How did you know your marriage was over... Describe in three words...

[LondonGrimmer]

Or maybe a short sentence. I have massive doubts. Just wondering how others knew...

@Mochatatts

Emotionally cold Selfish Controlling Dull

This!

@BlueEyesBaby

Feeling totally alone together He never has anything to say, would rather watch tv or play on the phone Never ending days of despair and depression (which he doesn’t even notice) Never feeling good enough Constant picking at my clothes, appearance, nasty comments like calling me frumpy (he’s no George Clooney himself) Never organising or arranging anything, like a day out, holiday, birthday or Christmas present but always complaining with whatever was arranged by me Feeling totally unloved, unseen, unsupported Never having any emotional support even when I am at a breaking point Always blaming someone else or some life circumstances Having all joy and hope sucked out of life, nothing to look forward to Wishing I was dead day in day out (I don’t want to pass this pain to the kids) 20 years of marriage, 2 kids and I cannot suffocate living like this any longer

This is my ex to a T. Almost the same except we were together for 25 years and have 3 kids. He sucked all the life out of me.

Lied about finances

i didn't read the full thread - just responded to the question. If your un-happy with that then tough.

I'm not his mother.

@drinkingwineoutofamug

I'm not his mother.

That and I have the ick

He raped me.

When she cheated

[quote Onetraumaatatimeplease]@Frazzled2207 I think that's just what people say. 'We grew apart' is easier to say than 'he was a violent bastard'.
I know that's my story for people but the real reason is that he told me, in his drunken stupor, that life would be so much better if I just killed myself. He said that in front of our child.
Three words? Drunken abusive wanker. I hate him with the fire of a thousand suns. And I have wished him dead, many, many times. [/quote]
Very late response to this. He's a bastard. How dare he?? I'm glad he's in your past