NC for this as it could be outing.
My boyfriend proposed to me a couple of weeks ago, which I am beyond delighted about. He is a great guy and we suit each other well.
Something that is causing me a lot of anxiety (hence why I am awake at 2.44am) is the prospect of having to take his name. He has a pretty embarrassing surname. I don't want to write it here because it could be outing but it could be likened to something like 'Meacock'.
I like my surname, it is fairly standard, think along the lines of 'Richards', and I feel that there is a real dilemma in taking his name. At the risk of sounding petty:
- I don't like it
- If we have children (which we hope to), they will be obvious targets for bullies
- I prefer my surname
A simple solution would be for him to take my surname - I mean it is the 21st century - but:
a) he is pretty traditional so I doubt he would want to do that
b) I don't want to offend him or his family by suggesting this
The two points above also fit for if I keep my surname. I would also like to have the same surname as any potential children so me keeping mine and him having his wouldn't really work.
I have thought about double barrelling but Richards-Meacock still isn't great...
I know I am being petty as I would have no problem with taking his name if it wasn't so embarrassing and associated with penises.
What should I do??