Dh wants a divorce and is leaving today

[GooodMythicalMorning]

He came home last night and told me he doesn't want this any more. He's fallen foe someone else though nothings happened apparently as she too is married. We're telling the kids later after work and he's leaving. Im heartbroken. 14 years married, didn't see any problems. Thought it was forever. I don't know what to do/need. My brain has gone into panic mode about kids/dogs/house.

Seeing Jungle Cruise. love Emily Blunt. Yeah I don't believe nothing happened either.

Oh I love her too!

Oh for sure, stuff has happened :(

How are you today @GooodMythicalMorning? I've been thinking of you and hoping that you're beating up!

Bearing up... not beating up... obvs...!

Had a bit of a down morning thinking why aren't I good enough, but in general im doing ok. H has set up a standing order so I know the mortgage and insurance will be paid each month which is good.

H has been to see the kids regularly which is also good.

Im trying to make plans, went out on sat with a friend and it was nice. I enjoyed the film.

I have been packing away some of his stuff as cant bear to see it.

@GooodMythicalMorning look at what he’s swapped you for - it’s not that you weren’t good enough for him, it’s that he wasn’t good enough for you. He’s clearly suffered a major malfunction somewhere…

Im trying to make plans, went out on sat with a friend and it was nice. I enjoyed the film.

I have been packing away some of his stuff as cant bear to see it.

good positive steps 🌸

I think, given how recently this has all happened you are doing amazingly. One day at a time. Remember that it's not your job to be his mate on all of this...

You've really got this, and we're all here for you

Thank you. I do appreciate all your comments.

Thinking of you

Feel for you, my husband upped and left last year, said he just needed to “sort his head out”…said he’d never hurt me, promised once he’d sorted his head out he’d make our marriage work, we’d be ok… yep, he’d been shagging someone in work for months, he left me for her and I only found out when she rang me 6 moths later because he’d dumped her because he wanted to play family’s again!
Concentrate on you, anything he says can’t be trusted.
You will be ok in time, I promise x

Thank you. Sorry to hear it happened to you too.

Just a quick update, so im 6ish weeks on, Universal credits has come through today which is good, saves a worry. Not loads but enough that with that and my wages my bills are covered and we'll be fine as long as I budget.

Most days im a lot better. Today I'm really missing hugs though!

H moved in with the other woman and has been away for a week to Wales (funnily enough I wanted to go to there but he'd never take me.) with her. They're moving to their proper place in 3 weeks.

The children are fine. coping well so far. Dealt with everything their dad has done/doing surprisingly well.

Big hugs hun. No practical advice other than what has already been given. Speak to a solicitor about getting the mortgage payments etc protected