First date nightmares tell me yours..

[Oakleaf40]

So first date after talking to this guy for a while...

I absolutely hated it.. He is such a nice guy but all he did was talk about his Ex... and his food manners were shocking. Talking with his mouth open, using his hands to move food yuck!! rude to the waiter... was such a shame .. Tell me yours..

It was summer 2020 and we went to a park.

He was a covid denier. When it came up in conversation he asked "you don't believe in that do you?!?!??" He obviously saw me as a foolish sheeple. I replied "what do you mean do I believe in it? It's not bloody Santa Claus..."

He confessed he used to take cocaine every single day, then proceeded to lecture me when I mentioned I like wine.

He made some very racist comments about Roma people.

He kept invading my personal space and putting his hand on my knee. I said "can you stop that, it's making me uncomfortable". He kept doing it.

This all happened within the space of about 15 minutes before I decided to leave. He insisted on walking me back to the bus stop, during which he asked if I'd liked to go back to his. I said "no". I felt like I couldn't get away from him fast enough. He really genuinely seemed to think it was going well!

@Grapejuiceisntwine

Where do I start?

First one that will always stick in my mind is one who was a compulsive liar. We actually dated for a while stupidly but basically I was his affair! I had NO idea until he FaceTimed me one day and I saw women's shoes by his door. He came out with some crap about them being his exes (who baring in mind had never lived there and he never spoke to or saw). So after a little detective work, he had actually been in a relationship for 3 years! I ended it immediately!

Another one a complete catfish. Said on his profile he was 5'10... I'm guessing 5'4.... I am 5'3 and he wasn't much taller. He said he was a systems analyst but basically he use to go around to different amusements and pubs and play fruit machines... and also (don't judge me on this for being shallow cause this was a long time ago) he was wearing the same clothes my kid had, I'm guessing it was because he was short he could get away with it - but at the time I was like I was on a date with my son!!!!

Another one spent 3 hours talking about mortgages and to Renault ME-GAN-EEE ... I did actually nod off ...

And the worst one EVER actually raped me. He asked to meet - I said yes but it wasn't going to be a 'bootie call' because I simply didn't fancy him - he had other ideas. I was traumatised for ages after that. I tried to get the police involved but he clearly had lied about everything including his name and location and he must have used a burner phone because it was no longer in service cause he was untraceable. I just wonder how many other women he did that to. Sick human.

I am so so sorry that happened to you.

@AngelinaFibres

I went to meet a date by a local statue in town. We had chatted on the phone and he had described himself. When I got there there was no one fitting that description. I rang his number on my mobile and the man by the statue answered. He had told me he was 6ft tall and had a professional job.Turned out he was 5'4" , was dressed like a goth and had a tattoo of 'cut here' and the dotted line around his neck.

🤣😂😆

[quote HollowTalk]@BatshitCrazyWoman Did you report that to the police? Not only is he a really nasty piece of work but he's completely stupid as well to give you evidence like that.[/quote]
I didn't. I wish I had. I only knew his first name, and he could have lied. I felt like it was my fault (I know 🙁).

If he did it again, I hope the next person reported him

@Hoppinggreen

Soap, he talked about soap non stop. His family had a soap factory and he insisted on talking me through each stage of the soap making process in minute detail. Kissed like a tumble dryer too Smelt nice and clean though

Brilliant!

@Sweetlikejollof

I’m with *@CocoCookieCream* on this one. If a man doesn’t at least offer to pay on the first date, then there wouldn’t be a second date. I find that certain men only seem to believe in equality and feminism when it absolves them from putting their hand in their pocket.

Hear hear.

Had a few.

One was already wasted when I turned up and he had obviously spent up as well but claimed to have forgotten his wallet so I had to pay all evening. No idea why I didn’t just go home straight away when I realised he was smashed, I was young and stupid. He started singing Susan Boyle really loudly, pretended to be deaf when I was mid conversation because he thought it was funny and shouted random names at people passing by. Understandably never saw him again.

One who was almost an hour late and turned up with a black eye hidden under sunglasses. He did text me throughout with updates so I didn’t think I’d been stood up. Had a nice date in the end tbh except for the end when his friends walked into the bar and he invited them over to join us. I dated him for a couple of months for some reason, writing that out makes me realise he was a total wanker.

Another one was just ridiculously pretentious, a true hipster. He was a fair few years older than me and thought he could talk down to me. Lots of him boasting about places he’s visited which I genuinely couldn’t give a shit about. He was offended when he asked me to guess a country in Asia he hadn’t visited and I replied with Iraq and Afghanistan. Transpired he’d only visited India, Japan, Thailand and China. He gave me gifts he’d wrapped up but told me not to open them till I got home. I was a bit creeped out by the fact he’d wrapped them up like it was my birthday. Sylvia Plath book which I still own tbf and a record I couldn’t listen to because I wasn’t a hipster like him so didn’t own a record player.

All these stories have made me want to stop in every night.

Clearly OLD is full of awful men with major personality defects , poor social skills and those who just want sex. There must be some nice ones in the mix, but truly, this makes terrifying reading.

@OneSwallow

Clearly OLD is full of awful men with major personality defects , poor social skills and those who just want sex. There must be some nice ones in the mix, but truly, this makes terrifying reading.

Not all of the dates on threads are OLD dates. I think the ratio of awful men on OLD is pretty similar to real life. There are a LOT of vile men out there, quite a few okay ones, and some absolute sweethearts.

on this thread, that should say.

Met a guy for an 'evening out' (important point). Went for a drink, then once that had finished I was hoping to head for dinner, was near 8pm and I was hungry. He said he knew another place for a drink and announced 'I've already eaten'. Didn't ask if I was hungry or had eaten. This was years ago so these days I would have simply left but had to sit through one more drink with nothing to eat but a packet of crisps.

He thought the date had gone well. Suffice to say I declined a second date.

@MissingGeorgeMichael
Ah that can go either way. I had a Macdonalds’s before a date once because I didn’t want to be starving , and it organically progressed to a beautiful bistro — and of course I ordered a main and desert but felt guilty as I was sitting there

I was persuaded to have a meal with a date after a few drinks. I probably should have left after the drinks as the guy I was with wasn't for me.

Nothing on the menu was to his liking and he asked the waitress what was "off the menu". I've never heard of that before and was embarrassed.

He did pay for the meal though but lesson learn't - go if I'm not feeling it!