What on earth do I bloody do? 😢😢😢😢

[Moanyponey]

Was at at meeting out of town today, went for lunch in a wine bar with a girl friend and whilst there saw my father in law with another woman. We were on the balcony looking down and father - in-law was below us defiantly lovey-dovey 'arms around her' with another woman😬.. He was supposed to be in a meeting in another town. Feeling so sick 😢

Haven't told my husband anything 😢 my mum in law is lovely and treats me like a daughter

God! I feel so sick 😥

Tell your husband. Get him to tell his mother

Tell DH, or text FiL directly and tell him what you saw

I would tell them, did you get a picture?

God! What a mess!

Oh fuck
I’ll get shot down for this
But I’d sleep on it and do nothing for a while
(A) the messenger gets shot
(B) maybe your MIL knows
(C) it’s likely to devastate two people you know and care about

Others will disagree

But why should his cheating mess up your life and relationships
So for now I’d store it away

And you might decide to disclose later down the line

That’s a really terrible position to be in. Firstly do you feel able to tell your Dh - they are his parents so the decision lies with him ultimately. He’s so stupid - out in public - he must know someone would see him !.

No I didn't get a picture.. I was just so shocked! I am still shaking!

Honestly I would just forget I saw anything. Envolving yourself will not end well.

Tell fil you saw him, leave it to him to decide what to do.

Wait or create a chance to get FiL alone, give him a deadline that you will be telling DH in seven days and suggest FiL tells first.

It's none of your business, stay out of it. Speak to the father in law quietly when you next see him if you want and put the shits up him

Would your DH be level headed? Or is he likely to go straight round to challenge his dad. It’s so unfair that you are left feeling this way.

My husband has not been well lately (early hip replacement) and he is just getting back on his feet😢 we are due to go on holiday in scotland next week for 5 days with his parents we haven't been away for a good few years and we are so looking forward to it! What the hell do I do? God I wish I never saw this! 😥

If you say anything to anyone I would speak to FiL in private and explain what happened. Just be absolutely honest - say you saw and you feel uncomfortable at the position it has put you in.

I genuinely don’t know what to advise..very tricky! What were they doing to be certain it was a relationship meeting rather than friend meeting?

I would tell my husband. You’re not making assumptions. Just say what you saw… his dad with a woman in the wine bar.

I think by not saying anything to your DH you’re lying by omission.

I wouldn’t do anything and would try to forget I’d ever seen it :(

Awful situation to be in.

First priority then is your DH, what would you expect him to do in the same dilemma? Did your mate see?

Leave well alone. Nothing good can come of stirring this up. You don’t know the circumstances and it’s none of your business anyway. Just forget the whole thing.

Go on holiday and pretend all is well. Tell nobody.

Don't say anything to your DH atm.

Tell your FIL privately that you saw him. MIL may or may not be aware. Get the low down from FIL before you decide how to proceed.

This could destroy MIL, so it may be best to keep this from her forever, and the few people who know the better

It could be that DH knows and MiL doesn't. So you need to speak to FIL.

I couldn't withhold something like that from my husband. We promised to always be honest with each other and I couldn't look him in the eye if I kept something like that from him.

I would be really upset if the tables were turned and he kept it from me, and I know he would feel the same.

Your FIL is the one in the wrong here. You become part of the lie if you keep quiet, surely?

I think by not saying anything to your DH you’re lying by omission.

Not at all! Don't dump this in your DH's lap, it puts him in a horrible position. It's none of your business, just stay out of it.