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To think maybe this is not normal

681 replies

Poppy298 · 12/09/2021 12:45

Long story short I’ve been noticing things that make me feel my relationship is not right. We have been together a long time but these little things have been getting worse. I don’t know if I’m genuinely to blame or if this isn’t normal.
So for example we don’t live together he asks me to do his food shopping (he works full time and me part time) so I am ok with that but if I can’t do it the day and hour he wants it he goes off on one. Today is another example I said I would drop the food shopping off at his work as he’s finishing earlier but his home and work is 30 min from me and I was going food shopping early so I said I would drop it at his work. He was ok with this. He then asked me to call him a taxi as he is working later now so that he could drop his food at his house and go back to work. I booked one online to be dispatched ASAP and taxis in the area were really busy and it took longer than expected. He then rang me to say it’s all my fault he will be late back to work because I should have waited around to take him back home on his lunch break so he wasn’t relying on taxis. He is now not speaking to me. Another thing is I went to collect him some new release trainers I got to the shop as soon as they opened especially so i got them in time, he then asked me to drive to his work (a further 25 minutes) and drop them off. I said I couldn’t do that and I would drop them off on Sunday (today) which I did. He is now telling me if the size is wrong and it doesn’t fit he wants the money off me for the shoes because all pairs have sold out now and if I’d have dropped them off on the day I bought them it wouldn’t have been a problem. He is so angry when he says all this and insults me at the same time. These are just little examples but they happen every day. I have to apologise all the time but I genuinely don’t think I’ve done wrong?

OP posts:
Queenie6655 · 29/09/2021 10:01

@Poppy298

Hi everyone. Just an update as I’ve been quiet for a while. I’ve changed my number. He rang on no caller id which I wouldn’t normally answer but I was expecting a call from another person who said it might come through as unknown. Anyway once I was on the phone he said he was going to make me blind in both eyes and then I’d see who he truly was and that was my “final warning” Needless to say I have sought appropriate action as a result of that and I am completely fine. Just glad now I am rid
This is truly shocking Well done OP for getting away

So sorry

Jux · 29/09/2021 11:37

Just seen your update. You poor thing, how horrible Flowers

Glad to read that you're safe, and hope that continues. Thinking of you, keep going, and keep posting if you need to.

Crikeyalmighty · 29/09/2021 12:44

These really are the comments of an undereducated loser Poppy. It’s all a bit ‘take a break’ You are well rid.

babouchette · 29/09/2021 12:47

Oh my god. How horrible. This makes me worry he's planning to throw acid in your face or something. I hope the police have spoken to him. He is clearly unhinged and dangerous.

ArabellaScott · 30/09/2021 14:26

Christ, OP. I'm so very sorry. I hope you pursue this fucking arsehole vigorously through the proper channels. Bullying bastard.

Loubiemoo · 02/10/2021 15:39

Just seen your update, Hope you’re ok? I hope the police are able to charge him.

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