Dh wants a divorce and is leaving today

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He came home last night and told me he doesn't want this any more. He's fallen foe someone else though nothings happened apparently as she too is married. We're telling the kids later after work and he's leaving. Im heartbroken. 14 years married, didn't see any problems. Thought it was forever. I don't know what to do/need. My brain has gone into panic mode about kids/dogs/house.

Jesus wtf. Has he left you anything?

Take a screen shot, and get your bank to give you a print out tomorrow. That amount is joint marital assets and needs to be part of your financial settlement.

He's a fucking bastard.

Omg OP I'm so sorry to hear what your going through, he's disgusting! At least you know who he really is now ? Is there any money left in that account / joint accounts? If there is remove it and protect yourself, change the locks to the house so he can't let himself in and protect anything of value. If he has anything to say about it just remind him he's the one that decided to play it that way and your just protecting yourself and the children.

OMG!

Get legal advice immediately.

Make sure you have copies of everything.

contact CMS immediately.

Get your council tax reduced, single adult occupier.

See what else you might be entitled to.

I think he's so fussed about finances and wanting you to take over everything ASAP because he's realised renting generally costs a whole load more than a mortgage per month, especially if you've been paying the mortgage off for some years already. Maybe the £15k is a deposit on another property. Hope you're ok OP

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What a complete cunt!

Get to a Lawyer and make him out it back !!!

Okay, Mumsnet posse, who's a saddlin' up?

Fucking hell!

Is there a similar amount you can protect for yourself? Have you got an account that he had no access to?

Where does the child benefit go? Get it diverted into a sole account straight away.

Bloody hell!

I am so sorry OP.

I would shop him to his Mum for this.

What a horrible shit he is. At least you've seen his true colours I suppose. Time to stop all nicities now and just stick to required information. No more him coming into the home.

God, what a bastard he is. Take a screenshot, make a note of it. That money is joint.

Then get your financial ducks sorted - CMS claim, see a solicitor, check the entitled to website.

You're being really strong. 💐

Hi Op, just another thought do you have his log in details to social media/ access to phone messages via iPad ect? See if you can find evidence of their relationship prior to him leaving, I find it hard to believe nothing was going on and that they both decided to leave their partners and move in together so quickly

Well if there was 30k in it then he is entitled to 15k of it but please move any remaining money op to your own account

And this will all be tracked when you divorce via solicitor. You need to submit copies of statements etc so the 15k will be seen as joint asset and that half was for OP. So she will get it back somewhere in the settlement

Money mystery solved, he opened a new account and put some across so I can make that account mine. He told me wheb he turned up. Should have told me first though!! He showed me the account and details so I know its true.

That’s ok as long as he left equal amount for you.

He did.

Please move your £15000 into an account in only your name now....

Why is he pissing about with new accounts without telling you first? He's calling all the shots here isn't he?

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Why is he pissing about with new accounts without telling you first? He's calling all the shots here isn't he?

Agreed

I would be opening my own account that he has no access to and transferring that money, your wages, child benefit etc into it.

He's making it very clear that his number one priority is himself and the OW. Time to get organised OP. You are doing so well. Do not let him dictate this whole situation.

Take the job. But the nerve of him hassling you to take over mortgage 4 days after leaving you 😵

I'd still make your very own account rather than keep an account he knows the details of. I mean he has a shiny new account so why can you :)

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