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Fuck fuck fuck someone speak to me please

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RozHuntleysLeftHand · 25/07/2021 23:42

My fucking worst nightmare has just been fucking realised and its really bizarre and I am freaking the actual fuck out.

Too much to put in one post....I cant fucking think straight.

A while ago I posted that "D"p hencforth known as Lying Cunt Face had been talking to his ex behind my back.
(been together 12 years, 1 DC age 9, they have 2 DC both in their 20s)

He touted the idea of taking DS to visit his frail, elderly mum this week, with the DSC, great I get a break, plus he also pushed that as it was my Nans funeral last week and I was miserable, that it would give me a chance to heal.

For some reason I was suspicious that ex would be going, but I told myself I was being crazy paranoid, I don't even know why I suspected but I fucking did.

Well it turns out I was fucking right.

I got suspicious cos despite repeated requests to let DS call me/ just text me I got no reply. (and who fucking does that anyway? I just wanted a quick call at bed time ffs)

So eventually I get a call, and DS lets slip the girls Mum is fucking there.

DP refuses to discuss it and says "I knew you'd be like this which is why I didn't tell you".

Well fucking yeah!!

If he'd been honest from the start....but even then....

I had to be all bright and breezy on the phone to DS....but I'm fucking shaking and my mental health was already shot and this.....

I want my baby home.

I'm fucking shocked and angry and so so sad.

HELP ME

OP posts:
Myshitisreal · 30/07/2021 21:28

Some very nasty bitter people on this thread. Some people really like to kick folk when they're down. 😔

Nice to see the posters who have stuck up for her ♥

PolkadotSkies · 30/07/2021 22:37

It isn't "nasty" to state that the facts the OP has told us make the situation unsurprising, and it would be baffling frankly if she was not aware of this. Given her insecurity about the situation, one would suspect that on some level she is.

aSofaNearYou · 30/07/2021 23:52

@PolkadotSkies

It isn't "nasty" to state that the facts the OP has told us make the situation unsurprising, and it would be baffling frankly if she was not aware of this. Given her insecurity about the situation, one would suspect that on some level she is.
Whether or not it is surprising or not is not really the core focus though, is it. The main point is whether you think the situation merits any degree of empathy or kindness, you've obviously decided that it doesn't, and in doing so you have come across as all of the things you described in your previous comment.
PolkadotSkies · 30/07/2021 23:55

@aSofaNearYou of course it merits empathy and kindness. Primarily for the children affected by this utterly selfish behaviour by adults.

For adults who are reaping what they sewed? Yes I have less empathy than I would for an innocent victim of circumstance. It's sad, of course, but as I said unsurprising that if you marry a man who cheated on his wife and left his young daughters to be with you, that he would eventually treat you with a similar level of respect.

Addicted2LoveIsland · 01/08/2021 10:02

I don't understand why everyone says they are confused. Her husband is at his mums house with her son and his ex wife and she had no idea the ex was going to be there! Then he has tried to excuse his behaviour by saying "oh I knew you'd be like this". Who does that? She absolutely has a right to know who her son is around. On top of this he persuaded her to stay home KNOWING his ex was going to be there! Honestly I would divorce him. Get rid.

Addicted2LoveIsland · 01/08/2021 10:04

I don't think OP is over reacting I think it's sneaky manipulative and disgusting behaviour from a grown man. I'm pretty sure if the same happened to all of you you would be very angry.

Of course if it is a friendly ex situation that's one thing but this clearly isn't.

user9953279 · 05/08/2021 11:53

@PolkadotSkies

And is shocked that he's still a liar now. Why the surprise? She's so special he would never do it to her? 😂 Or what?
You are unhappy aren't you.

OP I really hope you're okay and DS is home.

QueenBee52 · 07/10/2021 13:31

@Addicted2LoveIsland

I don't understand why everyone says they are confused. Her husband is at his mums house with her son and his ex wife and she had no idea the ex was going to be there! Then he has tried to excuse his behaviour by saying "oh I knew you'd be like this". Who does that? She absolutely has a right to know who her son is around. On top of this he persuaded her to stay home KNOWING his ex was going to be there! Honestly I would divorce him. Get rid.

agreed 🌸

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