Dating Thread 220 - where we forget about pensions and get back to dating

[WeWantTheFinestWines]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Damn I was enjoying the pensions discussion 🤓

My IFA / pensions guy wrote to me today. Need to put them all in one place. Exciting times. Woohoo 🙌🏽

Hi everyone. Dates roll call, all in search of my 3 FWB:

MrBet - lovely velvety Scottish accent, date zero Saturday
MrDublin - rough n ready Irish lad, date zero Saturday (theatre)
MrPoet - has been accepted as FWB tier 3

Other chats going on but not going to regard them as serious until date zero

Still missing MrA and MrBeau, who I developed feelings for but not the right time or person for me

Checking in ❤️

I don't have anything but an old work pension, which has frozen 😘😘

Nothing from me but it was lovely to hear Mr Cricket's voice earlier and to chat to him(will have to remember to call him instead of message at least for a week) and I have another washing machine I can use Yay!!!! Although I might have to make him dinner and hold my nose if he still hasn't had a wash!!!🤣

Just checking in. Still dating the bad dresser when we can. We're on alternate child free weekends which doesn't make things easy.

Hello, checking in. Date 2 with Mr Music this Friday and can't wait!

I’m happy to forget about pensions! Only another 30 years or so of working…

Mr Beard is coming round later and has promised to whisper filthy things in my ear in his hot Scottish accent

Thanks for new thread.

All quiet here - I’m not going to overfunction on the MrHedgehog situation - he’s at an interview this week so I’m just going to take it one contact at a time.

We had a proper talk when we met and I think he’s kind of where I was a few years ago - trying to move things on in terms of career and work and life direction and a bit all over the place as a result?

So I’m wanting us to be on each other’s radar - but definitely a case for not overinvesting if ever there was one!

Leading on quite a big project where I have the capacity to impress and get my name out there so really focussing on that. Have spilled liquid on my laptop and drying it out so not a brilliant start 🤔🙊

Back on the Bumble “very lightly” - have just said on my profile if anyone is up for meeting for a Xmas city centre coffee and chat.

Nothing really to update from me. I deleted profiles this morning and won't create new ones until the new year.

Are LISA’s quite good for pensions?

I’m kind of not planning too much but also I’m childfree and know I’m happy living fairly cheaply. I could live well on current pension credit levels.

Re: diversifying, I guess also things like health and emotional well-being are things to factor in for retirement.

Little coffee meet booked in for tomorrow.

I’m basically just rounding up anyone within walking distance of me as I can then meet and go shopping at the same time?

I don’t really fancy organising commuting dates right now, from either side.

Man do these people like to have meetings! We've got meetings to schedule, to plan the meetings that will take place in January. Then we have de-brief meetings and 'core' team meetings to plan. Flipping mental how many meetings they need! I'm so in the wrong JOB as all of you already know. Currently sliding off my chair on a call listening to someone droning on and i have literally understood about half a sentence of his 40slide presentation!

No chance of seeing magnet.man tonight. So it'll be another week to wait. Winter seriously messing up our redezvous!

@Naimee87

“Let’s have a zoom meeting about something that could have been done in a one line email”

Fuck off, all of you, just fuck off.

(Clearly getting into the spirit of seasonal goodwill to all men here )

@Isitreallyme177 I just read your other message on the old thread. That's so sad and so hard to predict re your Dad's placement. What a shame.

@SpringlikeBunk yessssss! Or have you got just '2 minutes' for me....15 minutes later you're still on the call waiting for them to find the file they urgently need you to 'edit' which is in one of the billion tabs they've got open. Because god forbid they waste 'their' time editing it THEMSELVES!

Wish i knew if i'm able to travel for the meetup, looking risky! Not sure of the quarantine rules/regulations anymore. I think Switzerland may be on one of the many many many high-risk lists now. Please keep me in the loop though as i'm really really hoping to join!

@Naimee87

Yeh, just be aware of the dates - I think we’re all keeping our fingers crossed and hoping for the best. Assume we’re all vaccinated fully etc.

Also re:travel, bookings please please no-one book anything not 100% refundable! I got my accommodation sorted but can cancel easily.

I get the bloody zoom/teams meetings. Put it in an email it would be quicker.

@BelladiMamma it was I kept wondering why I couldn't go home. At 16 I did (I tried my hardest to get expelled and it didn't work so I just failed my GCSEs instead and that worked) and I did better at the local college than I did at school.

I wasn't going to book anywhere as I drive to London all the time, now I'm thinking I might. Will see what Boris throws out in January before making a decision.

@Isitreallyme177

Booking.com is good for “cancel at the last minute for no charge” reservations.

I have a few things for next year which I’ve just reserved for but can cancel closer to time if needed.

@SpringlikeBunk yeah I've got my hotel for ibiza booked with them. I've got to speak to Mr Cricket in the new year to see if he can book me a cheaper package as I've literally not saved anything for Ibiza.

Checking in.

I would have told her about my reservations re the dog @WeWantTheFinestWines, so she wouldn’t ask again. Taking care of a dog you don’t like for two days is not fair on you or the dog.

My fingers are breaking with being so firmly crossed that travel restrictions to the US don’t get altered before next week. My wanky XH is fucking off there then, quite possibly for good, and I can’t wait - he is soooo bad for my DDs’ mental health…

Would buying a pre lit, pre decorated, snow covered tree be really lazy and naff? I have a whole chest of baubles and lights and usually get a real tree but really can't be arsed this year and have just seen one in Next that I can just put up and plug in. Only it's snow covered.

Dating update: been seeing Mr Story for about two months now I guess, we haven’t had the exclusive chat but have been seeing eachother every week and I personally let any other chats / dates to a couple of weeks ago. It feels like it’s moving slowly at one date a week (an overnight stay, we live 1.5 hours away so weekdays trickier) especially as he’s away for two weeks at the moment, but I feel like we’re progressing nicely in intimacy and want to see where it goes. Also don’t like sleeping with two people at once and am pretty sure he’s not speaking to anyone else - he’s mentioned me to his work buddies, I’ve met two different friend groups etc.

We have great chemistry, and he has a super calm manner which I first worried was boring but I’ve now realised Is probably the mark of someone who’s secure and not avoidant. I find myself feeling safe and relaxed around him, which is nice, and we have lots in common. I feel I can introduce him to my friends which is rare. So we’ll see how it goes when he gets back. I do miss him a bit tho and am struggling with the time difference as he’s 8 hours apart

@Isitreallyme177 I had one last year (my exes) and it was so convenient and easy, I’d recommend it.

I'm considering it but it won't arrive until Sunday by which time I might have lost my Christmas spirit.

Checking in on the new thread! And need to catch up already.

@BelladiMamma Oooh I have a weakness for the Irish accent. Was on a zoom call this morning with an Irish provider and 😍 Roll on Sat as I'm far too wound up at this point. Mr Tux does a good imitation though as he has family there (as do I). Might use that later down the line if we get there 😅😂