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Help. I'm on a date. I've read a text about me...

384 replies

doesthiscomewithfries · 13/08/2021 21:01

I'm on a forth date with a guy. He's cooking. Left me in charge of his phone for Spotify.

It's not an iPhone. I don't know what I'm doing. I get out of the app. I panic. Hit another button. Whatsapp. It's a chat with a friend of his where he's detailing what we got up to on our last date.

Also scrolling back. I'm half a bottle of wine down. He says he might not see me again as I'm not his type.

Sooooo. What do I do now. I feel like crap.

OP posts:
MakemeaCake · 13/08/2021 22:22

I'm seriously impressed how the poster doesn't know how to use his phone but within seconds is managing to get onto MNet, posts messages fast, and all the while he's in the kitchen, cooking.
Then she goes to the loo with his phone and he s till doesn't notice.

Hope you are okay, @doesthiscomewithfries and close enough to home to get back or ask a friend to pick you up.

name4change · 13/08/2021 22:22

hope you left a big smelly one in the toilet, get home, get a good nights sleep and move on

QueenBee52 · 13/08/2021 22:26

@name4change

hope you left a big smelly one in the toilet, get home, get a good nights sleep and move on

🤣😂

Thewinterofdiscontent · 13/08/2021 22:26

He could just be embarrassed. He could be a sleaze.

Either way he wrote and needs to own it.
Say you really liked him (off putting to a nutter) and go.

NoNotYou · 13/08/2021 22:27

Just do not sleep with him

Sparklfairy · 13/08/2021 22:27

@MakemeaCake it doesn't say she went to the loo with his phone.

Also I've always used android and if someone hands me their iPhone I initially have no idea how to work it, and I'm even slower working it out after a drink. The same has happened when I've handed my phone to iPhone users.

beigebrownblue · 13/08/2021 22:28

Leave. And then text him to say millions of members of mumsnet thought he was a crap date. You won't be trying again, but suggest he ups his game in future if he wants a relationship with anyone?

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 13/08/2021 22:29

but I don't understand all the insinuations that he is now dangerous when he wasn't before.

Men can, and do, turn when faced with rejection.

93sdb · 13/08/2021 22:30

Level then text calling him out on it... he left you with his phone and it was an accident🤷‍♀️

category12 · 13/08/2021 22:31

@MakemeaCake

I'm seriously impressed how the poster doesn't know how to use his phone but within seconds is managing to get onto MNet, posts messages fast, and all the while he's in the kitchen, cooking. Then she goes to the loo with his phone and he s till doesn't notice.

Hope you are okay, @doesthiscomewithfries and close enough to home to get back or ask a friend to pick you up.

I rather think she would be using her own phone to Mumsnet.

She was apparently borrowing his phone to put something on from spottify and accidentally saw the messages.

A person can be familiar with their own phone and yet struggle using someone else's. It's not exactly the gotcha!! you seem to think it is.

Whatnext2018 · 13/08/2021 22:31

Are you ok?

rwalker · 13/08/2021 22:32

WOW
I don't understand why you just didn't leave unless you want the drama.

I don't think it's that bad not every date works out just go home.

RedToothBrush · 13/08/2021 22:33

@NoNever

You leave, of course. I’d bet he’s just hoping to have sex before he breaks things off. Wrap your dignity around you and get out. He’s not worthy of you.
This.

Bet he tries it on.

Cactuslove · 13/08/2021 22:35

OP please go home. Stop drinking and just go home and regroup! All thia can be thought about and dealt with tomorrow.

Farevalah · 13/08/2021 22:38

Have you left yet op?

HollowTalk · 13/08/2021 22:40

I'm amazed you had time to read the messages and start a thread - what the hell was he cooking?

midsomermurderess · 13/08/2021 22:49

'Unless you want the drama'. Well, claro. Never underestimate the appetite for that.

FuckingFucksicles · 13/08/2021 22:51

Fuck that shit! Leave and take your self respect along with you! I have a friend like this who has no self respect and lets all boundaries be crossed... made me want to walk away at times!

BunnytheFriendlyDragon · 13/08/2021 22:55

I agree go home OP

If it's ab honest mistake you can sort it out later

MyLifeNow20 · 13/08/2021 22:55

why havent you replied!

Amandasummers · 13/08/2021 23:02

I’m not sure people are suggesting he’s dangerous as such, more than op is drunk and upset, feeling rejected….therefore vulnerable. And if this absolute catch she’s with was having a conversation saying she wasn’t his type and might not see her again etc….it certainly makes his intentions appear questionable, doesn’t it.

CharlotteRose90 · 13/08/2021 23:02

Please go home if you haven’t already. He will sleep with you and then fuck you off. Please don’t let him tempt you into bed

Sweettea1 · 13/08/2021 23:04

IPhone or not you surely no what the WhatsApp picture looks like am more interested in why you went snooping through his messages.
Yes leave now he probably doesn't want some1 that has trust issues.

gardeninggirl68 · 13/08/2021 23:04

hope you got out safely op?

Dandy0911 · 13/08/2021 23:07

Are you home safe OP?

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