Conversation with bf about sexual partners

[BonneMaman15]

So last night bf of 8 months & I were chatting over text & he asked how many sexual partners I've had. I was surprised by the question, so I just replied with a 😂, and he said "that means a lot"
I then asked "you?" & he said "I asked you first etc"
I didn't respond, so a few mins later he texted "still counting?"
I just replied with "2"
Him : I think you missed the 3 before the 2
Me: 😲 No. Less than that.
Him: It must be too many to admit too .......oh dear 🙈🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃

No further texting as it was a pointless conversation from my point of view, but then, the baffling part, he didn't text goodnight & good morning which he always does without fail (I did). Tried calling today during his lunch break, he didn't answer. Texted "are you ok?" No response, but messages read.

What the heck is going on here?!?

It's only his business if you want it to be. And why's he so bothered? If it's some nonsense sexist shite, you're better off single anyway.

My last boyfriend and current boyfriend haven't asked, because it's none of their business as long as I'm healthy.
Plus I can't bloody remember, but it's a hell of a lot more than either of them put together

I've never discussed this even when young with partners.

What's the point. There is no point.

No good come from sharing numbers.
Looks like he thinks it’s a red flag issue and is ghosting you.

How many is too many to admit to? ( and according to whom?). Don’t get into a debate where you try and persuade him that “ it’s not that many”. It’s none of his business… you gave him a number and he didn’t believe you anyway so he’s obviously made his mind up and has ghosted you. Sorry OP.

What a creep.

He’s a sexist controlling douchebag and he’s punishing you for not answering him and not being apologetic.

If he crawls back, dump with impunity.

I'd be running for the fucking hills....

He’s an arsehole that’s what’s going on. A jealous one that’s showing you zero respect. Don’t chase this child.

Him: It must be too many to admit too .......oh dear 🙈🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃

None of his business. The silent treatment is designed to control you. This guy has issues.

I told my now husband hundreds when he asked me. None of his business.

How old is he? Very immature question. Block him. What a prat.

Never ever have this conversation with a man. Even as a joke.

It never ends well.

Wow, wtf. Sounds like this may go the way of him being a controlling sort who is setting you up to feel you need to continuously prove your innocence/purity/loyalty going forwards. So that you will focus on trying to prove yourself rather than the fact that he is a total knob.

It's a red flag one way or another op.

The answer to the question “how many sexual partners have you had?” is “today?”

'Today?' Excellent response! 🤣

So what if it was 32. Or 10. Who cares! It’s fuck all to do with him. So why’s he even asking. If he’s afraid of STDs you can both get tested. Well you could prior to covid, not sure about now.

Something not right with him. It’s like he’s calling you a slag because you’ve (in his head) had multiple sexual partners.

I’d be putting my running shoes on as it may be time to head for the hills..,

There is only one reason a guy would ask this, and its all about insecurity. It's nobody's business, and you are on a hiding to nothing by answering it.
He's already imagined in his mind how many. If you confirmed it was lots he'd end it, if you said a lower number he'd treat you as lying and end it - which is what he has done. Can you see it was always a lose/lose situation he put you in. He's a jerk. If anyone ever asks you this in future ( I'm 50, and nobody ever has). The correct answer is " non of your business".

He's possibly been showing you the decent boyfriend mask and now it's slipping

Your now supposed to take the punishment beating chase him and apologise
For your many transgressions. Don't get involved step off this particular merry go round, it won't end well. Block and delete lovely seriously

The answer to this is irrelevant. What's important is that you have both either had STD checks anor you are using protection. That's his business, not how many people you've slept with before him.

I would take those emojis and the fact that he hasn't texted when he usually would to mean that he's dumped you, in a particularly childish and revolting manner.

Which, while hurtful now, has done you a huge favour, nasty little toad that he is.

Never, ever give a serious answer to that question. It's no-one's business but your own and in my experience, the only people that ask it are seriously insecure and usually dreadfully prudish where other people's sex lives are concerned.

*and/or

He thinks you've lied to and has got it into his head you've banged all sorts.

@User135644

He thinks you've lied to and has got it into his head you've banged all sorts.

Or he wants you to think he thinks this so that you start desperately trying to prove it isn't true.

Is the answer actually 2 or have you lied?
If he believes you've lied, maybe he's pissed off at that, but there was no answer that wouldn't have caused this reaction IMO.
He needs to grow up.