How did you know your marriage was over... Describe in three words...

[LondonGrimmer]

Or maybe a short sentence. I have massive doubts. Just wondering how others knew...

I felt relief when I heard he might be having an affair.

I really resented spending time with him by then, but I felt shocked that I actually welcomed the distraction. I starting seriously preparing my exit straight after that.

He chose her

I don’t believe in emotional affairs. Affairs are affairs and for me it is the deceit.

I didn't want children with him.

He choked me.
Or
Mistress's boyfriend 'phoned.

He told me he hated me. That was today.

He's gone now and I won't be welcoming him back ever again. 24 years together and married for 17 and I feel nothing. I worry for my 13 year old son though 🙁

Affair with his student.

Ridiculous man child

Total, heartbreaking indifference

Got a compliment from a stranger and he didn't look at me or talk to me for a week.

Didn't fancy him anymore.

Wow these stories are sad. Sorry for you all.
I assumed that in most cases it was less dramatic eg you just grew apart

Lazy, selfish, drinker

Read his texts

@Frazzled2207

Wow these stories are sad. Sorry for you all. I assumed that in most cases it was less dramatic eg you just grew apart

Did you really assume that?

My affair ended, and I knew I'd cheat again if I stayed married.

@tinseleverywhere2021
Well of all the divorced couples I know, as far as I know they grew apart, didn’t love each other any more, had issues in the bedroom etc.
I don’t know anyone that was cheated on, or where there was another person involved, or any alcohol or violence. That’s just me though.
I just didn’t think such sad stories were so widespread.

Didn’t love him

Frazzled, I can see where you're coming from; I admit my assumption would have headed towards 'growing apart', 'boredom' etc rather than some of these heartbreaking reasons!

[quote Frazzled2207]@tinseleverywhere2021
Well of all the divorced couples I know, as far as I know they grew apart, didn’t love each other any more, had issues in the bedroom etc.
I don’t know anyone that was cheated on, or where there was another person involved, or any alcohol or violence. That’s just me though.
I just didn’t think such sad stories were so widespread.[/quote]
It is much easier to say “we grew apart” than explain your husband was gay, abusive, an addict, a cheater, neglectful, shit with money, etc.

Obviously, all couples grow apart when relationships are dying, what we are talking here are the “final nail in the coffin”. But I bet all of us say “we just grew apart” if anyone we don’t know well or trust fully, ask us the question in real life.🤷🏻‍♀️

Resentment, detachment, disappointment (mine)

Went on holiday without him and realized I really really really didn't want to come home.

Loved going to Moorfields on my own it was a break in fact any hospital visit is a break,

Addicted to porn. (He was)

He turned into a stranger. He stopped caring. He left me.