Re being dominated yes, MrWG is the same, I suspect I'm not dominant enough for him, I'm not demanding, he does react positively when I am.
Re schedules, his is a nightmare, I can't even be bothered to try to follow it but I'm cross/down about him at the moment - he's not found time for me for weeks now, he had an op on 26th, I spoke to him on phone about a week before and then the night before(this was actually a really nice call, we had a good chat and it felt more real than most of his relaying his diary to me, which is what he normally does on the phone). He didn't have good plans in place for being picked up etc and I offered several times to pick him up, stay over if he wanted, or not, or bring him to mine etc but no, someone else was lined up (a plan was cobbled together) then on the night I contacted her (because I was worried as she was picking him up but he had no-one at home for the 24 hour thing) and she asked why I wasn't going (because I offered and he said no, she texted him to say I was coming instead), he was then kept in and had no lift planned for the next day, I had very little work so I offered, AGAIN but no, he cobbled something else together (he did at least thank me this time for being available as a back up), I then spoke to him on the phone Saturday, had a really long chat about loads of things, he was feeling much better recovering quicker than he expected. Said he would try out driving on Tue and maybe come and see me Wed (I have a two hour lunch on a Wed).
Sunday I texted and asked if he wanted to come for dinner, would pick him up and take him home, he said thanks but I've got food I defrosted two days ago I need to eat.
I felt really upset by that. Rejected several times offering to pick him up etc, and then rejected in favour of two day old food (that would have no impact on him if he threw it in the bin).
A week or so ago I told him his job was to find a time we could meet up before I go away, I go away Tue for 4 weeks, he said maybe 5th/6th, would confirm when he got home, he's not confirmed (I now have other plans, of course) and he is supposed to be coming down when I am away 14th, but that's not been confirmed either.
I know I need to just end whatever this is. It's causing me anxiety now. It's not a 'friends with benefits' situation because I don't count him as a friend, friends don't behave like that, and there are no benefits. It's not a fuck buddy because there is no fucking!