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[Earmuffsweather]

If you found out your partner of 10+ years had been watching gay porn ie men on men

@Gannet my gay friend likes to watch hetro porn. Does that make him suddenly straight... no of course it doesn't, as born out by many other replies.

Seems he was honest last time, so why lie this time. Also why lose the iPad when surely he can just clear the search history etc... the more I think on it, the more the fact the iPad seems to have now been hidden, the more it points the DS. So I don't think you can shoot the dad just yet. "Gay was the favourite insult in primary school too, so even just Googling "gay" because he didn't understand it, would be enough to pull up gay porn

If it does turn out to be definitely the DP & not the DS, if it were me, I'd be raging at the lies & using DSs iPad & putting DS at risk of seeing it, way more so than what he was actually watching

Why are you with a homophobe anyway..

@RockinHorseShit I’ve got parental controls on my iPhone because my son sometimes goes on it and searching the term ‘gay’ doesn’t bring up any porn at all. OP said her partner had put parental controls on the iPad

I think I'd have to assume he was intrigued or turned on by it at the very least. And honestly, I know plenty of non gay women who watch lesbian porn and plenty of women who watch gay man porn too, and they're not gay men themselves. I know gay men who think lesbian porn is a turn on, and straight porn!

The spectrum of sexuality is broad. Maybe he's bi-curious. Maybe he's not really ever put a label on himself. Maybe this is all he ever wants- to watch it from time to time

It was obviously your husband. I don't think looking at porn is necessarily an issue and watching gay porn doesn't mean he's gay.

I would question why you're married to a homophobe though. That would be enough for me to end my marriage (or not be with him in the first place) let alone exposing child to porn.

I honestly think you need to do something about this, your son's school will take it very seriously if your son tells someone what he saw it will be taken further.

Jesus it doesn't take Hercule Poirot to work this out...

[quote Earmuffsweather]@youvegottenminuteslynn it’s because the firsr time i asked my son he said it was on there already then later he lied and blamed a friend saying so & so told him to serch it
Then he changed his story again and said it was on the ipad when he went on it[/quote]
I'm gonna hazard a guess that your prick of an OH asked him to lie

@beastlyslumber

Jesus it doesn't take Hercule Poirot to work this out...

Pretty much sums it up. Hercule Poirot would be hired first, maybe then Lt. Columbo and then maybe Horatio.🙈🙈😑

The fact is porn was allowed to be looked at on a childs ipad whoever it it was the security ist tight enough

The fact that you're dh holds strong anti-gay views may be because he has same-sex desires that he hides.

Earmuffsweather

I ami just wanted to be certain before i do go to the oh
I do know deep down it was him but i don’t want to break up the family if there was a chance it wasn’t hI’m”

So, you’d rather mess with your (probably traumatised) 8 year old’s head than risk upsetting your OH?

Sorry, lady, but your priorities are seriously fucked up.

Look after your son!

One of the most frequent search terms by boys aged 8-10 is "pretty girls". It is not outside the bounds of possibility that your son stumbled on gay porn whilst clicking through pages arising from such a search.

If you really want to be certain, find the laptop and look at the search history. It's not difficult to do.

In the meantime, you need to stop quizzing your son. If he truly did just open the laptop to find porn on it, then he's been through enough trauma already.

You need to properly investigate what happened before you make any assumptions about your DH or your son.

@PinotPony i found the ipad and search history has been deleted arghh….

[quote Earmuffsweather]@PinotPony i found the ipad and search history has been deleted arghh….[/quote]
Where was it?
I think that'll give a good indication as to who hid it.

Man searches for gay porn on childs iPad and yet again it's down to the woman to sort the situation out, safeguard her child as well as deal with what is obviously the end of her marriage. And posters here are ripping her apart.
Posters telling her to forget her husband's gay porn use and focus on her child and then vilifying her for trying to find out whether the child searched for gay porn. All she is trying to do is establish who searched for it and go from there. I highly doubt she doesn't give a shit about her child's welfare ffs
She knows if it was her H that searched it's over. She knows if it's her child that searched he needs support and gentle conversation. She in own either way the child needs support for whatever he has seen.

She knows all this shit. She doesn't need a kick in the tits from you lot on top. She posted for support.

Fuck men and their entitlement to porn.

If the search history has been deleted, surely that points more to your dh than your child?

Oh for goodness sake of course you know it was your husband. Who else turned off the child filters, then hid the iPad and deleted the history? And who was it years ago??
You know the answer. Your husband left porn on your 8 year olds tablet. That's the actual issue here. Your selfish idiot of a husband has exposed your child to something awful, and he is the priority. Stop excusing this pathetic excuse of a man.

You know the answer to this. Your husband left porn on your child’s device and he left your child to take the blame, with the result that your child of EIGHT now knows what porn is and feels somehow responsible for something he doesn’t understand and knows is wrong. Your husband has taken your child’s innocence away.
You know the truth here, however much you are hoping it’s not true: your husband is a bad man.

Why say the search history has been deleted?
You mean OH deleted the search history.

Lots of focus on the child accidentally seeing gay porn which is quite right but I think I would argue that a father who expresses homophobic views openly is potentially more damaging to a child than an accidental glimpse of gay porn. Especially but not only if the child is gay.

OP you've said nothing about sorting your husband's homophobic views out. Whatever the root cause of them this should be of paramount importance.

@MrsWooster

You know the answer to this. Your husband left porn on your child’s device and he left your child to take the blame, with the result that your child of EIGHT now knows what porn is and feels somehow responsible for something he doesn’t understand and knows is wrong. Your husband has taken your child’s innocence away. You know the truth here, however much you are hoping it’s not true: your husband is a bad man.

I don't think OP is being ripped apart but she does need to get this for the sake of her child, if not for herself.

@gannett

Lots of focus on the child accidentally seeing gay porn which is quite right but I think I would argue that a father who expresses homophobic views openly is potentially more damaging to a child than an accidental glimpse of gay porn. Especially but not only if the child is gay.

OP you've said nothing about sorting your husband's homophobic views out. Whatever the root cause of them this should be of paramount importance.

I think there is more focus on the child accidentally seeing the porn because that it the biggest issue. The son is the person who will need some help here. Not the father. It's not down to OP to fix her DH homophobic views ffs. That's ridiculous. He is a grown assed adult acting like a prick, that is on him and not OP responsibility.

I would have got rid of him immediately and focussed on finding help to support my child. OP is rather bizarrely being a bit wet and passive and trying to find any way possible to not break up her marriage whilst completely ignoring the needs of her child.

I think there is more focus on the child accidentally seeing the porn because that it the biggest issue. The son is the person who will need some help here. Not the father. It's not down to OP to fix her DH homophobic views ffs. That's ridiculous. He is a grown assed adult acting like a prick, that is on him and not OP responsibility.

It is OP's responsibility because her husband's homophobic views will potentially damage his son even more than glimpsing some porn. That IS prioritising her child's needs.

By "sorting out" I don't mean she has to fix them, I mean she has to confront them and consider it a red line, and leave her husband for them.

I've never known a straight man to watch gay porn, so I'd assume he was homosexual. Clicking once by accident fair enough but if you've found it a few times maybe he's bisexual & doesn't want to come out.

[quote Earmuffsweather]@PinotPony i found the ipad and search history has been deleted arghh….[/quote]
You know what this means. If it was your son he would have deleted the evidence and not told you what he'd seen.