How did you know your marriage was over... Describe in three words...

[LondonGrimmer]

Or maybe a short sentence. I have massive doubts. Just wondering how others knew...

@GotBeatenUp

Read my username

Is it 'got' or 'gets'?

Prostitutes
Useless
Ungrateful

@coodawoodashooda, eh?

GotBeatenUp
Hope your in a better place now happy new year x

First warning sign that he didn't respect mewhen he called me a bitch under his breath. I ignored it in shock and disbelief.
When he shouted at and started fighting with my elderly mother in her nursing home. Then after that told me I am not allowed to bring the children to see her anymore.

@Ddot.

I am, but it was a lot to get over and you don't really get over something like that, you learn to deal with it.

The beating was probably the least bad part of it. It was hideous, but I'm pretty certain that he made sure that I had no serious injuries. Not minimising it but if I showed you photos of what I looked like you'd be horrified. But there were no broken bones and I think he chose what part of me to punch and kick.

Probably the worst bit was that he'd been a monster all along and I didn't see it.

MN got me through it. Happy new year. Hugs.

@Ddot

He Killed a cat. I planned to murder him. He threw me over a car. I became bulimic. Oh sorry got carried away, thinking back I was a little dense, should have left him after the honeymoon, long story that includes fish fingers.

That is horrific. Hope you are OK now. xx

@coodawoodashooda, My username is GotBeatenUp. Short for I got beaten up by my then -partner. I don't understand your question, which you have asked again. Were you trying to make me think hard about what happened? Don't bother to answer

This is Relationships not Pedants' Corner

Apologies, I do realise that the OP said marriage, not long term relationship

So many heartbreaking stories here. I hope everyone is staying safe x

GotBeatenUp
I'm ok, it was more a mental beating, I couldnt see how I could leave him as I was far too pathetic, ugly, fat the list goes on. Looking back I was a size 10 and hot as hell 😉 I managed to get a full time job, he didnt like me to work. I left and moved in with my heavily pregnant sister. Just before she became a mum I bought a flat and got a beautiful fur baby, what more do you need

[quote GotBeatenUp]@coodawoodashooda, My username is GotBeatenUp. Short for I got beaten up by my then -partner. I don't understand your question, which you have asked again. Were you trying to make me think hard about what happened? Don't bother to answer

This is Relationships not Pedants' Corner

Apologies, I do realise that the OP said marriage, not long term relationship[/quote]
@GotBeatenUp I think the question was, did you get beaten up in the past or do you still get beaten up now? I'm pretty sure it was meant as a kind enquiry into your welfare.

No emotional support
Put himself first
Begrudged my happiness
Financial abuse
Emotional affair
No support at all
Refused to take responsibility for the pain he caused.
Told DD I was fat.

@Alcemeg, thanks. That's not how I read it.

I left after the beating. There was no remorse on his part.

I can understand why women stay, I'd have done anything to not be as unhappy as I was. No kids involved.

Be really sure before you make a decision. It’s very normal to feel like this ‘at times’. If this is how you have felt for a significant amount of time then maybe you need to have a talk and try to work it out. Sometimes relationships are stale and boring especially if together a long time x

@Kittykelly123

Be really sure before you make a decision. It’s very normal to feel like this ‘at times’. If this is how you have felt for a significant amount of time then maybe you need to have a talk and try to work it out. Sometimes relationships are stale and boring especially if together a long time x

*@Kittykelly123*: Thank you for your words of wisdom informing us Poor Deluded Women that we Must Preserve The Marriage.

I have sent you your Read The Full Thread guide by first class post, so that next time you can keep your sanctimonious nonsense to yourself.

Abuse
Detached
90% misery, 10% relief.

I wanted out

no emotional warmth

@kittykelly123 Thank you for that I’m so happy reading this not, my marriage has broken me this year so thanks for reminding me to talk and relationships get boring at times. Tell you what read some of my other posts and discover the truth of these posts.

I didn't read the post from @Kittykelly123 as sanctimonious at all, so no need for any sarcasm. Everyone here is just stating their views and experiences. Telling their stories and sharing their opinions. They're all welcome.

Christmas is an emotional time. I personally won't be rushing into anything other than couples counselling then going from there.

LondonGrimmer in the light of some of the posts on your trhead, Kittykelly123 was pretty damn tone deaf in their post. There wasn't even a disclaimer for abuse, which there should have been.

I'm on my phone and it's showing that it's 10 pages long. I don't blame anyone for not reading the full thread tbh.

I didn't read the post from @Kittykelly123 as sanctimonious either.

Apologies @Alcemeg, I didn't read it like that. When you have been kicked as if you were a piece of litter in the street, and your DP has been arrested and you were taken to A&E, you don't go back for second helpings.

Shagged someone else (him, not me)