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I did a thing. Was it bad?

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turnabouttime · 13/10/2021 22:23

Okaaaaay so, I did something kind of big and I'm now watching the repercussions kind of feeling guilty, kind of not and honestly? Kind of fascinated. So I found out someone I knew was cheating on his gf. So I sent an anonymous letter to the gf outlining the betrayal. She's gone ballistic and dumped him. She is really upset. He has blamed the OW for blabbing. He is freaking out as he promotes himself as having very highly morals and never cheating. She and he are mid 20s. OW is early 30s. Was I evil?

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DFOD · 19/10/2021 12:03

How is your friend the OW doing?

Are you supporting her or keeping your distance?

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turnabouttime · 19/10/2021 12:08

She isn't overly upset at all. Never wanted him as a partner or anything. Just a shag. Ego boost kind of thing

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allsorts1 · 19/10/2021 12:09

I think you did the right thing too! Not horrible AT ALL. Well done and wouldn't the world be a better place if good people called cheaters out and exposed them.

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DFOD · 19/10/2021 12:23

Is she the one giving you the info?

Are you worried that she will sus you out?

Has this thread made you reconsider now telling the GF face to face (also now with indisputable evidence if he is still lying to her) or again anonymously with proof?

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turnabouttime · 19/10/2021 15:31

@DFOD

No, I don't think I will comment again. I was concerned. I let her know. She can decide what to do with the info. As people have said, when they were told it just confirmed their suspicions or it helped them see future inconsistencies. Beyond that, if gf chooses to carry on then that is her choice and right to do so but from an informed place

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DFOD · 19/10/2021 16:06

How are you with your friend / OW - are you able to keep a poker face?

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turnabouttime · 19/10/2021 18:48

@DFOD

How are you with your friend / OW - are you able to keep a poker face?

We aren't best buddies. I don't see her daily. Just happened to see her at a time when she was shooting her mouth off a bit

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