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[buttercup1001]

Hi my partner of 2/3 years put his hands round my throat 3 weeks ago couldn't breathe for about 15 seconds and he let go.ive since had trouble/ pain in my throat and heartburn alot plus I have become forgettable can these symptoms be due to this or would the symptoms have dissapeared by now?

Thank you for the thread and advice.im phoning the drs today due to having a infection anyway i now had something else in my head because it's been happening for 2 days now like thrush so I am going to book a appointment today and mention my throat to well I'm there.i did think i have caught something of him but he's fine I'm so tired I feel like crying every five mins I've been awake most of the night with abdominal pains and this burning etc I will keep u updated he's still here but acting all nice. So my play of action is when I take my son to school call the drs when I get bk and book a appointment.and then I'm going to make out I have my son tonight so he can't come up and gradually do it that way .

Of course you’ve caught something from him, sounds exactly like an STI and why wouldn’t he give you one? He won’t be faithful to you and he absolutely does not love yiy. ‘He’s fine’ is laughable. He clearly is not fine in any way.

Grow up and start acting like a Mother, at first this post was so sad but now it is just frustrating and embarrassing. Block contact with this waste of space and you might suddenly find your anxiety and depression disappears too!!!!

He hasn't got any symptoms tho is it still possible .I've never had anything like this I'm a clean person very sensible with things like that.im going to book drs when I get bk from the school run first thing this morning.

@buttercup1001

He hasn't got any symptoms tho is it still possible .I've never had anything like this I'm a clean person very sensible with things like that.im going to book drs when I get bk from the school run first thing this morning.

Yes, some STIs don't show in the same way in both partners. Some are more likely to have symptoms in women than men. He could pass on something to you without experiencing issues himself or them being so mild he can ignore them. Eg Chlamydia.

Have you done anything about getting the coil or depo?

So he is in the house when your son is dropped off?!!

Does your son's father know your partner is in the house when he drops him off?

No my partner goes early in the morning then comes bk once I've dropped him off he's never here with my son that's one rule I have always stuck to.im going to book appointment today first thing .

@buttercup1001

No my partner goes early in the morning then comes bk once I've dropped him off he's never here with my son that's one rule I have always stuck to.im going to book appointment today first thing .

Most doctors you need to call at 8 to get at appointment. If they initially say you've missed out then tell them it's an emergency and that you're being abused at home so need to see them as soon as possible. You can ring from outside the school right after you drop him off as then your boyfriend won't be around.

The other thing you could do is go to a sexual health clinic

As you are symptomatic you will be seen asap
While you are there , ask for some safeguarding support and they will take it from there
You really need to wake up lovely
Your son is an innocent child
This man is an absolute waste of space
Choose well

Social services will at some point, or someone will not believe he has no contact with your son and you will lose him altogether. That is your future. And that's being positive. You will not be in trouble with authorities for seeking help. You will get in to trouble for staying with him. When you see the Dr today tell them what's going on. It's private and you are in a safe environment. Ask for help to get away from this monster. If you fail to act it will one day be too late. What are you waiting for? You are on the edge of the cliff right now with your son in your arms. Don't fall off.

For pity’s sake please make today the day you take a step closer towards your future as a mother and leave this man. Even just in this thread we can all feel he’s getting close to another episode of rage

If you keep waiting trust me it will be taken out of your hands and then you will wish you could turn the clock back.

Please speak honestly to your doctor today

@buttercup1001

He hasn't got any symptoms tho is it still possible .I've never had anything like this I'm a clean person very sensible with things like that.im going to book drs when I get bk from the school run first thing this morning.

Why do you need to do it when you get back from the school run? Then something else will get in the way, and next minute your partner will be back at your house. Do it as soon as your son has gone in to school! You have your phone with you don't you?!

How does he know when you've dropped him off? Is he watching you OP?

You are totally kidding yourself if you think you are going to inch him out of your life and that you are in control here.

You said he was being nice yesterday, he is noticing change that's why. You need to take control off him by going to the police and getting him out. That is the only safe option

OP you need to try and face reality before it gets worse, you are seeing a professional today who can help- speak to them - good luck

He listened to my conversation with my female friend he whatsspped me and said why you talking to her etc acting paranoid.now he's seen I've been on whastapp and said y am I so long I've had to buy sausages rolls from y nearest Greggs to prove I was there when I was ringing gp.

Did you get an appointment booked?

How does he know how long you are taking unless he is already at your house?!

Does he just hide in the bedroom whilst your son is dropped off?!!

This is like some sort of horror film, how the hell does he know how long you are taking and your movements to this extent unless he is there when your son is there?
Whereabouts is the hostel he supposed to be living in?

He is just upstairs in bed isn't he?😔oh God

He's there all the time isn't he OP? which is the real reason why you are frightened to get outside agencies involved.

FGS OP face the reality of the danger you are in AND ARE PUTTING YOUR SON IN before it is too late !

Ah so he is there when your son is there. Just a matter of time before he introduces his crackhead self to a frightened little six year old boy.

I really hope you booked the doctors appointment for today and that you're honest with them.

Stop worrying about whether social services will be cross with you and start focusing on the fact their priority is to help you to keep your son safe.

His welfare should be your priority if you love him like you say you do. So you need to cooperate fully with the police and social services to remove this man from your life as safely as possible.

The most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when the victim tries to end the relationship. Which is why you cannot do it without police help.

This talk of phasing him out... it's madness. Absolutely madness. He won't go quietly and that's why it needs to be the authorities who remove him and put steps in place to keep you and your son safe.

If I was your sons ex and found out you'd moved this abusive drug addict into your home, the home my child visits, I would be calling social services and going straight to court to request you had no more access.

Far better for YOU to make the initial calls to SS and police so they know you're serious and genuinely want him gone and your son safe.

At the very least OP, your son is going to see him sooner or later and tell his dad. And as youvegotminuteslynn rightly says, Social Services will be in agreement that YOU are a danger for your failure to safeguard your son.

ter he kills / seriously injures one or both of you

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Either that or he kills or seriously injures one or both of you.

So you are just outright lying, to everybody in your life who is trying to keep your son safe?

You haven't made a doctor's appointment either have you?

This is disgusting. If you don't care about your own welfare that's one thing, but your six old child is in a house with a crack-addled violent psychopath who as openly threatened to "go mad at the cheeky little bastard"?!!