Dating thread 214 - the no rules one!

[BelladiMamma]

Here are the only rules what matter!

As for anything else OLD not listed here - make your own ❤️

Three minute voice note from MrActor. Right at the end .. 'how's you?'

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yes, not a love match but Such Fun

@BelladiMamma what's stopping you chasing things with Mr Actor? You sound like you get the attention whereas he seems to have won your attention? Why not pursue this?

So ..i dipped into FB dating

Why oh why do 26 yr olds go on there and like 50 yr old women?? I have children older than that

And @BelladiMamma yes why not???

Just tried feeld, but I think it's not for me! 18 year old looking for 3 way is the first person to come up! I have deleted and run away...

@Sugaspunsista @Eesha

Well. For many reasons but mainly my DD still living at home I don't want a serious relationship where someone might want to come and stay or meet family. I'm not averse to the whole meeting friends and family thing, once I've been seeing someone for a while it's hard to avoid anyway as I have a busy social life with family and friends.

I don't want the disruption to my DD. I want to process the trauma of what my ex put me through. And I want to avoid the situation where my DD has to lie about my private life to my ex, as he tried to stop me from seeing other people as part of the financial settlement. I don't want to go back to court of out my financial security at risk.

I've also been with actors and well, they travel a lot. They meet lots of beautiful people all the time. They love, want and need attention. Pretty challenging mix in terms of someone to have a relationship with.

But honestly if he was giving me relationship signals I'd probably either: run a mile or feel very conflicted because of the above.

Once DD is 18 and the major part of my financial security is assured, I will be in relationship territory again & I'd be jumping in feet first with this one.

@hotdogsjumpingfrogs

Just tried feeld, but I think it's not for me! 18 year old looking for 3 way is the first person to come up! I have deleted and run away...

I've ignored all them and deleted them as soon as they come up. Only sensible adults allowed!!

@BelladiMamma that all makes perfect sense. I can't believe in this fast and a court would entertain a financial settlement that disallows you to continue with your life!!

[quote Sugaspunsista]@BelladiMamma that all makes perfect sense. I can't believe in this fast and a court would entertain a financial settlement that disallows you to continue with your life!![/quote]
The judge threw it out thank god, but the net effect is that ex remains way too interested in my private life and it's just stress that none of us need. And it makes me super anxious that he'll use anything as an excuse not to make the payments.

True to his name, Mr Slow Texter whatsapped me a "how's things?" message last night.

Things fizzled out between us and I'd actually kind of forgotten about him. I told him I'm stepping back from dating for a while but wished him well. I'll probably get a response from him in about 2 weeks based on his usual response rate 🤣

We had a really good date zero and there was definite potential. However, his super slow responses weren't doing it for me. I was his first ever OLD match or meetup, and I think he wanted to see what was out there so benched me.

Fair enough I suppose, but meanwhile I had Mr Breadcrumbs going on in the background. And even if that fizzles out into nothing in the end, I want to carry on exploring it for a bit and it doesn't feel right to use someone else as a plan B.

If it all goes tits up with Mr Breadcrumbs I will definitely need some space just for me, and won't want to leap into a new relationship.

I feel like I've done the right thing. I needed more enthusiasm from him and it just wasn't forthcoming.

@Languidleopard i hate it when you are the one doing all the legwork.... sounds like a good decision to me

@Languidleopard yes that's a really hopeless pace. So hard to build anything on very little communication unless you're also meeting regularly.

Text from MrHedgehog with selfie of him out with a mate in Germany. No cuddly creatures to be seen

Messaging a guy who looks like MrC I fancy the look of him familiar and all that

Too much totty I love them ALL

@SpringlikeBunk

Too much totty I love them ALL

Wow...really?? Where?

@SpringlikeBunk this is good 😁

Get the positivity going and the meets ticked off ✔️

Might have blown it with MrC lookalike, he asked what I liked doing and I said “chocolate and handsome men called X” . X is his name.

Some nights, you’re targeted by creeps. Some nights, YOU are the creep

He replied “you can have both” and I replied with this gif:

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That's hilarious! I will try to ape your super cool moves. I am way too coy

@hotdogsjumpingfrogs

I’ve had precisely zero serious serious relationship over the last few years, can’t think why that is with my super flirting methods!

Dashing captain wants my number, burner phone I think.

No response to my sleazy- fluffy-dog-bear chat

I don't quite get gifs 🙈

Just had a message from a right charmer on Bumble.

His fantastic opening shot was 'took your time to message.'

He obviously thinks he's something special 😳

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

Just had a message from a right charmer on Bumble.

His fantastic opening shot was 'took your time to message.'

He obviously thinks he's something special 😳

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards 🙄

Oh dear. He sounds like hard work already. A passive aggressive first message is definitely not a good look.