or panicked then, but the memory is also very slippery.

BertyBot · 11/02/2022 16:13

Went on a date with a friend's brother (she'd begged me, I was reluctant). Had a couple of coffees in Costa then drove 30 mins to my home town and had a couple of soft drinks there. He then started going on about the sofa we were sat on, tried to lift it up as he "wanted to dress it in clothes"....weird! Then he started talking about his ex and crying!!!!! 🤦🏻‍♀️
I made my excuses and left to which he insisted on walking me to my car, tried to kiss me, I said no, then he begged me to stay and suggested going for another drink somewhere. NO!!
My friend asked how it went and if I'd go on anther date.....I didn't want to be rude, but said that I didn't think he was over his ex yet. It was horrendous!

Somuddled · 11/02/2022 16:13

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation

Having dinner in a restaurant I'd suggested. Halfway through the waiter came to do the usual "everything okay" check. Date said "Yes thanks, she's finished", leaned across and took my plate away and handed it to the waiter. I was sat there dumbfounded with my cutlery still poised above my now-missing plate...
We need to know what happened next!
Ionlydomassiveones · 11/02/2022 16:15

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Sweetlikejollof · 11/02/2022 16:15

God, how much time do you have? I’ve had some doozies:

  • Talked about himself, his divorce, his ex and his kid for aagggeess. Didn’t ask me a single bloody question. When I started talking, he began SINGING to drown me out. I left.
  • Talked about the flat he’d bought in Glasgow and the fact that he’d had to evict a single mum on benefits from said flat to ‘get in a better class of tenant’. Then whipped out his phone to show me the kitchen he was putting in. I left.
  • Talked about how the Holocaust was ‘over egged’ and said African Americans needed to ‘get over slavery’. I’m Black, which makes it even more baffling that he’d whip that out. I properly lost my temper with this one. Then I left.
  • He picked a noisy bar to meet on a Friday night. Turned up and informed me he was a teetotal vegan. Proceeded to get very judgmental about my glass of white wine (he would never put such crap in his body, oh no!) and complain about how noisy it was. In the bar that he’d picked. I finished my wine and left.
  • Had clearly lied about his age and height. Made a crude joke to the very young waitress about a cocktail (it was called a ‘screaming orgasm’, you can imagine the joke) and seemed to get off on her discomfort. I left.

I’ve had lots of lovely dates, as well. But, there are some absolute freaks out there.

stuntbubbles · 11/02/2022 16:15

He showed up late, panting and sweating profusely, then pulled a tea towel from his pocket to towel-dry his sweaty hair. Then retrieved a packet of holiday photos from his other pocket and showed them to me.

Sweetlikejollof · 11/02/2022 16:23

I’m with @CocoCookieCream on this one. If a man doesn’t at least offer to pay on the first date, then there wouldn’t be a second date. I find that certain men only seem to believe in equality and feminism when it absolves them from putting their hand in their pocket.

StormBaby · 11/02/2022 16:24

Went on a midweek date with someone I’d met online, we’d been chatting for a while and he seemed awesome, bit edgy, in a rock band, very talented guitarist, day job as a retail area manager.

Within 20 minutes of our date starting he’d called his dealer to order two grams of cocaine to be delivered to the pub. Turns out he does that A DAY. 🙈 I stayed because actually, I had a good time, but there was no way I’d have a second date with a habitual drug user. He messaged me a few times trying to see me, but I met my now-DH soon afterwards.

About six months later he messaged me with “Are you still with that guy? Yes?…oh thats a shame”.

Then he sent me a dick pic. 🙄

mondayalready · 11/02/2022 16:29

I showed up to meet him in the pub - and he had bought 18 of his friends with him! We stayed with them all for around an hour before I suggested I drive us to my local. Played some pool and he fell asleep at the bar! To be fair he had just got back from a heavy drinking weekend away with his Dad who lives abroad - I think that's the only reason I agreed to give him a second chance. We're now happily married (15 years!) and have 2 kids!

Itsmeandhim · 11/02/2022 16:31

He started to plan our wedding day.
I'd only just turned 18.

Sweetlikejollof · 11/02/2022 16:43

@mondayalready

I showed up to meet him in the pub - and he had bought 18 of his friends with him! We stayed with them all for around an hour before I suggested I drive us to my local. Played some pool and he fell asleep at the bar! To be fair he had just got back from a heavy drinking weekend away with his Dad who lives abroad - I think that's the only reason I agreed to give him a second chance. We're now happily married (15 years!) and have 2 kids!
Has he ever explained why he did this?!