Conversation with bf about sexual partners

[BonneMaman15]

So last night bf of 8 months & I were chatting over text & he asked how many sexual partners I've had. I was surprised by the question, so I just replied with a 😂, and he said "that means a lot"
I then asked "you?" & he said "I asked you first etc"
I didn't respond, so a few mins later he texted "still counting?"
I just replied with "2"
Him : I think you missed the 3 before the 2
Me: 😲 No. Less than that.
Him: It must be too many to admit too .......oh dear 🙈🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃

No further texting as it was a pointless conversation from my point of view, but then, the baffling part, he didn't text goodnight & good morning which he always does without fail (I did). Tried calling today during his lunch break, he didn't answer. Texted "are you ok?" No response, but messages read.

What the heck is going on here?!?

She is entitled to lie though, its none of his buisness. Also, how the hell would he know..
unless he has been stalking her for years xD

@SStopRaisingHim

He’s an arsehole that’s what’s going on. A jealous one that’s showing you zero respect. Don’t chase this child.

Him: It must be too many to admit too .......oh dear 🙈🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃

Exactly! Do not contact him again & only speak to him if he comes armed with a HUGE apology!

@girlmom21

Is the answer actually 2 or have you lied? If he believes you've lied, maybe he's pissed off at that, but there was no answer that wouldn't have caused this reaction IMO. He needs to grow up.

It’s no one’s blooming business.

She is entitled to lie though, its none of his buisness

That doesn't make it ok to lie, it just makes it ok to say 'it's none none of your business'

He's convinced himself that you've had 32 sexual partners. He's sexist and doesn't like it.

Or like a pp said, he wants you to think having a lot of sexual partners is wrong and he thinks you have had a lot. He wants you to be eternally grateful for him choosing you.

I think a white lie fine there too.
As long as its fudging it a little and not three basketball teams worth.

I think I'd have said (and have said) I don't feel comfortable either of us sharing numbers but it's nothing out of the ordinary. Seems to shut them up apart from one guy who followed up with "I want to know how many and their skin colour" with which I obviously blocked him.

I think by saying 2 you've made it a bit awkward.

He sounds like a total dick anyway so at least you found that out now.

You are well out of that one. Block immediately.

Never ever have this conversation ever again. All the possible answers are wrong.

@Pinkbonbon

I think a white lie fine there too. As long as its fudging it a little and not three basketball teams worth.

Why? It’s absolutely none of his business.

I agree. I'm just replying to the poster that said it wouldn't be ok to lie. I think its perfectly fine to lie in this scenario if you want. Though preferable to go with 'none of your business'.

My partner of 15 years doesn't know how many people I've slept with. I don't want to know how many he has. No-one's business but those involved at the time.

As long as its fudging it a little and not three basketball teams worth.

So what if it is, it's still none of his business.

What’s happening is, he’s exposed himself for the misogynist he is.

I’d be out of there quicker than David Cameron when he lost the Brexit vote.

If a male in my life asked me this I'd be quick to tell him it's absolutely fuck all to do with him.

Totally agree with others that he's sexist and being immature. Definitely do not chase this one just in case you catch him.

He sounds awful. That would be it for me.

Rude and stupid of him to ask and his subsequent behaviour is making things worse. It would appear an insecure boy has emerged.

Dp of over a decade has never asked this. I've never asked him, I don't think. I think he'd prefer to think my dcs were immaculate conception but he's never made any thing of it so there we go.

Yours sounds like an insecure bell end. Ignore him.

I would stop chasing him, OP, as it will just feed into his aggrieved mindset. You have nothing to apologise for. He does for asking and then for calling you a liar and then for having a tantrum.

Your boyfriend is being a misogynistic A* hole thats whats going on

Oh god op. If he does start talking to you again I hope you don’t continue the relationship!

For those saying it doesn’t matter, if you’re taking 5/6/7 thats one thing but if you’re talking 65/66/67 then that could be very off putting for some people. Some people wouldn’t care, but others would. Sometimes ignorance is bliss and when you start asking questions, sometimes you wish you didn’t know the answer. So in other words, don’t ask.

He sounds like a rude and immature fuckwitt, but in general if you ask the ask questions be prepared to not like the answer.

Jealous nutcase. Leave the nob to it, hes doing 'dramatic silent day ' to punish you.

He's a dick. That's what's going on.

My husband has never asked me this. It’s an invasive question, anyone asking it is insecure and you’ll never give the ‘correct’ answer.

I agree with @GoogleWhackedwho said Do not contact him again & only speak to him if he comes armed with a HUGE apology

My now DH asked this question and it set him off on an awful spiral of jealousy and irrational behaviour. We very nearly split up.
I refused to discuss it any further and it got to the point that I said it was over between us if he ever brought it up again.
He mentioned it several years later but only to apologise.
If ever I find myself being asked this again I will refuse to answer. It's nobodys business but mine.