Help. I'm on a date. I've read a text about me...

[doesthiscomewithfries]

I'm on a forth date with a guy. He's cooking. Left me in charge of his phone for Spotify.

It's not an iPhone. I don't know what I'm doing. I get out of the app. I panic. Hit another button. Whatsapp. It's a chat with a friend of his where he's detailing what we got up to on our last date.

Also scrolling back. I'm half a bottle of wine down. He says he might not see me again as I'm not his type.

Sooooo. What do I do now. I feel like crap.

@LowlytheWorm

Make a playlist on Spotify with goodbye songs and leave!

How do you do that?

@Kittykat93

I don't know why all the dramatic messages saying.to "go" "get out now" etc..nothing to suggest that this guy is violent or anything, she's just read a message that says he doesn't know if he's that into her just call a taxi op really not a huge deal..

Why? Because they've both been drinking and he clearly is expecting sex. She doesn't know him very well. He could easily rape her or otherwise harm her. A woman's safety is always number 1.

Sorry but op can't be that pissed, she started a thread and is speaking perfectly fine on here. She could easily just order a taxi, just seems like a massive drama over nothing.

Just slip out the back, Jack. Make a new plan, Ann. Get out of his hair, Claire. Just listen to me. Just get up and go, Zo. Run like hell, Nell. Get up and leave, Eve. And set yourself free.

@Kittykat93

Sorry but op can't be that pissed, she started a thread and is speaking perfectly fine on here. She could easily just order a taxi, just seems like a massive drama over nothing.

I prefer to believe women and give them the benefit of the doubt.

Op doesn't know this guy too well, she is in his house, drunk, said she was leaving, he didn't accept this and poured more wine.

Op is in a vulnerable position here, that's why people are advising her to leave now.

We all know what happens when we give the wrong person the benefit of the doubt. He's already showed that he doesn't care about boundries or ops feelings.

He may not be violent, there's also a chance that he may be violent. That's why people are being cautious.

@DuchessOfDisaster

Just slip out the back, Jack. Make a new plan, Ann. Get out of his hair, Claire. Just listen to me. Just get up and go, Zo. Run like hell, Nell. Get up and leave, Eve. And set yourself free.

Gold star there. Lovin’ your work

Hope you're safely on your way home OP. If it were me I'd leave ASAP as if you stay now and he tries to initiate sex or any intimacy I'd wonder whether he was just using you as a one night stand for his own gratification with no intent of pursuing anything else. If you leave now and he still messages you saying something different then maybe that would make me consider another date to see if you are compatible.

@DuchessOfDisaster

Just slip out the back, Jack. Make a new plan, Ann. Get out of his hair, Claire. Just listen to me. Just get up and go, Zo. Run like hell, Nell. Get up and leave, Eve. And set yourself free.

I'd get back home safely asap. Block him!

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Following for update.

Hopefully you on your way home now.

"Why? Because they've both been drinking and he clearly is expecting sex.
She doesn't know him very well. He could easily rape her or otherwise harm her.
A woman's safety is always number 1."

He's no more likely to rape her than he was before she read the message is he?

OP, stop drinking.

Call a friend to collect you and go home.

Hope you are OK OP.

Get home safe

What he’s said isn’t that bad, ‘not my type’ doesn’t mean he thinks you’re a minger or anything, so why all the dramatics?

Leave. Block. Move on.

Have you left or have you finished the wine he poured?

@Kittykat93

I don't know why all the dramatic messages saying.to "go" "get out now" etc..nothing to suggest that this guy is violent or anything, she's just read a message that says he doesn't know if he's that into her just call a taxi op really not a huge deal..

I think it's the fact that she is so drunk she sounds hammered. Not a mindset to make a decision when the guy is sweet talking you again.

Nobody ever said it would get violent or become a big deal, but it is clear that OP is very drunk and in no fit state to make a decision right now.

As an aside, I don't understand why somebody would troll posting this? I don't understand why somebody would troll posting anything though.

OP let all know you are okay please.

If you're not in bed with him and if you are - enjoy then reflect tomorrow.

@SeaShoreGalore

What he’s said isn’t that bad, ‘not my type’ doesn’t mean he thinks you’re a minger or anything, so why all the dramatics?

I think it probably is sometimes a euphemism for 'she's a minger', but I agree, it's not that awful. Fair enough if OP is no longer interested, but I don't understand all the insinuations that he is now dangerous when he wasn't before.

@Gwenhwyfar

"Why? Because they've both been drinking and he clearly is expecting sex. She doesn't know him very well. He could easily rape her or otherwise harm her. A woman's safety is always number 1."

He's no more likely to rape her than he was before she read the message is he?

If he was going to then more likely to definitely do so as he knows she wants to leave.

Hopefully this is all a misunderstanding and she is home and safe.

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Hope you are okay OP. If you haven't already, call a cab and leave. Figure it all out in the morning, but just get out of there now if you feel uncomfortable or unsafe.