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258 replies

bunglebells · 02/12/2021 11:44

Ok, this post isn't to get into a huge ethical debate... but I've actually been wanting to ask it for years. Am assuming it might have been done but I couldn't find it!

Those of you that don't use PORN. Could you tell me why? As in, don't like it, gone off it, ethical reasons, feels wrong, because partner doesn't like it.

So many threads on here about porn. And most seem to end up with women who say their partners don't watch it, being told they're naive. I don't particularly want to get into that debate, but would be very interested to hear if there are men who really really don't, and obviously then, why?!

For the record and upfront. I'm anti I suppose. Prefer not to have it in my relationship. Have experienced relationships where men do, and some where they (allegedly) don't. Of these, some I've believed, others I haven't. But that's besides the point.

Don't want a bun fight, just genuinely really interested and intrigued. Smile

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CupOfNiceTea · 27/01/2022 20:44

@menarelikeme

Hiw do you know that ”vast majority” only watches vanilla?

What constitutes as ”vanilla”?

Anothergreatday · 27/01/2022 20:53

@Danceswithwhippets

Ok, this post isn't to get into a huge ethical debate...

@Anothergreatday -please see that the OP is asking for genuine input, and is treating the answers with respect. We can learn something from her questions and the replies.
Don't derail the thread -begin another thread about ethics if you like.

No desire to get into a debate just raising a simple question that I think gives insight into the kind of the users
Anothergreatday · 27/01/2022 20:55

[quote menarelikeme]@Anothergreatday none of that even crosses my mind tbh[/quote]
Well that’s pretty scary and I seriously hope the content you watch is legal seeing as it doesn’t cross your mind and all

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Anothergreatday · 27/01/2022 21:39

[quote menarelikeme]@Notsuchaniceguy More people watch porn than Netflix and the vast majority are only interested in the vanilla stuff. To suggest men as a whole enjoy the suffering of others is utter nonsense.[/quote]
But saying some men just don’t care and put their sexual pleasure above women sounds like what you are saying ?
Also comparing a chicken in your sandwich to a woman or girl who may be abused or have their pictures posted without their consent , that’s actually very very concerning

Notsuchaniceguy · 27/01/2022 23:23

[quote menarelikeme]@Notsuchaniceguy More people watch porn than Netflix and the vast majority are only interested in the vanilla stuff. To suggest men as a whole enjoy the suffering of others is utter nonsense.[/quote]
Which I never did. I said some. And I also didn't say the some were all men. Although I did say the majority were.

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