Gay porn wwyd

[Earmuffsweather]

If you found out your partner of 10+ years had been watching gay porn ie men on men

[Jeffers5]

Also extremely worried about the parental controls.

Have you talked to your son about what he has seen and given him some support?

[CoffeeTopUp]

It could be he is gay or bi. I do think your bigger concern is that he has accessed porn on your child’s tablet. You need that to be your main issue right now. What if your son has watched it? What do you plan to do to safeguard your child?

[Constellationstation]

I found gay porn on my boyfriend’s computer, he persuaded me it was just something he liked looking at. We got married several years later. A year after that we divorced. During the break up he admitted to having had a sexual relationship with one man (I think that’s all he could bear to admit to) who was a mutual friend.
Looking back I believe he’s definitely gay, not bi. He’s now with another woman and they have a child together.

[Constellationstation]

And also an 8 year old should have parental controls on their tablet! So horrible that he’s blamed a child

[Earmuffsweather]

I thought there was child safety on the ipad it was the oh who set them up so he must have removed them.
I have spoke to my child and not sure what else i can do i am devastated he has seen this.

[youvegottenminuteslynn]

Didn't it trouble you that your partner is homophobic? It's not exactly the sign of a decent person.

And now you know he's 100% a liar too.

He's scummy enough he would blame him looking at porn (it doesn't matter what genre) on his child's tablet on that child. On that eight year old child.

He's gross.

[Mammyloveswine]

How old is your son???? I'd be absolutely livid with porn on your sons tablet tbh!!!

I'd Chuck him out based on that alone!

[Fluffypastelslippers]

I have spoke to my child and not sure what else i can do i am devastated he has seen this.

It depends how much and what he has seen. What he has said. What you have said to him.

I would seek professional guidance/advice here tbh.

Mum saying 'oh just ignore the naked men' isn't going to be enough and your son is going to need to process what he has seen somehow.

[whynotwhatknot]

if theere was proper controls on there your son would not have accidentally come across that page

so he either didnt set them up at all and its possible(highly doubtful) or hes a liar

[winterchills]

I would be fuming he left porn on my sons tablet 😡😡

[Mammyloveswine]

Omg your son is 8 and has seen gay porn that your partner left open on his tablet!!!!

Mad fight safeguarding concern and would absolutely be a deal breaker for me!!!!

I'd be asking my son some more questions too tbh! Not about him accessing the porn as I very much doubt an 8 year old has searched gay porn but it being on your Sons tablet and you thinking your partner has been downloading gay porn on your sons tablet would be an absolutely massive red flag!!!

I am honestly aghast!

[AFewSandwichesShortOfAPicnic]

[quote Earmuffsweather]@tarasmalatarocks it was my son who said it was just on there when he turned his tablet on,
Im not sure about searching cookies im not too tech savvy[/quote]
You don't need to be tech savvy and you're going to hand a child their own online device it's the parents responsibility to keep their children safe and if they don't know then they should be educating themselves using the many resources available, there's guides online, there's YouTube videos with step by step tutorials and there's always forums and stuff to ask before handing the child the device. And then the device should be checked regularly if used unsupervised to make sure the content the child is accessing isn't inappropriate. If you still don't feel able to do that then you can ask someone else to set it up. If his dad lied to you and said he was doing all that while doing the opposite he'd be out the door. A child shouldn't be able to accidentally click on any porn if the parents have been responsible and had parental controls and supervised them online.

This would be marriage ending for me. It really would. There's no excuse at all for putting porn on a child's device. Nobody needs to be watching open so desperately that they use their child's device and expose them to it.

Now you know that his father puts his wanking wants above his child's online safety the first thing I'd be doing is taking the device off the child and looking up how to check the files and browsing history to make sure there's no other adult only content on there. I'd actually back up any homework and then reset it the whole thing the factory settings. Then maximum parental controls turned on and a password to unlock every time that only you know. When the child wants to use it he asks you to unlock it and you enter the password yourself.

Dad doesn't ever get to use the device from now on and you don't tell him the password. You shouldn't have to do all this but if you're going to stay with him, he's already shown he can't be trusted with the device and if he wants to blame his child then him not having access to it means he can't be accused.

If you tell us the device posters can help with how to check files and history etc.

[cheshirebloke]

How much straight porn does he watch?

[Earmuffsweather]

@Mammyloveswine what questions do u recconmend
My head is all over the place i do t want to over react too much to my little one incase he shuts down thinking hes in trouble
I know i need to handle this sensitively

[Fluffypastelslippers]

[quote Earmuffsweather]@Mammyloveswine what questions do u recconmend
My head is all over the place i do t want to over react too much to my little one incase he shuts down thinking hes in trouble
I know i need to handle this sensitively[/quote]

Get professional advice.

[courtrai]

Have a google of 'men who have sex with men'. I'm not going to pretend I know an awful lot but have a distinctly closeted ExH. It's very much a known thing. They (the men concerned) don't necessarily identify as anything other than heterosexual

[Rainbowheart1]

Wouldn’t make me assume his gay at all. There’s a difference in watching porn and acting it out.

[Rainbowheart1]

Also way more likely to be your OH than your son accidentally clicking on something.

Your OH is lying.

[TheVolturi]

Why are you not more worried that your child has been exposed to porn?
Why are there no parental controls on your sons ipad?

[LJenn]

Uses his 8-year-olds tablet to watch porn and then uses him as a scape goat???? What the actual F???? Jesus that's concerning in more ways than one😶

[RockinHorseShit]

Just be aware that some 8/9 year olds can & do look at porn & share it too. They are definitely curious at this age. This happened with DDs friends & she was horrified & very angry that some of the boys started sending porn to a chat group gay porn was popular too.
I then started getting dodgy links from one of the boys mums email addresses, which I thought gave me an opening to let her know what her son was doing... she refused point blank to believe her "sweet boy" would do such a thing & it was accidental.


Just be absolutely sure before making this the hill your Marriage dies on

[rwalker]

Realistically who would hold there hands up that .
some men aren't attracted to men but just like cock.

[fairynick]

I’m a straight woman and love watching lesbian porn. It’s honestly not that deep.
I’d be fuming about him watching it on DCs device though.

[Myusernameisnotmyusernameno]

I was going to say speak to him about it but since I read it was on your sons tablet that would be the problem for me not the gay porn in general. As it is and as a heterosexual women I would find the idea of another woman a turn on but definitely not gay myself. Maybe that's where he's coming from. The tablet is a whole other issue and one you need to address.

[Buildingthefuture]

I wouldn’t be bothered about him watching porn, or even the genre of porn particularly. People have fantasies about all sorts that they would never even want to act out in real life. I would however take massive issue with him watching it on a CHILDS device, being STUPID enough to leave it on there, then lying about it. Frankly, it takes a massive wanker to blame an 8 year old.
BUT…..kids do do this shit, they share, view and post crap I would NEVER have dreamed of as a child, they are also, in my experience, very tech savvy, so how hard is it really to remove parental controls?? I would make sure this is a hill worth dying on…..it might be worth a very gentle conversation with your son to be 100% entirely sure it wasn’t him…..