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mummyofaprincess · 2007-12-27T20:56:52+00:00

People might know my story from my other thread on here, I found out my partner was cheating on me via a message on his phone form OW. He left me, DD (3) and my 6 month bump. Well i wanted to try he never even gave us chance he looked me in my eyes and said he loved her and wanted her, he`s 26 she`s 17. He had brought her back to our place, he admitted this about 2 weeks ago now. Well now i`ve found pictures of them together and its really cut me up, i can`t believe it. He looks so happy How could he do this to me, we was together 7 years. If it wasn`t for my dc`s then i don`t know what i would do, i really hate myself, i keep asking myself why me?, it doesn`t help that she`s younger and much better looking, thinner got a job with my xp etc Why would she want my xp when she can have the pick of the croud? Will this get any easier, its only been just over 5 weeks but i`ve come along way since then, but this has made me step back like 10 thousand steps

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mummyofaprincess · 28/12/2007 19:40

Janos my DD has just gone 3 this month

I could call them but they cant get the money off him as he refuses to give it them saying he wants to give money to me (i had this trouble before when he owed rent when he first left) He wouldnt even post it! it felt like another excuse to come down.

hey annemayers i`m trying to get mad, its working!

I wish i could show the both of them this, not that it woudl bother them, they seem to be happy with what they have done and what they are doing now!

I don`t think xp will ever look back and see what an idiot he really was, he has lost a loving family.

Mind you hes making plans so he doesnt care

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Janos · 28/12/2007 19:49

Ah, my DS was 3 at the beginning of November. Almost the same age then!

Janos · 28/12/2007 19:51

I can promise you it won't be so easy for them when 'real life' sets in and whore and tosspot realise they aren't living in a frickin' fairytale world.

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mummyofaprincess · 28/12/2007 19:57

well at the moment he comes here to see DD which is my choice as i don`t want him taking her out just yet as i know he will take DD to her iyswim.

He said she knows when hes here but shes forever texting him either that or calling!

Well i asked him a about 2 weeks ago if he minded coming here to see DD and he said no not at all!

DD has had a bike for xmas so thats what his next visit will involve, at least i know he wont be taking DD to see her if he is only out with DD on her bike.

I bet your DS is still awake aswell lol mine is but shes on the settee with her blanket so wont be long now

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Layla17 · 28/12/2007 19:59

Hi MOAP. Hope you are feeling ok. I don't know your dp but I really cannot see it working out with a 17 years old girl. What is he thinking! He is going to regret leaving you it is just a matter of time.
My eldest DD is 3 and makes my life worth living.
The OW in my case (sorry - apparently there is nothing going on!) is a born again christian and she thinks it is appropriate to send texts to my DP telling him how great sex between them will be and how she will make him so happy and he can have a better relationship with his dd's if he is with her!!! Very chritian attitude.
in my view our men will end up cheating on their new women and then realise what fools they are - ruled by their trousers!!!

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mummyofaprincess · 28/12/2007 20:14

layla i have replied to you on your thread honestly what are these men thinking, i think you would be better off without him to be very honest with you.

How do these men think the grass is greener etc

It really pisses me off

These women know they have a partner and children

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Janos · 28/12/2007 20:28

"These women know they have a partner and children"

That's the bit that gets me. How can they do it? I just couldn't inflict this on an another woman and can't understand anyone who WOULD.

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mummyofaprincess · 28/12/2007 20:38

maybe they told the OW that they wasnt happy, didnt have sex, are stuck in this unhappy relationship etc i thinky ou get me here

But these wasnt true in my relationship, he probably openly slags me off to her and i dont care as i know i`m not like this iyswim.

Maybe one day she will get to know from someone that i`m not some bitch that treated him like shit!

I think there to busy going out and getting pissed and judt generally doing stuff that takes there mind of me and DD/LO.

She said to xp shes not a homewrecker (yeah right! carry on beleiving that love) I dont think they see that they have broken up a family!

It really does hurt that they can carry on with there lives with not one bit of guilt or hurt

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Gursky · 28/12/2007 20:41

Hi MOAP - I was posting last night, and just wanted to check in and see how you are. Glad to see you are doing a bit better today.

I was out buying new bits for the arrival of the baby too today, but nothing exciting like clothes - just those max size sanitary towels!

Janos · 28/12/2007 20:45

"Maybe one day she will get to know from someone that i`m not some bitch that treated him like shit!"

Of course you aren't MOAP, she's just young and stupid enough to believe whatever shit line he feeds her to make them both feel OK about what they're doing.

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mummyofaprincess · 28/12/2007 20:46

all ive brought so far is a pack over scratch mitts and a pack of sock i think i need to get a move on, i dont know 100% that i`m having a boy so everything will have to be unisex like i had to with DD lol

It will be a nice suprise though!

It just hurts a bit knowing all these babies are going to have a loving mommy and daddy, like my DD had.
This time round LO will only have a loving mummy, which i know is more then enough, but when DD was born i had xp there every step of the way and he was the best dad in the world, he never even moaned about dirty nappies!

This time its going to be up to me and only me, when family are not areound and this does make me sad

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Gursky · 28/12/2007 20:52

You'll be great! I have forgotten the socks!

He may have been a great dad at one time, but not any more. A great dad would not leave like this. What kind of example is he setting to your DD - how would he feel if some slimy little sh*t did the same to her in 20 years time?

You are doing the most rewarding and difficult job in the world, and you are doing so well.

When is LO due?

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mummyofaprincess · 28/12/2007 20:59

LO is due at the start of april whens your LO due?

I know i should just forget about this tw@t but its so hard as when hes here its like hes never left which i know is my own fault really as right now i don`t want DD going out with him as i know he will go behind my back and take DD to her

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mummyofaprincess · 29/12/2007 16:47

i`m not having a very good day today

I`ve been really snappy, poor DD

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Janos · 29/12/2007 17:16

Oh sorry to hear that MOAP. Was just thinking about you. Whats up?

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mummyofaprincess · 29/12/2007 17:23

Hey janos well my sister was ment to be staying with me tonight but shes very tired after working so i said to her leave it for tonight as i know she works hard.

Well i know xp is out enjoying himself as he rubbed it in that he will be staying with her tonight at her house as everyones away, and its made me feel really down.

I really did think i was over him but i know now that i am not

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Janos · 29/12/2007 17:31

Don't beat yourself up about that hun cos it's only 6 weeks, things will still be feeling raw and you will be all up and down..that's completely natural.

How is your DD and 'bump'? My DS is inisisting on making plasticene dinsoaurs...you should see the state of my carpet!!!

All this stuff about going out...he's just doing all that to be hurtful and I could quite cheerfully give him a good smack. Git

What job does your sister do, btw? Mine's a midwife. Was in on Christmas Day, looking after a poorly babe and his mum.

purpleduck · 29/12/2007 17:32

You will come out the other side. If this is your first heartbreak, then yes, it feels huge and insurmountable. Give yourself time, and hang in there for your dc's. It gets better - you will get better, and you will be a stronger, wiser person because of it.

good luck

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mummyofaprincess · 29/12/2007 17:43

Janos my sister works with children who have disabilities, on a saturday my sister and her mom (my step mom) take the children out and do activities with them , for my step mom this is part of her job as she works full time with the children in school, she teaches the children how to cook, my step mom and sister made some lovely chocolate logs with the children last week and brought one home for us to have aswell

I bet you love your job, Also i bet its very rewarding aswell i would love to be a midwife, when i left school i chose to go to college and i studied childcare i left on my second year to have DD.
I can go back next year, and i think i will as i can then work while DD is in nursery and LO can go in the colleges nursery

Purpleduck this is my first heartbrake thankyou so much for your support it does mean alot.

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AnneMayesR · 29/12/2007 17:48

It's no wonder you feel so down Moap. You have been put in an extremely harsh and painful situation but the one person you thought you could trust. You WILL get through and have very happy times again this I promise.

He is worthless scumshit and not worth your time. It must be hell but try not to think about him. Try laughing at what a worthless piece of crap he is. He is a total loser and you are better off without him.

He will do the same thing to her. This guy cannot handle being an adult and anytime he is faced with having to act like one he will run away like a coward with his tail between his legs. He will do this his whole life and leave nothing but devastation behind him.

It may take another 7 years for him to do this to hobagwhore but he will. And she will finally "understand" and she will feel like shit. And no one will give her the sympathy that you are getting because of how she behaved when she and he first got together. When she is in the exact same situation as you she will get told that she is getting what she deserves.

The behaviour that they are displaying is showing us that they don't understand anything but childish,selfish, evil, self destructive behaviour and that they have very low IQ's. They will have nothing but problems. It may take time but I have seen enough of these kinds of people to know how things turn out for them.

You are rid of them!! Yippee for you!! That is something to congratulate you on!! It is always a good thing to get toxic shitty people out of your life. He can't hold you back now.

When one door closes other door opens.

I lost a job I loved once (sacked over false allegation) and was nearly suicidal over it. A few weeks later I came across another job that was 100 times better with better pay and everything and was very successful. My old boss who sacked me for something he did got found out, got sacked and lost his home.

It was the best stroke of luck I ever had. I would have never come across the better job if I hadn't lost the first one and been treated like shit.

AnneMayesR · 29/12/2007 17:48

It's no wonder you feel so down Moap. You have been put in an extremely harsh and painful situation but the one person you thought you could trust. You WILL get through and have very happy times again this I promise.

He is worthless scumshit and not worth your time. It must be hell but try not to think about him. Try laughing at what a worthless piece of crap he is. He is a total loser and you are better off without him.

He will do the same thing to her. This guy cannot handle being an adult and anytime he is faced with having to act like one he will run away like a coward with his tail between his legs. He will do this his whole life and leave nothing but devastation behind him.

It may take another 7 years for him to do this to hobagwhore but he will. And she will finally "understand" and she will feel like shit. And no one will give her the sympathy that you are getting because of how she behaved when she and he first got together. When she is in the exact same situation as you she will get told that she is getting what she deserves.

The behaviour that they are displaying is showing us that they don't understand anything but childish,selfish, evil, self destructive behaviour and that they have very low IQ's. They will have nothing but problems. It may take time but I have seen enough of these kinds of people to know how things turn out for them.

You are rid of them!! Yippee for you!! That is something to congratulate you on!! It is always a good thing to get toxic shitty people out of your life. He can't hold you back now.

When one door closes other door opens.

I lost a job I loved once (sacked over false allegation) and was nearly suicidal over it. A few weeks later I came across another job that was 100 times better with better pay and everything and was very successful. My old boss who sacked me for something he did got found out, got sacked and lost his home.

It was the best stroke of luck I ever had. I would have never come across the better job if I hadn't lost the first one and been treated like shit.

AnneMayesR · 29/12/2007 17:49

crap sorry for the double post.

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mummyofaprincess · 29/12/2007 17:54

AnneMayesR your right i think i need to stop wollowing right now and just look at my DD and think i am better off, i have a lovely family, and a lovely home i really don`t need that idiot.

Janos i forgot to say DD is good thankyou, and tell me about plasticene, DD had some off her great grandparents and it got everywhere lol i don`t mind though LO is also good thankyou, been kicking loads today, it might be because of all the stress

Hows your DS i bet he`s happy playing like my DD right now

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Janos · 29/12/2007 18:01

LOL MOAP I'm not the midwife..my little sister is! She does love it though. As for chocolate logs..yummo. I'd be jealous but I've eaten sooo much choc over the last few days I think my stomach will form a seperate continent from my body..

Afraid I'm just a civil servant, not very exciting but it pays the bills

Your sis and step mum sound lovely, how great that you have them nearby.

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mummyofaprincess · 29/12/2007 18:14

oh so sorry Janos, i had tears in my eyes when i was reading the post

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