Gay porn wwyd

[Earmuffsweather]

If you found out your partner of 10+ years had been watching gay porn ie men on men

[Mamaofaboy]

How has this week gone OP?

[SnarkyMilarky]

OP, Did you end up taking the iPad to get looked at?

[Thisthatandtheotherthing]

Thus may help: if this was on Google chrome on the ipad, go on it and search "my activity". This will display what has been searched even if the browsing history has been deleted.

[PeoplePleaserBe]

I think this might be a classic case of ‘No answer is your answer’.

Hopefully OP will wake up & smell the coffee before it’s too late.

[MissNothing1991]

Well, are you staying with the liar or leaving him?

[PeoplePleaserBe]

www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/our-services/

[MsDogLady]

An atrocity has occurred in your home. Your shock is understandable, but you cannot afford to passively turn away and bury it. Your irresponsible, lying, manipulative Partner abused DS by exposing him to pornography, and he is trying to cover it up.

I think DS changed his story because your repeated questioning suggested to him that his truthful answers did not suit you, so he was embarrassed and deflected elsewhere. It is also possible, as others have surmised, that P has been whispering in his ear.

Although it was crucial that you examined the iPad asap, you left it where P was able to take it and delete the evidence. Please secure the device and take it to a computer shop yourself. If P removes it from the house, he will sabotage any further investigation.

P portrays himself as a vocal homophobe. Yet when his young son viewed male sex, “he wasn’t overly concerned and said he’s bound to see stuff with technology these days but he would put a filter on it.” P downplayed this serious violation of DS because he is responsible and wants you to back off. That is why he is now accusing you of causing drama by searching the videos. He is manipulating you.

What were the videos of, OP?

You want DS “to forget about it,” but that is dangerous thinking. He won’t forget what he saw and does not have the emotional tools to deal with it. There is a reason this is called abuse. Please seek professional support for him.

Your P’s actions harmed your little boy. You must decide if this is a dealbreaker for you. It would be for me.

[Name99]

Hes attempting to continue to gaslight you.
Please see this for exactly as it is.
Does he have form for this not only over porn usage?

[EarthSight]

@Earmuffsweather

Thanks guys for checking in
Im ok just trying to get my head around it
Im not quizzing my son anymore i want him to forget about it.
I found video history and it shows some stuff but theres no dates to it?

I found video history and it shows some stuff but theres no dates to it?

Which browser are you on? Make sure the tablet is always with you and hide it if necessary.

[EarthSight]

[quote Dandy0911]@EarthSight I totally agree.

I would be absolutely MORTIFIED if my little girl was exposed to porn, especially on HER device.

It would be bags packed and off you go out the door for me.

The OP is glossing over her poor son. [/quote]
@Dandy0911 There are so many idiotic parents out there who let their children have their own phones & tablets with open access to the internet. It was different with boomer parents, but there are no excuses with Millennial parents in particular. We know exactly what's online and how easy it is to find it.

[EarthSight]

I've read the rest of your posts. In this situation it might be worth seeing if there are private digital forensic services in your area. Deleting your internet history is nothing - professionals can easily dig that up and maybe do a further search on similar items.

If your husband agrees to it, make sure you pay for it yourself and only you will be able to access whatever they find. I'm not familiar with this area so please be careful and don't approach anyone online to do it which could be very risky.

[Dandy0911]

@EarthSight I totally agree.

I would be absolutely MORTIFIED if my little girl was exposed to porn, especially on HER device.

It would be bags packed and off you go out the door for me.

The OP is glossing over her poor son.

[EarthSight]

@overthethamesfromyou

On your son's tablet???

Yep. What a fucking wanker, in more ways than one.

No wonder kids get exposed to porn. They don't have to wait to be exposed to it by their classmates - their irresponsible, stupid, self-serving, thigh-rubbing fathers are contributing to the problem. Not the first time I've read this happening on Mumsnet.

[Lampzade]

Your partner is lying. End of

[NerrSnerr]

You need to take ownership of the situation.

Can you guarantee that your partner won't expose your son to any kind of porn again? (Clearly not).

Do you want your son growing up with a homophobic man, with his mum who stays with him so clearly must agree on some level (or not disagree too much).

If your son tells school or a friend what he saw on the iPad what will you say to social services if they get in touch?

[youvegottenminuteslynn]

You know he watched it.
You know your child has now seen it.
You know your OH is neglectful, abusive and gaslighting you.
You know your child is clearly upset by the incident.

You do know all this right, OP?

You aren't actually entertaining the possibility he's telling the truth are you?

Because he really, really isn't.

[whywhywhyyydilemma]

It was him, OP.

Stop burying your head in the sand.

[girlmom21]

@Earmuffsweather

He saying im making it up now to cause this drama or i searched them videos
Says he wants to take the ipad to the shop tomorrow to get someone too look at it to find out the search dates & times

Why are you keeping up this whole facade?

You know he watched it.
You know your child has now seen it.
You know your OH is neglectful, abusive and gaslighting you.
You know your child is clearly upset by the incident.

The porn itself is not the problem.

He doesn't care that your child saw the porn he left on the iPad. He's lying to you and trying to convince you it was anyone but him. Presumably like he did the last time?

[Earmuffsweather]

He saying im making it up now to cause this drama or i searched them videos
Says he wants to take the ipad to the shop tomorrow to get someone too look at it to find out the search dates & times

[Earmuffsweather]

Thanks for the input

[lynntheyresexpeople]

[quote Earmuffsweather]@EleanorRedFox thats discusting & shocking[/quote]
Your husband is probably one of them asking! He clearly has no respect or boundaries

[whywhywhyyydilemma]

[quote Earmuffsweather]@whywhywhyyydilemma the reason i was asking my son is because he changed his story saying a kid in school told him to google it..
as for the restrictions I assumed they were child safe as i told my oh to do that when he set up the ipad how was i to know this was going to happen[/quote]
Wonder why your other half didn't end up putting restrictions on it ay? 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔