I’ve just done something really nasty haven’t I?

[Latenightfeelings]

My ex and I split a year and a half ago, right before the first lockdown and have stayed in contact ever since. Sometimes it was good contact other times we would argue but we always remained in contact. Neither of us found new relationships but both have seen people on and off.

Anyways, around two months ago ex and I started seeing each other casually, nothing official but spending time together and we slept together a couple of times. One of these times resulted in a pregnancy (I had the implant, which had come out of place) so although we assumed we were protected we were not. I was single at the time and thought ex was as well.


We ultimately decided against keeping the pregnancy and decided to terminate. Ex has been mostly supportive as much as he can, and has stayed around a lot before appts and been here a lot emotionally. And please do not judge, but we have slept together again yesterday. It’s been atrocious, a medical abortion followed by a D and C and lots of intervention surgically and emotions are really high.

Anyways, ex and I have not discussed one bit about getting back together but have been sleeping together etc and are going through this- and this is where I’ve been nasty and really regret what I’ve done.

Early this morning,1am, ex was lying next to me and his phone kept going off all night. It was so irritating and he sleeps through a hurricane. I picked it up and on the screen were messages from a girl, and even though I shouldn’t, I clicked on it and read a little through the thread.

He’s told her he was working away and missed her, couldn’t wait to see her and was sorry he was late because his car had broke, obviously all lies. But for some reason this triggered me, and I don’t know if it’s because we’d just slept together or what but I replied to her telling her the truth :( I’ve desperately tried to delete it but its an iMessage and I can’t get it back.

I know when ex awakens he will be furious. And I don’t know what to do. We are in our 30’s so not bloody teenagers!

[WrongWayApricot]

Course you did, wombat. That's why your last reply to me wasn't a counter argument but just tone policing my reply to bluntness. Congratulations 😊👋

[Iamthewombat]

Oh, when you said that Bluntness was thick and I told you that you might be taken more seriously if you avoided calling posters who disagree with you stupid, you mean?

I kindly avoided saying that it was unwise of you to tell posters smarter than you that they weren’t smart enough.

I’d already wiped the floor with you before then. Perhaps you just didn’t notice!

[Bridezillamaybe]

God bless your delusion @Iamthewombat I'm fairly confident nobody noticed you wipe the floor (haven't heard that expression since the 90s) with anyone.

[Iamthewombat]

Oh, you’re the one who is the enthusiastic advocate for revenge on men who disappoint you, aren’t you? The one who told the long and convoluted tale about the ex-boyfriend whose phone you threw out of a bathroom window.

You also told us that you “hate” the opinion that the OP could have been a bit more, y’know, dignified.

Little surprise, then, that you are now out to get your own back on anyone who disagrees with you on a Mumsnet thread!

Here’s a tip: try not to take things so personally. You’ll find that it makes life easier. Thanks for your views on the decades during which it was acceptable, in your view, to use particular idioms. I’ll certainly keep that in mind.

[Bogeyes]

He's a cheat and a liar...

[dryasaboner]

I've popped back to see how things are and quelle surprise @Iamthewombat is still being a dog with a bone 🥱

[Iamthewombat]

Glass houses!

[DameFanny]

I've got a BiL who talks about wiping the floor with other people during arguments, because he'll just speed-chunter at you with irrelevancies and never actually address or admit any correction of facts. Confuses opinions with facts as well. Very tiresome. Apropos of nothing.

[Bridezillamaybe]

Nevermind eh @Iamthewombat. It's funny you would deliver tips on how to make life easier mid rant at nearly 3am. I wasn't trying to 'get back at you', I'm fairly sure that's another expression I haven't heard or used since the 90's when I was a teenager.

[Bridezillamaybe]

@DameFanny

I've got a BiL who talks about wiping the floor with other people during arguments, because he'll just speed-chunter at you with irrelevancies and never actually address or admit any correction of facts. Confuses opinions with facts as well. Very tiresome. Apropos of nothing.

Oh yes. I think I've met that fella. Is he married to your sister or your husband's brother. If single you could do a bit of match-making here with @iamthewombat. I'm sure they'd make a lovely couple and be very popular.

[DameFanny]

Sister's husband but happy to see him leave the family

[Iamthewombat]

Oh dear. How many times have you tagged me on this thread? Four times, is it? You’re coming over a little bit unstable. Even noticing what time I posted. I was waiting for a taxi at 2:54 am,, is that OK with you?

You can get help with stalking tendencies, you know.