Dating thread 223; Fresh starts and love hearts

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Bangheadhere40
Aaaaah ! I’m sending positive vibes for the date

Well thanks for not judging me for the 22 year old threadies! . As I can safely say no one in RL will ever hear about this , hell no
I havnt texted back yet , next step
Would be the video call where he sees my old little face 😂

@ibelieveinmirrorballs I've asked him once(just before Christmas and we fucked up), and that was after he said he didn't want to hurt me so I told him what would hurt me after which he promised he wouldn't and a lot of other stuff was said on both sides. He was the one who at the beginning suggested staying in touch as he actually thought I was a nice person. I haven't forced him to stay around and actually be friends with me.

Oh and hinge are now judging me
As my ‘most compatible’ for the day was ……..18 year old Mohammed
18
Thanks hinge

Rosewaterblossom
Another ‘too keen’ from me
You need some middle ground lady !

@Thisisworsethananticpated

actually, I often go younger nowadays too (not out of choice - just that men "on the dot" for me seem to be rare so just increasing my pool and chances).

I've messaged all twenty six of my Tinder matches.

Three have replied so far, one saying he's met someone and good luck (which is nice), two just responding "fine, how are you", will see if that moves on.
But the rest have twenty four hours then they're getting dumped.

Consultant has asked me to dinner. MrStone has asked me to a gig.

ReturnOfTheBunk
I’m was thinking more Mrs Robinson

Ohhh YOUNG MAN

VanGoghsDog
I love your efficiency
Your a machine !

@Thisisworsethananticpated

VanGoghsDog I love your efficiency Your a machine !

Copy pasta innit!!

@Thisisworsethananticpated

Oh and hinge are now judging me As my ‘most compatible’ for the day was ……..18 year old Mohammed 18 Thanks hinge

🤣🤣🤣 gross hinge 😆

@Bangheadhere40 you could be a farmer’s wife!! 😍😍 oooh I’d be jealous, I’d love to be a farmer’s wife 💗

@Isitreallyme12777 what part you planning to stay in? We’re in Santa Eulalia. Lovely and chilled.

@ButterflyOfShay San Antonio as that is where they're getting married. He showed me pictures of the place and it looks amazing,they have so much planned. He said i can spend the days up at their villa if I end up going on my own so I'm not on my own all day. This is why I love him, and he is my best friend.

I love this thread! It's nice to read other people are going through what I'm going through!

I messaged Mr needy to say I was busy earlier and to have a nice day. He messaged a few hours later to say he hadn't been feeling well and had slept it off. My cynical side thinks is that an attempt for pity so I'll message in sympathy or am I just a complete bitch 😆

He then asked if we could chat later to which I said I couldn't tonight. He then said "you okay?" To which I replied yes I'm fine, just busy. I'm sticking to my boundaries!

[quote Stayingstrongish]@VanGoghsDog some men in their 40s can also manage 3 or 4 times a night 😊[/quote]
I had a three month fling with a 58-year old when I first started dating after splitting from ex. The first night we spent together, we did it 4 times. And that was after a bottle of wine! Quite the sexual reawakening after years of a sexless relationship 😊

Feel like updating on Mr FP. After my not-feeling -it call he suggested leaving it a few days. I left it 3 or 4 days, then left him a voice note yesterday offering friendship and leaving it with him. He listened to it this morning and I haven't heard back so I think his answer is clear. I agree it is more sensible to stop any contact than trying to pursue an friendship. I really really wish I'd fancied him though. Or that he'd made me laugh more. Oh well. Back on the apps in March is the plan. May try OK Cupid. People are saying good things about that.

@WeWantTheFinestWines good on you! Great to hear the guys in their 50s can go at it like crazy too 😊

Think me and Mr Beard feel similar to you, making up for lost time! Sometimes he has issues but we just take a break or have a snooze if that happens.

It used to be good @WeWantTheFinestWines but they have a problem with the range your profile is shown over. I received a lot of probably fake attention from SE Asia, the US and China. I left as a result of that noise. Also the search preferences don’t work unless you pay.

It’s ok@ButterflyOfShay I didn’t really take offence. I’m happy in my own ‘lean and athletic’ skin 🙂

He probably feels a bit rejected @WeWantTheFinestWines.. not trying to make you feel bad!

Oh good glad about that @HairyArsedMan… certainly the best to be happy in the skin we’re in 🐕! (that’s meant to be a whippet) 😬😬

@HairyArsedMan

It used to be good *@WeWantTheFinestWines* but they have a problem with the range your profile is shown over. I received a lot of probably fake attention from SE Asia, the US and China. I left as a result of that noise. Also the search preferences don’t work unless you pay.

It’s ok@ButterflyOfShay I didn’t really take offence. I’m happy in my own ‘lean and athletic’ skin 🙂

Ah. Thanks for the heads up. I'll manage my expectations.

@Gettingonwithit12

I keep hearing that there are lots of men out there but where is everyone finding them? I have loads of chats on OLD but they very rarely translate into a date, and only one so far has been interested in taking things further! I’m a bit worried I might pursue the casual thing and have nobody interested

I have this happening too. Lots of chats that go nowhere and suggesting casual but getting nothing

Great to hear the guys in their 50s can go at it like crazy too 😊
Well … we can try…, sometimes it’s takes me all night todo what I used to do all night.

Last year I was used POF & Tinder, briefly, moved onto OurTime ( the over 50’s old farts one), better quality on there, got a few chats going, met a few people, all lovely ladies, but used to get presented with people from all over the UK, the filters did really seem to “stick”, I had a lovely chat with a lady up north, was never going to meet, but nice chat

[quote Gettingonwithit12]@ibelieveinmirrorballs I can relate, I can’t believe how many men just seem to want to chat and not actually get a date! I might have a look at fabswingers but I think I might be a bit scared of it

Thanks for the tips everyone, I have had some limited success on bumble and hinge… one total and utter time waster on OKC, and one who seems nice and has suggesting meeting on Friday- but I am fully expecting it to be cancelled! I guess that’s the trick, not to get my hopes up…[/quote]
@Gettingonwithit12
Are you in a rural area ?
This was my main issue, just not really enough people in a decent traveller distance,

@curmudgeonly007

Great to hear the guys in their 50s can go at it like crazy too 😊 Well … we can try…, sometimes it’s takes me all night todo what I used to do all night.

Last year I was used POF & Tinder, briefly, moved onto OurTime ( the over 50’s old farts one), better quality on there, got a few chats going, met a few people, all lovely ladies, but used to get presented with people from all over the UK, the filters did really seem to “stick”, I had a lovely chat with a lady up north, was never going to meet, but nice chat

Oooo - I keep getting OurTime ads in Facebook. They seem so cheesy but I did wonder if I should have a go.