Husband suddenly changed

[curledupinaball]

Name changed for this. We have been married for 3 years perfect marriage until November when DH appeared to suddenly change.
He kept contacting a female colleague on Whatsapp messaging at all hours all uneventful crap. Near to Christmas I found out he had bought a calligraphy copy of our Wedding poem which I never received and scissors and sellotape were hidden in his car.
We went on holiday at xmas and I was gutted to read a message from her saying she missed him. I challenged him over this and we had a huge falling out with him saying I shouldn't read his phone. He then put a lock on his phone. He was really brutal towards me at the time saying i'd changed etc.
Fast forward to last night he snapped at me and said he didn't want to be with me and it's all my fault. I explained he needed to be honest about OW he again denied anything was going on.
I have been cheated on before and he knows it would break me. He's trying to make me walk isn't he so he can maintain face.
What should I do?

Curleduppininaball . How are you doing ? Made any headway ?

I sent OW a pic of the poem and asked if she recognised it as I had given it to DH on our Wedding Day. She texted back eventually and said she had seen similar in a cupboard at work. I think its a lie as it was delivered to his parents and if it was meant for me he would have left it round at theirs.

@curledupinaball

I sent OW a pic of the poem and asked if she recognised it as I had given it to DH on our Wedding Day. She texted back eventually and said she had seen similar in a cupboard at work. I think its a lie as it was delivered to his parents and if it was meant for me he would have left it round at theirs.

I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but what was the point of doing that? It was never going to result in anything to make you feel better.

It will serve you far better if you just concentrate on getting out. Again, go 'stealth', do and say nothing to indicate that you're actually taking steps to get out. And that includes having anything to do with her.

Are you still there ? Still pretending all is fine ? Still looking for evidence. ?

Might as well stay now... it obviously doesn't bother you that much .

Forgiveness is just as equal a route as leaving . No need to me embarrassed. However he does need to a ) admit it and b) end it...

Any thing else makes you a rather pathetic door mat when your money and lack of kids make this an actual free choice .

Hoping your search for rental property has been successful.((hug))

Hope you have plans in place to move and leave the loser.

Was wondering how you are OP?

@howtoleaveit

Was wondering how you are OP?

Not good tbh. Struggling to find a rental property with 2 dogs and there is no way I'm leaving them. Rental prices where I'm based are massive. I'm looking daily. Have sourced storage etc

I hope things are going well for you OP