Dating Thread 208 - sausage fest summer

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Naimee87
Thanks for your advice!
Think I'm just going to see how the next few days go with messaging etc and see how I feel on Monday....x

@Naimee87
And good luck for tomorrow 🤞🏻

@Naimee87 good luck tomorrow. Now you know why I gave up OLD.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards you've done the right thing. I once matched with someone who was just out of prison, I didn't wait to find out what he was in for.

Well done @OnwardsEverStridingOnwards. Strong boundaries there 💪🏻 I think you just did yourself a big favour 💕

Good be luck @Naimee87 with the test!! Keep on truckin’ 🚚 😄

Good luck @Naimee87 🍀🍀🍀

Thanks everyone! My mum does a christmas letter every year (perhaps she’s the only person in the world) She always updates the family! My sister announced she is pregnant (early days and she has a 4yr old) my news is i’ve decided truck drive so somehow my mum needs to slip in that ‘i haven’t turned into a lesbian’ given my years of singledom and sudden motivation to be a truck driver! ( i do hope this doesn’t offend anyone as it absolutely isn’t meant to) 🤩 Will give an update tomorrow!
The pre-OLD world was a nicer place wasn’t it! The behaviour people think is acceptable because its messages is shocking!

Good luck @Naimee87!!

Got a new iron in the mix, let's call him MrDJ. He actually DJ'd at my 18th birthday & became a hotshot international DJ. Now does it occasionally and has a 'proper' job. He's asked me out for a drink. Am fully expecting a flake off.
Currently I have:
MrLawyer coffee ☕️ tomorrow
MrItaly date 2 in 2 weeks
MrCypriot date 5 next week
MrLocal coffee ☕️ next week
MrDJ, MissBee & MissGinger all waiting on them to confirm

@Dee03

Well I've agreed to meeting up with Mr Train on Monday....plenty of msging last night, he then says we could get a takeaway, have a few drinks at his place and I could stay over!!!! On a first date!!! My reaction was to say i think we should meet elsewhere first and if things flowed in that direction then possibly! Thoughts???

I've actually had another thought on this one.

I wouldn't be surprised if when you ordered the take away and drinks he suddenly finds his forgotten/lost his wallet...his offer demonstrates the least amount of effort possible with a crazy amount of optimism/pisstaking thrown in

Do not be impressed. You're worth more than this.

Woooo go @BelladiMamma. What’s your secret 😄💗

@BelladiMamma

Got a new iron in the mix, let's call him MrDJ. He actually DJ'd at my 18th birthday & became a hotshot international DJ. Now does it occasionally and has a 'proper' job. He's asked me out for a drink. Am fully expecting a flake off. Currently I have: MrLawyer coffee ☕️ tomorrow MrItaly date 2 in 2 weeks MrCypriot date 5 next week MrLocal coffee ☕️ next week MrDJ, MissBee & MissGinger all waiting on them to confirm

WTAF! How do you do it? Your success is spectacular and I'd love just half of what you're achieving 🤣 I hope you have lovely times with everyone.

I have another date 0 being arranged for Saturday and been asked by a few more chats my availability. I have stopped swiping for now while I arrange dates and continue with chats.

Dee03 I honestly wouldn't go anywhere near that guy. Suggesting a first date at his is bad enough, but then staying over! That is maybe date 3 behaviour - you haven't even had date zero! I would run like the wind in the opposite direction. Please please look after yourself.

Train guy needs it spelling out.

Wow, literally I feel like I've been away 5mins and this thread has had about 200 more posts! I'll need to go and swot up but I can see from just the last few that the rollercoaster of highs and lows continues.

Nowt to report here, the usual all talk and no action 🙄

@BelladiMamma do you do private OLD coaching? Think I need some lessons from you - talk about bouncing back with a vengeance!

Minor dilemma but it’s jarring me. I have two irons, one with Date 0 arranged and the other with Date 0 pencilled in. They are both nice, respectful and keen. I don’t suspect any game playing in fact they both seem slightly fragile. They obviously don’t know about each other, and are texting daily with chatty updates and obviously I’m responding. I just feel weird about doing it with both. It’s not me - I’m by nature much more straight that this and I feel a bit mean. I need to get a grip and see how each date goes don’t I? Neither date is for a couple of weeks.

Belladimamma that’s a sterling performance!

@Shayelle2009 @Isitreallyme177 thank you so much for all your support ❤️😘😘

@Shayelle2009

Woooo go *@BelladiMamma*. What’s your secret 😄💗

I live near London so I think the odds are better 🤷🏻‍♀️😁

@FireandBrimstone

Wow, literally I feel like I've been away 5mins and this thread has had about 200 more posts! I'll need to go and swot up but I can see from just the last few that the rollercoaster of highs and lows continues.

Nowt to report here, the usual all talk and no action 🙄

@BelladiMamma do you do private OLD coaching? Think I need some lessons from you - talk about bouncing back with a vengeance!

Bit like Cyrano de Bergerac 🤣

@Shuffleuplove

Minor dilemma but it’s jarring me. I have two irons, one with Date 0 arranged and the other with Date 0 pencilled in. They are both nice, respectful and keen. I don’t suspect any game playing in fact they both seem slightly fragile. They obviously don’t know about each other, and are texting daily with chatty updates and obviously I’m responding. I just feel weird about doing it with both. It’s not me - I’m by nature much more straight that this and I feel a bit mean. I need to get a grip and see how each date goes don’t I? Neither date is for a couple of weeks.

When I first started OLD last year I was the same but I've got immune to it now. Given how many flakes there are out there, it's best to just keep things light and in touch

@BelladiMamma we have chatted loads about all sorts of things. Maybe I should lighten it up.

[quote Shuffleuplove]@BelladiMamma we have chatted loads about all sorts of things. Maybe I should lighten it up.[/quote]
With both? It is hard to keep being open and sharing stuff before you've met and with more than one

@BelladiMamma
Wow I'm very impressed....how do you manage to keep all those chats going?

Well I've decided I'm defo not going to Mr Trains place on Monday....I may meet up for date 0 with him but not at his place...like many of you have said it's lazy, and then I'm setting the precedent for future dates plus I may not like him at all in person and that'll just be awkward. I will msg him later on when I can be bothered!

Have chat 2 going on with Mr Forklift now. Very early days but let's see where this goes....