Dumped with no explanation

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My boyfriend of 4.5 years finished with me completely out of the blue this weekend. No explanation, I simply got a text message saying not to contact him anymore and then he changed his FB status to single immediately. There's children on both sides (we have none together) who will be so upset. I just don't know what to do. I feel sick!

You’re amazing OP and have handled this with such dignity.
Stay strong and remember you’re worth much more than this dreadful cold man .

I know it hurts now but it won’t be forever.
You’ve dodged a bullet :

Good luck for the future and take care of yourself

It does get easier OP I promise but I have to say the wondering why will never go away (at least i don't think so). My DH left over 2 years ago now with no explanation and confirmation by text that he wasn't coming home! I did get a very brief conversation to say he was unhappy but other than he thought my DD was annoying he couldn't really tell me why. He didn't say goodbye to my DD, who didn't remember life without him, and he wouldnt let me or my DD say goodbye to his. He wouldn't come to the house when I was there and collected all his stuff when I was away and left me to sort out the house and moving out. We were renting so that meant cleaning, painting etc and dealing with letting agent. To this day I have no idea why he left and I didn't notice any signs that it was coming. I think about it less now but I will always wonder what went wrong. Stay strong OP 💐

You're all so nice! 🥺 I didn't think I was doing too badly until the cat flap 'incident'. That seems to have massively set me back although I'm not sure why. Maybe it's because he thinks that's all I deserve.

Yeh i remember being set back when i was given a carrier bag with some socks, knickers, photos of me/us just flung in with the underwear.

I was so erased from his life that he had to get photos of me out of his possession???
I felt so worthless. Like the presence of a photo of me was offending him??

One of the 2 photos he flung in to the bag was of both of us!

Although that twisted the knife and hurt me all over again, i also saw the arrogance of sending it back to me.
It was rubbish to him , but he put it in the bag like i'd want it. That made me angry, luckily.

I think the second stabbing if you like, that forced me to throw away the rose tint3d lens and see an immature cruel man. He made me see it.

@UserBotTrending That couldn't have been nice for you. He didn't give me back any of the photos he had. He's probably put them in the bin instead!

@Flamingo89 How are you doing?

I think I’m getting there, I’m still up and down. I haven’t heard anything at all from him. How are you?