What would you expect a man to say to this question?

[Goldsnow]

He had his computer desk top messages open in view and a message was there from his ex asking if he wants her to give him a massage. He reply was 'sounds nice'.
Would you think he was still interested in her? Or just a nice brush off? What would you expect a man to say to this if he wasn't interested and didn't want to lead her on? Would his response be the same as this mans?

@beastlyslumber re-read the thread

I read the thread? You looked through his messages and you're trying to work out what his relationship with someone else is, when you barely even know him.

What have I missed?

@beastlyslumber I think there's only one person behaving like a dick and that is you!

[quote Goldsnow]@beastlyslumber I think there's only one person behaving like a dick and that is you![/quote]
Really? Why's that?

@beastlyslumber do you really have to ask

Obviously I do, or I wouldn't be asking.

You've been on one date with this guy, he's single, but you invaded his privacy to look at his personal messages and now you're trying to analyse his relationship with another woman.

Have I got that wrong? If so, please tell me. If not, I stand by my original comment.

@beastlyslumber yes you have it wrong, however I did not make this thread to argue with the likes of you.

It’s not a brush off. He’s keeping that option open.

@Goldsnow

He had his computer desk top messages open in view and a message was there from his ex asking if he wants her to give him a massage. He reply was 'sounds nice'. Would you think he was still interested in her? Or just a nice brush off? What would you expect a man to say to this if he wasn't interested and didn't want to lead her on? Would his response be the same as this mans?

Well she asked and he accepted, pretty much. She doesn't really sound like an ex as you don't randomly offer massages to your ex out of the blue, do you?

@Polkadots2021 they are no longer together so yes she is an ex but she is obviously trying to see him again.

Well if I have it wrong, I'm sorry. From my understanding (having read the thread twice, wondering what I missed!) you have snooped, invaded two people's privacy, and are now trying to work out what's going on in his head/analyse his comments. If he did this to you, I'd be telling you to run a fucking mile. Huge red flags.

I hate to say this but this thread is giving me crazy fucking stalker vibes, this poor man needs to be warned.

@pommepommefrites that actually made me spit out my tea . I can assure you this man has nothing to worry about but thank you for your concern.

It was just one conversation I seen and it was in clear view, I did not, I repeat I DID NOT go snooping.

she is obviously trying to see him again.

They are both in contact with each other. That may well be her intentions, it might not be. You don't know his intentions with her either. What you do know is that they have history, they are remaining in contact and it becomes flirtatious.
Unless he tells her straight, ignores her advances or cuts contact then there's no point in jumping to the conclusion that she is trying to see him. He's keeping the lines of communication open with her and that's between them.

He is a nice guy so maybe he didn't want to hurt her feelings?

Wake up and WALK.

Also, it's been one date and you're snooping through his messages?

OP, I think you really need to stop over-analysing. He is keeping his options open, it’s that simple. And you are hugely overthinking the smallest exchange ever. He probably didn’t even think about his response, he just typed whatever came into his head (talk is cheap) that would ensure his options remain open. And now you are trying to pick apart a few sentences of conversation with zero background knowledge of how these two people communicate or what their relationship is like. Bottom line is, if this has bothered you, don’t see him again. If it hasn’t bothered you, crack on.

Beastlyslumber isn’t wrong, I think you’ve become defensive because she hit the nail on the head. You need to chill out over this boy you’ve known for all of 5 seconds. How has this become an 8 page thread

I did not, I repeat I DID NOT go snooping.

Yes you did. Then posted it on a public forum.

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy I didn't go looking for it, it was there in clear view, therefore - not snooping.

For someone who wasn’t snooping you seem to have read a lot of his messages,

@Bluntness100 around 5 so I wouldn't say a lot.

You read FIVE of his messages?

Christ, I'd be advising him to run away from you now!

You may work with him but that doesn't mean you really know him.
He may not be nice at all.

You've had one date with him. If he's still talking to her, he can.
You're not a couple or anything. He can date who he wants and so can you.

Would your job be affected if you did end up dating for awhile and it turned out badly?

[quote Goldsnow]@Bluntness100 around 5 so I wouldn't say a lot.[/quote]
Oh, come on

OP are you actually the person offering a massage and you're trying to decipher whether or not he is interested in you by his response?