What would you expect a man to say to this question?

[Goldsnow]

He had his computer desk top messages open in view and a message was there from his ex asking if he wants her to give him a massage. He reply was 'sounds nice'.
Would you think he was still interested in her? Or just a nice brush off? What would you expect a man to say to this if he wasn't interested and didn't want to lead her on? Would his response be the same as this mans?

@RantyAunty no it won't affect my job.

@AlphabetStew unfortunately not, no.

I think you should refrain from over analysing , you have been on one date with this guy, you don’t know him or her, 196 messages back to you, 8 pages, jeez! He is keeping his options open regarding his ex, you have so many people giving you advice , you are like a dog with a bone, you’ve seen these messages, there’s only two people that will be able to answer your questions, I’m not meaning to sound harsh but you are going round and round in circles aren’t you,

Jeepers, 5 messages is a couple of lines off a screen, it's not fucking War & Peace.

Yes, reading other people's messages, even off an open screen isn't ideal, but it's not like OP hacked into his phone.

So to wrap this thread up, is he still interested in her yes or no?

Yes, reading other people's messages, even off an open screen isn't ideal, but it's not like OP hacked into his phone

Thank you.

@Goldsnow

So to wrap this thread up, is he still interested in her yes or no?

Yes - at some level. Their relationship isn't completely platonic. I'd assume he's keeping her around as a booty call if he needs one.

Yes!!

Yes lol

Yes. It’s not done between them.

Yes!

@Goldsnow

So to wrap this thread up, is he still interested in her yes or no?

Yes.

Yes there’s still a connection between the two of them, not willing to let go

Let's put it this way, either he us still interested in her. Or he is the worth of man who strings women along for an ego boost. Neither is the sort of man I would want to date tbh.

*sort of man

Thank you all. I'm still deliberating if I should go on further dates with this man knowing he is likely still interest in his ex/wanting to see her.

@Goldsnow

Thank you all. I'm still deliberating if I should go on further dates with this man knowing he is likely still interest in his ex/wanting to see her.

But you’ve only had one date. You’re aciting like some form of committed relationship. I’m sure if you get to know him over a few dates he will make his mind up either way. But demanding exclusivity and he can’t like anyone else from date one is a bit much

@Goldsnow

So to wrap this thread up, is he still interested in her yes or no?

I'd say keeping his options open which after one date is fair.

Personally I'd have replied no thanks with a smile face but we're all different!

@CheesePlantMurderer can I ask why you wouldn't go on a second date with him?

[quote Goldsnow]@CheesePlantMurderer can I ask why you wouldn't go on a second date with him?[/quote]
I would!

I meant I'd say no thanks to the offer of a massage. At this stage I'd carry on dating. If it moves down the line I'd maybe query how close he was to his ex partners.

He's not in a relationship with you so he can do whatever he likes but 'sounds nice' to me is a bit of a polite brush off.

Sorry but he is keeping his options open.

If someone I had dated and seemingly got on well with potential for a second date, and he had messaged another woman saying he would find it nice to have a massage from her, yeah, I'd be walking away at that point.

sounds nice' to me is a bit of a polite brush off

This is what I took from it at first but then why call her pet names if trying to give her a polite brush off?

Have you planned a second date?

Have you planned a second date

Yes

I can't believe this thread has been going for this long. I don't believe any of it