Dating Thread 221 - will this thread see us through 'till Christmas?

[WeWantTheFinestWines]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Misty9

We already agreed on meeting this evening when we first started chatting. But I suspect he's not single. He dodged a question about his surname and I've directly asked if he wants to meet and he's not answered that either. He's deleted now.

Yeah @Misty9 that sounds a bit shifty/rubbish. Better off without!

@MizK I agree with the others - he sounds socially inept and it doesn't sound like a good match.

Yay for the lovely walking date and phone date!

Of my numerous irons (or are they just pre-irons, as I haven't met them?) 3 have now suggested a date. And a fourth is about to, I suspect. (And a couple of others haven't got to that stage yet, but could show promising signs in future). So I'm going to have a fun fortnight ahead. They all seem nice - but we'll see! I'm reminding myself of this scene from Grease (pic below).

Unfortunately because of my schedule (more available in evenings than the daytime) I'm probably going to have to go for drinks rather than walk/coffee. So now I have to wear nice evening clothes and shoes, instead of wholesome outdoorsy walking clothes and wellies. Might need to spend the next couple of days psyching myself up to that!

@WeWantTheFinestWines thanks yes that’s exactly what ut’s like. Thanks for understanding 💖 that sounds really lovely with your new iron! How did you meet him? And does he have a name yet?

@MizK think I’d be peeved someone coming in throwing their little comments like that around about my environment. It wouldn’t make me want to shag them more!

@PurpleStripyScarf that sounds fun having a few chats on the go! Good for a confidence boost too 😄

Thanks for the birthday wishes, I had a really great day.
Sometimes its tough having a birthday between Christmas and New Year as you almost get lost.

Also @MizK something you said would be the decider for me. About how you don't like how you feel after you've seen him sometimes. If he’s not making you feel nicer than you do normally then I don’t think that’s a good sign. You want a fella to make you feel good! Maybe you're just not compatible. I’d tell him to stick his argos catalogue house up his tiny arsehole. (I’ve been single ages for a reason hehe). Good luck with it whatever you decide!

@SortingItOut 🥂 🎈 glad you had a nice celebration ☺️

Today I am wfh… but i’m looking forward to my lunchtime walk which is when I often walk past MrTurk and sense a bit of mutual interest. We’ll see what today brings! I will update with any gossip!

@Shayelle2009 oooo is there any way to prompt Mr Turk by making pointless chat?

@MizK I would be supremely annoyed about criticism about my place. Mine is cluttered but nice! At the very least, he's socially awkward but I would say bye bye.

Just heading home from an idyllic few days with Mr Music. Sad because due to childcare constraints, we are unlikely to have long periods like this for a while but both agreed that these few sets of days cemented things for us.

@Misty9 ugh so he was shady. Bullet dodged! Hope the brownies were more rewarding than him!
@PurpleStripyScarf the glam will hopefully be worth it - four potential date zeroes sounds very exciting. The odds are surely in your favour!

@Shayelle2009 you're so right. Your post did make me laugh, I wish I had said that! And if necessary, I will!
Nice to have a cute man to flirt with in real life, I bet you'll make his day when you sashay past! Let us know how it goes!

@Eesha so happy to hear you've had a great time with Mr Music. Sounds like you're completely on the same page about what you want - so lovely! I bet you're going to miss him now you're back in routine.

Dinner date with Ms Colombia went well. She is very attractive and intelligent.

It's a nice warm feeling I get after a good date - makes up for all the shit waded thru on the apps. Is this how heroin addicts think ?

She is in UK till January 9th and have asked her if she wants to go for walk in countryside tomorrow.

[quote MizK]@Misty9 ugh so he was shady. Bullet dodged! Hope the brownies were more rewarding than him!
@PurpleStripyScarf the glam will hopefully be worth it - four potential date zeroes sounds very exciting. The odds are surely in your favour!

@Shayelle2009 you're so right. Your post did make me laugh, I wish I had said that! And if necessary, I will!
Nice to have a cute man to flirt with in real life, I bet you'll make his day when you sashay past! Let us know how it goes![/quote]
Thanks @MizK yes fingers crossed. At the very least it should be fun/nice to meet some new people - a pleasant distraction.

@Shayelle2009 yes do your very best sashaying please, and keep us posted! We'll be living vicariously through you 👏 👏

@TobyEsterhase that sounds nice! Haha re the heroin addicts!

[quote MizK]@VanGoghsDog it does touch a nerve doesn't it! I just don't know why anyone would feel the need to give their opinion - I'm glad you told him straight. Need to take a leaf out of your book.
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards haha I agree about teachers - I'm one and it's probably clear I'm a pain in the arse to date too!
@startingAgain6369 thank you, I have been feeling bad all day so its made me feel better to hear that.
@FabulousMrFifty @Onesmallstep67 @teesguy @SortingItOut thank you. Its so hard sometimes figuring out whether im being oversensitive but it seems his comments are pretty obviously out of line. I fear he may be the sort who likes to say whatever he wants and present it as honesty (rather than the rudeness it actually is).
I think I'm going to be really direct and say what I'm thinking to him and that will probably be that. Could probably do with a detox from dating tbh (probably won't but we'll see.)

@WeWantTheFinestWines aah your date sounds perfect! So pleased for you.[/quote]
Just catching up with the thread but wanted to say you are so not being oversensitive! I remember you saying (I think) that he had very different taste to you in home decor - but unlike his method of expressing that which was to criticise your choices, you opted to keep it to yourself (and voice it on here instead ). People who can't help themselves and think they have to tell you that your way of living/existing/decorating your home is WRONG... it's just going to get worse and not better. It's totally inappropriate and plain rude.

I'm just home after another brilliant date with Mr Mixtape, and this time with a succinct but very lovely talk about 'where we're at' and how we feel about each other. We had planned to have a daytime 'no sex involved to cloud matters' meet with a chat/lunch/walk... although not long after having had The Chat we may or may not have ended up getting hilariously filthy in a random and very secluded bird watching hide that the universe put in our path whilst on our very wholesome walk. Ended up going back to his for the first time and staying over - really really had such a lovely time and starting to think this may become a 'thing'.

@TobyEsterhase great sounding first date - good luck for the walk tomorrow! Totally agree that a good date really helps to compensate for all the frustration associated with the process in general.

@SortingItOut HB for yesterday and that's a lovely (if slightly 'softening of the ice lady' ) update re your time spent with Mr K.

@ibelieveinmirrorballs

I'm just home after another brilliant date with Mr Mixtape, and this time with a succinct but very lovely talk about 'where we're at' and how we feel about each other. We had planned to have a daytime 'no sex involved to cloud matters' meet with a chat/lunch/walk... although not long after having had The Chat we may or may not have ended up getting hilariously filthy in a random and very secluded bird watching hide that the universe put in our path whilst on our very wholesome walk. Ended up going back to his for the first time and staying over - really really had such a lovely time and starting to think this may become a 'thing'.

Top date!!

@ibelieveinmirrorballs yay for your brilliant date!

Ahhhh @ibelieveinmirrorballs your date sounded bloody amazing!! So glad its working out for you. And @Eesha!! How lovely 💗💗 very happy for you gals!

No sign of MrTurk on my lunchtime march today. It was raining and miserable though. I see him a lot so there will something to report here at some point soon. Even if it a dose of eye contact as we walk past 😍 gives me a little kick, which is definitely needed/welcome 😇

@ibelieveinmirrorballs sounds great ❤️

@ibelieveinmirrorballs

I'm just home after another brilliant date with Mr Mixtape, and this time with a succinct but very lovely talk about 'where we're at' and how we feel about each other. We had planned to have a daytime 'no sex involved to cloud matters' meet with a chat/lunch/walk... although not long after having had The Chat we may or may not have ended up getting hilariously filthy in a random and very secluded bird watching hide that the universe put in our path whilst on our very wholesome walk. Ended up going back to his for the first time and staying over - really really had such a lovely time and starting to think this may become a 'thing'.

A bird watching hide?! Oh my goodness @ibelieveinmirrorballs you are so naughty! 😱😆

Happy belated birthday @SortingItOut 🥳

@ibelieveinmirrorballs

I'm just home after another brilliant date with Mr Mixtape, and this time with a succinct but very lovely talk about 'where we're at' and how we feel about each other. We had planned to have a daytime 'no sex involved to cloud matters' meet with a chat/lunch/walk... although not long after having had The Chat we may or may not have ended up getting hilariously filthy in a random and very secluded bird watching hide that the universe put in our path whilst on our very wholesome walk. Ended up going back to his for the first time and staying over - really really had such a lovely time and starting to think this may become a 'thing'.

Fantastic news . I am pleased for you

Got another date with Mr Favourite Place tomorrow. Don't know if it's our first or second. An evening seafront walk after work and then drinks/food in our picturesque harbour afterwards. He'll be driving, I won't. So I have to be careful not to get slaughtered/be embarrassing. I like him but I don't really fancy him. Maybe that will change tomorrow 🤞

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Got another date with Mr Favourite Place tomorrow. Don't know if it's our first or second. An evening seafront walk after work and then drinks/food in our picturesque harbour afterwards. He'll be driving, I won't. So I have to be careful not to get slaughtered/be embarrassing. I like him but I don't really fancy him. Maybe that will change tomorrow 🤞

@WeWantTheFinestWines 🤞🏻🙂😘😘

Just found the ideal song to sum up the past week for me:

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Got another date with Mr Favourite Place tomorrow. Don't know if it's our first or second. An evening seafront walk after work and then drinks/food in our picturesque harbour afterwards. He'll be driving, I won't. So I have to be careful not to get slaughtered/be embarrassing. I like him but I don't really fancy him. Maybe that will change tomorrow 🤞

Good luck tomorrow 🤞

Great things happening on this thread 😁