Gay porn wwyd

[Earmuffsweather]

If you found out your partner of 10+ years had been watching gay porn ie men on men

Thanks guys for checking in
Im ok just trying to get my head around it
Im not quizzing my son anymore i want him to forget about it.
I found video history and it shows some stuff but theres no dates to it?

Can you not put your 'D'P's sexual preferences to the side and focus and protect your son from this!? It seems like you're more concerned about the first!

You've admitted to finding porn a few years ago... now he's blaming an 8 year old child. I would put my life savings on him lying to you.

No ones being mean here, but an 8 year old opening up a tablet to seeing gay porn on his screen is disgusting. I hope your partner bloody wiped it clean after he touched it using it for a wank. I remember seeing it as a child on our family computer (the culprit wasn't in our immediate family in the end) and I'm still scarred from it now.

Please, focus on your poor son!!!

Why are you quizzing your son?

You need to be quizzing your partner. Not your poor son.

God forbid your son coming out as gay when he's older this could all be so damaging to him.

Your partner is lying to you. Leave your son out of it.

The fact that you are not even expressing any outrage about the porn on your son's tablet is now what rings alarm bells for me/
You do know that porn doesn't come from nowhere? An 8 year old doesn't just click on porn FFS. Your husband put it on there.

The fact that he expresses hate for homosexuality is a massive red flag and I would say he is almost certainly gay. Everything else could just be passing curiosity. The phrase, 'alas the lady doth protest too much' comes to mind. The hate thing is the most telling.
You however seem remarkably reticent to go all hell on his ass about the porn on the tablet makes me think you'll just grin and bear it for another few years and let your son take the rap. FFS.

Just to clarify - did your son bring you the tablet over or did you come over to him?

If I were browsing porn and I were a child, if my mum saw me, I'd probably say 'it was there when I opened up the tablet!' - but if he wandered into a different room to show you I'd bet it wasn't him.

Also: have you looked at the search history? Might be easier to see who did it - for example a search like 'boobies on girls' probably more likely a child, but a search for a favourite adult website/performer is more likely to come from an adult.

Just thinking out loud.

I really hope parental controls get put on asap to stop your child seeing anything like that again - regardless of whoever was looking at it originally.

Me? Divorce.

My best friend is a gay man and its pretty disturbing the amount of married (to women) family men who have contacted him wanting a hookup.

@ShoesEverywhere its been deleted
Also his ipad was on the couch
I picked it up for something and when i went online the page was up.
My boy said he seen it on the ipad so clicked on it to see what it was

@EleanorRedFox thats discusting & shocking

I think the fact you're 'quizzing' your poor son over this is even more disgusting and shocking.

You seem to be glazing over any concern for your son.
I hope you also anti bac'd the hell out of that iPad and put some parental controls on it.

Regardless of porn, there should've been some restrictions on there if an 8 year old is using it.

@whywhywhyyydilemma the reason i was asking my son is because he changed his story saying a kid in school told him to google it..
as for the restrictions I assumed they were child safe as i told my oh to do that when he set up the ipad how was i to know this was going to happen

I'm assuming we now know that it wasn't the 8 year old?

This is quite a disturbing read to be honest. The son changing his story suggests the OP's partner has been telling him what to say to her. Also both the OP and her partner are more bothered about the type of porn than the fact a young child has seen it. Watching porn on a child's tablet is just so grim and inappropriate.

If it is true that porn Google searches have been discussed between the son and friend at school, that is a major safeguarding issue which needs reporting to the school's child protection officer.

[quote Earmuffsweather]@EleanorRedFox thats discusting & shocking[/quote]
What's disgusting is that you're quizzing your 8 year old son when you know damn right it was your dh since he watched it years ago too. Keep your head in the sand if you like but leave your ds out of it.

[quote Earmuffsweather]@whywhywhyyydilemma the reason i was asking my son is because he changed his story saying a kid in school told him to google it..
as for the restrictions I assumed they were child safe as i told my oh to do that when he set up the ipad how was i to know this was going to happen[/quote]
Wonder why your other half didn't end up putting restrictions on it ay? 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

[quote Earmuffsweather]@EleanorRedFox thats discusting & shocking[/quote]
Your husband is probably one of them asking! He clearly has no respect or boundaries

Thanks for the input

He saying im making it up now to cause this drama or i searched them videos
Says he wants to take the ipad to the shop tomorrow to get someone too look at it to find out the search dates & times

@Earmuffsweather

He saying im making it up now to cause this drama or i searched them videos Says he wants to take the ipad to the shop tomorrow to get someone too look at it to find out the search dates & times

Why are you keeping up this whole facade?

You know he watched it.
You know your child has now seen it.
You know your OH is neglectful, abusive and gaslighting you.
You know your child is clearly upset by the incident.

The porn itself is not the problem.

He doesn't care that your child saw the porn he left on the iPad. He's lying to you and trying to convince you it was anyone but him. Presumably like he did the last time?

It was him, OP.

Stop burying your head in the sand.

You know he watched it.
You know your child has now seen it.
You know your OH is neglectful, abusive and gaslighting you.
You know your child is clearly upset by the incident.

You do know all this right, OP?

You aren't actually entertaining the possibility he's telling the truth are you?

Because he really, really isn't.

You need to take ownership of the situation.

Can you guarantee that your partner won't expose your son to any kind of porn again? (Clearly not).

Do you want your son growing up with a homophobic man, with his mum who stays with him so clearly must agree on some level (or not disagree too much).

If your son tells school or a friend what he saw on the iPad what will you say to social services if they get in touch?

Your partner is lying. End of

@overthethamesfromyou

On your son's tablet???

Yep. What a fucking wanker, in more ways than one.

No wonder kids get exposed to porn. They don't have to wait to be exposed to it by their classmates - their irresponsible, stupid, self-serving, thigh-rubbing fathers are contributing to the problem. Not the first time I've read this happening on Mumsnet.

@EarthSight I totally agree.

I would be absolutely MORTIFIED if my little girl was exposed to porn, especially on HER device.

It would be bags packed and off you go out the door for me.

The OP is glossing over her poor son.