How did you know your marriage was over... Describe in three words...

[LondonGrimmer]

Or maybe a short sentence. I have massive doubts. Just wondering how others knew...

He left me

Unable to takk (about things of massive importance)

Talk even

@jackthehack I'm sorry

@BrickInAWall it's getting that way for us too...

He avoided me.

He punched me
He denied it
He blamed me.

(These were the final things. Took nearly two decades of abusive behaviour for things to get ‘bad’ enough for me to actually leave).

He wouldn’t let me have sanitary towels

He bought me an electric toothbrush and his sister received an expensive eyeshadow pallet. Said it all.

lack of communication
Avoided me
Spent no time together

Abusive, nasty narcissist.

Getting out was the best thing ever but it took years of gaslight and him manipulating DC for it to totally stop. I knew it was over 15 years previous to me asking him to move out, when the crazy toxic drama started. Really really regret not ending it much sooner. You just know when it's not right.

When he chose his ex girlfriend (that he thought was a slut and too low born to marry) and her feelings over me.

This was the last straw after putting up with the shithead's lies, gaslighting, stingy, sponging off me, narcissist utterly moronic behavior!!

I stopped caring

He sexually assaulted me. Relationship not marriage.

Don’t love you

Emotionally cold
Selfish
Controlling
Dull

I had to knock on the door of the study and stand in front of his desk, just to have a conversation.

If I went to give him an affectionate hug, he would stiffen and back off. We slept in separate rooms.

Apparently, it was all my fault.

I stopped caring

He checked out.

He was gay.

Saw them together.

he put me down constantly.

Affair. Blamed me.

Was too bossy

Wished he’d died

That’s when I knew marriage had died - I was desperately unhappy and shocked at the realisation that if he died I would be better off on so many different levels.
I have never disclosed this before this.