Paedophile dad

[Mylifehasimploded]

I’ve changed names in case anyone can ID me in real life.
I’ve just found out that my dad is a child abuser who targeted and abused my child over the course of a few years.

Police are involved, and they are waiting for the CPS to say whether they will charge him or not. I don’t know what I’ll do if they can’t/won’t charge him.
My immediate family have decided to support him over my child, although they do think he did commit the acts he’s been accused of.
I’m at a loss as to how or why family members would take this stance. Why would you support a paedophile?
I don’t know how I’m going to deal with things if he’s charged, or if he isnt charged. He’s late 70’s, in bad health, and I’m aware the CPS only have certain funding. I’m not sure how the cps works and whether lack of funding/Covid would mean he gets away with it.
I want him to pay, I want him to suffer. Part of me wishes I’d left the police out of it, and sorted out my own punishment for him.
I’m at a loss as to what to do. My whole life has changed, I don’t know how to support my child and it’s not easy to discuss in real life. I feel my life has been a lie, that I’ve let my child down.
I wondered if anyone had any experience of this situation. At times it makes me feel so angry, at other times I wish my life was over. I don’t know why I’m posting really, I’m just having a really tough time

This is what I struggle with, society/families standing by someone who has committed the worst crimes imaginable. I just don’t get it, and never will.
how can grown humans be ok with this? Yes, I’ve lost my family, but I’d rather that than be a paedophile apologist like they are.
my daughter is the victim, yet he has more support than she does. It baffles me.

im so sorry for everyone in this situation, people will never truly understand how utterly lonely this is for the victim and their family.
he’s made me a different person. I want to physically hurt him. I spend hours in my head going through different scenarios where I get him, do I use a cricket bat or will a baseball bat be better? I’ve never so much as slapped anyone, and now I’m thinking awful thoughts.
I want the village he lives in to find out, but then he will be moved and probably end up somewhere cushy paid for by the government. He’s going to drag this out as long as he can, and at his age, he could die before it gets to court.

sorry, I’m blathering on.

I remember your thread. I hope you get counselling support soon. Do you qualify for counselling through your employer?

You and your daughter are better off away from toxic people who support a sexual predator.

Just a thought but I doubt speaking to him would help. He's a predator. You can't trust what he would say & he may even deny the truth

I don’t get how people could stand by him either. People are just spineless. It seems so common and must be devastating for you to lose all your other family too.

I'm so sorry you're both going through this.
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I am so sorry for the situation that you are in OP.
I admire you for the strength that you have.
How you haven't ended this vile human with your own bare hands take a serious amount of self control and restraint.
I dont know how I personally would ever be able to deal with something like this, but fuck everyone else. You're doing an incredible job in supporting your DDs and cutting contact with anyone who even thinks it's remotely excusable to have not already cut ties with such a vile, appealing and downright disgusting man as him.

I have no advice, just focus on your girls as you are. No one else matters.
You've got this.x

Appalling**