Help. I'm on a date. I've read a text about me...

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I'm on a forth date with a guy. He's cooking. Left me in charge of his phone for Spotify.

It's not an iPhone. I don't know what I'm doing. I get out of the app. I panic. Hit another button. Whatsapp. It's a chat with a friend of his where he's detailing what we got up to on our last date.

Also scrolling back. I'm half a bottle of wine down. He says he might not see me again as I'm not his type.

Sooooo. What do I do now. I feel like crap.

OP are you ok?

Suggestions above seem a bit drastic!
You don't always end up with 'your type' and not everyone is sure when they first meet someone if they're the right partner for them. A lot of dating is exploring each other and deciding if it's worth progressing.

Personally I'd see through the rest of the date but certainly not sleep with him (if it's on the cards) and just see how it goes.

If you like him and he likes you, relationship will progress nicely. If he's just after an easy shag, hell lose interest.

hopefully she is busy calling a taxi

Good grief. Don't suggest she stay.
He definitely will be expecting sex.
Him cooking at his, lots of wine.

Just get out of there.

It all depends on what was said though bianca

I’m guessing she wasn’t taken with what she’s read at all. If it had been glowing and beautifully complimentary and respectful, she would be sitting in a cloud of smug on the sofa and happily looking forward to her supper.

I'd definitely stay for the free food, then leave.

If my now husband read text messages to my friends from the start of our relationship he’d have probably read a few things that he’d not like - he’s not my type, we knew each other from school and it freaked me out. But I gave it a chance and now love him completely and have been married almost 10 years. So if you think he’s worth it give him another chance.
However if I found out he’d read my messages I’d be furious. And I doubt it’s an innocent mistake. Especially as you kept reading.

Abort abort abort!

No. I'm not ok.

I said I'm going. He's poured me some more wine.

I've just said I know what he wrote. He's come up with some shitty story about a friend bla bla bla. I can't handle it. I've gone to the loo just for some space

Just leave! Hope you're ok xx

Jesus. It was an honest mistake. It's not a flipping iPhone. I'm a technophobe at the best of times. I'm drunk. I don't know what I'm doing. She messaged. And it opened up. I genuinely don't mean to read it. But fuck it. I have no allegiances to him after four dates

Oh dear! But it might be like that bit in NottingHill where Julia Roberts tells her co star she’s not into Hugh!

Have you got someone who can pick you up op?

Please don't let him talk you round op... You deserve much more...

Some funny ideas here but realistically I think your best/safest option is to say you’re feeling unwell and call a taxi.
Though it does perhaps depend on the context of the messages. I’m sure a lot of people date outside of their type but feelings can grow. Though it sounds like you’ve read enough to know this isn’t the case here?

Ohh bless you, just get your self home safely x

I’m sorry OP.

Arrange taxi in the loo, text a friend that you will call in (however long) explain you don’t see this going anywhere on your way out - go home and call friend. You must be so angry and it will help to let it out but first get out.

DON’T drink anymore wine. Ring a friend or call a taxi and go home.

Call yourself a taxi and get out of there.❤️🚕

Do you need help op? I understand you’re feeling drunk, but your best plan is to call a taxi and leave. If you feel unsafe, call a friend to talk to while you wait for the taxi. Or better still, do you have a friend who will pick you up? It can all be fine, you can get out of this evening and go home, even if you’ve been drinking more than usual.

I don't think him texting a friend (prior to arranging your current date) saying you are not his type is too big a crime, nor does it make him a rapist...

BUT you obviously don't feel comfortable or in control so just go home.

@SaltedCaramelIcedLatte

Ohh bless you, just get your self home safely x

This. Worry about what it all means tomorrow. Just go home. If he's a decent sort he will understand.

How awful. Get out and go home. Can you call a friend for help?