Dating thread 213 - falling into Autumn leaves

[BelladiMamma]

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@WeWantTheFinestWines well that's ridiculously inconsiderate of him, that's a red flag straight away for not being available to me when I demand it 🚩

@WeWantTheFinestWines

I work in healthcare and to me it means patient. Seemed unlikely. So I ended up with physio...

Me too

Evening all 🙂

Second date pencilled in with Mr Slow Texter for early next week. Still not sure about him, good date zero but subsequent communication has been slow, dry and lacking in any momentum. His lack of enthusiasm is a little off putting.

Also going to the theatre with Mr Breadcrumbs late next week, but it isn't a date as he doesn't want a relationship. Frustratingly, communicates very enthusiastically and we get on like a house on fire. Things have got physical but we haven't actually DTD.

I think that sums things up for me right now.

@VanGoghsDog @WeWantTheFinestWines I study HR... it definitely means part time to me 😀❤️😘

Hey gang!!

I'm here, burning the candle at both ends this week but I'm determined to have fun and not think of Mr HT.

Mr Young was just here, such a cute young chat who's a total sweetheart.

I'm meeting a new iron for a wee drink tomorrow- I'll name him Mr Straight up

I am having a lovely time chatting to Mr Babs - who is nice, hopefully meet soon but our schedules aren't great

Bumble is like the table with all the ex girlfriends in 4 Weddings and a Funeral. Thought I'd unsnooze and see what's out there. Three (3) previous dates. That's what's out there. Mr Music, who I kissed but didn't fancy. Mr Nuclear, who was dull. And a very local tall man who only spoke about himself throughout the entire date. Don't think I even got as far as naming him. His profile says he's lonely. That's probably because he doesn't understand how a conversation works. I don't mind people hogging the floor a bit if they're funny, or tell interesting stories, but he talked at great length about his mum's GP. Needless to say, I'm right back to snoozing again.

Lol @WeWantTheFinestWines agreed - I see the same faces popping up and realise I'm one of them too

New city new supply of creeps and degenerates for me, hope y'all jealous

I can't sleep tonight, which is ridiculous as I'm knackered. My mind keeps going round in circles thinking this dinner with Mr Cricket could go horribly wrong, or it could go well. Then I keep thinking I should cancel but I can't take back the offer now. Then I get all excited about cooking for someone and start thinking what I could make. Then I think oh god I'm going to have someone round and will have to go on a massive cleaning spree. Then I think it's only going to be me and him, wtf am I doing it could go horribly wrong. Then I'm back to the beginning. If I'm still awake at 4am I might go to the gym to try and get my head together🤦‍♀️😂.

@Misty9 thanks for asking. Yes my guy called but i dudnt pick up as was out having dinner . Then he messaged me saying he was sorry about last night.

Oh do go away @Munknown90 you are clearly an antagonist....

@Munknown90

I'm most certainly not I was about to give some advice from my perspective save you all the time of being used and manipulated

Why should we care about your perspective?

Has anyone reported the time waster yet?

@Isitreallyme177 oh you’re like me! Be calm it’ll be great, really no need to get your knickers in such a twist! A cleaning spree is always a good think for your mental health as well get some tunes on while you get to work. And perhaps before the dinner have a small(ish) glass of wine take the edge of a bit. Usually the ‘events’ we worry over happen so smoothly and you realise what a waste worrying was. He likes your company just be careful because this over-thinking seems to signal you’d still like more than a friendship whereas yesterday you were relatively calm and happy with moving forward as friends. What are you thinking of cooking? I cannot cook to save my life! Haha!

@Naimee87 as predicted I was awake at 4am but I read the mail online in bed instead . Haven't a clue what to cook, will get my trusty Jamie Oliver books out later and must check if there is anything he doesn't eat. I half expected him to say no so him saying yes have thrown me a bit lol. I've got pudding sorted at least. But this is the first time I'm having someone other than family over to my flat for dinner. In fact I've not really had anyone other than family to my flat in general due to my ex lodger never going out. I'm quite excited.

[quote Isitreallyme177]@Naimee87 as predicted I was awake at 4am but I read the mail online in bed instead . Haven't a clue what to cook, will get my trusty Jamie Oliver books out later and must check if there is anything he doesn't eat. I half expected him to say no so him saying yes have thrown me a bit lol. I've got pudding sorted at least. But this is the first time I'm having someone other than family over to my flat for dinner. In fact I've not really had anyone other than family to my flat in general due to my ex lodger never going out. I'm quite excited.[/quote]
Pick something you can leave in slow cooker or oven .. that way it doesnt matter if he's a bit late and you can go for a bath or chill with a glass of wine before arrives and have all the pots already tidied away

@WeWantTheFinestWines I'm always surprised at the number of profiles with people saying that they're lonely - clearly absolutely no clue how unappealing it would be to swipe right on that.

Had a great 'sensible chat' with Mr Wildcard last night ahead of tomorrow's date zero. Sort of cards on table kind of thing. I admitted that although I know it's more healthy to chat sporadically rather than in an obsessive all-the-time kind of way, and I'm looking for someone to NOT bombard me and tell me I'm the best thing since sliced bread after 5 minutes and how they haven't felt this way in 20 years, etc... on the other hand because I'm never happy I find myself thinking WHY ISN'T HE TEXTING ME MORE GODDAMMIT. Why does the thing that is by common agreement a much healthier way to conduct yourself the very thing that leaves me anxious and wanting more? . Anyway - plans now made, I feel a lot calmer. He made all the right noises, was totally chilled about our meet despite the fact we'd ratcheted things up into the sexty category during previous chats, and I am now tentatively excited. Just need my sleep to behave now - three nights of ridiculous interrupted sleep... waking at 1am, 3am and again at 5.30am..

Hello people, I would like to join you, I have been following u since thread 100 something . Been old a few months, I have 2 irons in the fire. Still to arrange a date with 1 of them so no name yet, but he lives super close and seems nice. And the second one, I am naming him MrYellow. Had a few dates with him, it's a slow burner situation which I like because intensity makes me feel sick and it hasn't worked for me in the past. I am looking for your opinions on an issue that has come up. Mr Yellow and I exchange messages/speak on the phone every day, even if its one message to check in and it was working for me. We are both single parents with full time jobs and limited free time. We have met 3 times in the 6 weeks since we matched. So, this Saturday he had a stressful situation going on and I didn't hear from him until Tuesday. Now, I don't have an issue with not talking every day, I think it would be the natural progression if things developed. But, I felt disappointed by this because of the timing. He had to cancel our date last minute on Saturday because of this issue. And this issue we talked about in length previously and I actually got worried when i didn't hear from him. I like this man, we communicate well and this has knocked me back. He has since texted to apologise and I have also told him how I feel about it. So now what? xx

Hi @Summerdress. Hmm, what was so time consuming that he couldn't have sent you a little update? Have you set another date yet? Do you think he's cooling off and using the 'issue' as an excuse? I guess you give him a second chance if you really like him. If it happens again then that's a big red flag.

Thank you for your reply @Walkingalot . The issue was related to his children. He said in his apology that he spent Sunday tending to them and that on Monday morning he had to travel for work and wasn't back since the morning hours of Tuesday. He could have found a minute to text, he even said it himself in his apology!

@Dropdeadfred2 oooh I hadn't thought about that, the Hairy Bikers do a Spanish chicken tray bake where everything including the potatoes go in the same tray in the oven. Just the thought of cooking properly is getting me excited. I'm never happier than I am in the kitchen (music on, singing and dancing badly).