Help. I'm on a date. I've read a text about me...

[doesthiscomewithfries]

I'm on a forth date with a guy. He's cooking. Left me in charge of his phone for Spotify.

It's not an iPhone. I don't know what I'm doing. I get out of the app. I panic. Hit another button. Whatsapp. It's a chat with a friend of his where he's detailing what we got up to on our last date.

Also scrolling back. I'm half a bottle of wine down. He says he might not see me again as I'm not his type.

Sooooo. What do I do now. I feel like crap.

@MrsTerryPratchett

Exactly. No good advice is ever given in vain.

Even if this OP particular is a troll, the advice to stop drinking and leave might stay in a readers mind and be a great help one day.

I'd have replied (as him) to his friend with "She's found out I have a tiny knob/a My Little Pony tattoo/a penchant for Morris dancing (it's the bells that turn me on) [delete according to sense of humour] and left".

And then left.

@Goodthings

He said it to a female friend?

And I'd bet wants to shag both OP and the friend.

Cake

Eating it

[quote Laiste]**@MrsTerryPratchett

Exactly. No good advice is ever given in vain.

Even if this OP particular is a troll, the advice to stop drinking and leave might stay in a readers mind and be a great help one day.[/quote]
That is until the thread gets deleted 😂😂😂

@doesthiscomewithfries

Jesus. It was an honest mistake. It's not a flipping iPhone. I'm a technophobe at the best of times. I'm drunk. I don't know what I'm doing. She messaged. And it opened up. I genuinely don't mean to read it. But fuck it. I have no allegiances to him after four dates

You’re sober enough to type coherently so you’re sober enough to order a cab!

[quote Laiste]**@MrsTerryPratchett

Exactly. No good advice is ever given in vain.

Even if this OP particular is a troll, the advice to stop drinking and leave might stay in a readers mind and be a great help one day.[/quote]
True!

@sofiegiraffe
Oh dear, I'll get my coat...

@TractorAndHeadphones

True.
I think MN should be a bit less dogmatic when deleting threads. Lots of deleted threads could be of use left standing.

What’s wrong with the friend being female?
It’s such a flippant comment and I’ve definitely discussed men I’ve dated casually with my male friends
Not my boyfriend but people I’m just dating are fair game

A strange thread.

Also OP I hope you’re a busy getting yourself out and safely home

What’s wrong with the friend being female?

Nothing's wrong. But it's fairly classic fishing for sex while trying to make someone jealous.

Ffs sake he is entitled to text a friend what ever he likes. Women do it all the OP read something she shouldn’t have so all she has to do is call a cab or friend and leave. And is she can text mumsnet she can do that easily enough.

I said the same thing about my husband of 23 years after our first date...

go go go

I don't know why all the dramatic messages saying.to "go" "get out now" etc..nothing to suggest that this guy is violent or anything, she's just read a message that says he doesn't know if he's that into her just call a taxi op really not a huge deal..

You don’t know what you are doing as you are drunk?
You’re posting on mumsnet and not taking the advice offered and why bother?

@TractorAndHeadphones

What’s wrong with the friend being female? It’s such a flippant comment and I’ve definitely discussed men I’ve dated casually with my male friends Not my boyfriend but people I’m just dating are fair game

I think the detailing what they got up to on the last date is very creepy.

Op? Still awake?

@Kittykat93

I don't know why all the dramatic messages saying.to "go" "get out now" etc..nothing to suggest that this guy is violent or anything, she's just read a message that says he doesn't know if he's that into her just call a taxi op really not a huge deal..

She's also read him giving details of what they got up to on previous date, intimate details perhaps. She's also told him she's seen the messages which he might not be happy about. So he sounds like a creep and she doesn't know him well and I think the advice to get out it pretty sound.

@Kittykat93

I don't know why all the dramatic messages saying.to "go" "get out now" etc..nothing to suggest that this guy is violent or anything, she's just read a message that says he doesn't know if he's that into her just call a taxi op really not a huge deal..

OP said they wanted to leave. He poured her more wine. Doesn't sound like he cares about her feelings.

nothing to suggest that this guy is violent or anything,

Women do well to recognise signs that someone is coercive as well as violent. Pouring wine when a tipsy woman has said she leaving? Not good.

@MrsTerryPratchett

nothing to suggest that this guy is violent or anything,

Women do well to recognise signs that someone is coercive as well as violent. Pouring wine when a tipsy woman has said she leaving? Not good.

Exactly this!!

@MrsTerryPratchett

nothing to suggest that this guy is violent or anything,

Women do well to recognise signs that someone is coercive as well as violent. Pouring wine when a tipsy woman has said she leaving? Not good.

Agreed.

@ancientgran why is it creepy? She did not tell us what it was. What if they went out to eat, took a walk after, stopped for drink. She did not say he described a sexual encounter or anything. I agree with the people who are confused by everyone freaking out about this and saying "get out now!"