I had a phonecall this afternoon...

[Itwasgoodwhileitlasted]

DH had taken DS to swim lessons. This is the second time he has taken him, I've taken him once myself.

So it is a 30 minute lesson and parents are told to sit in cars in car park to wait because of covid.

DS swim lesson finished at 3.10pm and I had a phonecall at 3.30pm asking who was picking him up!!

It then transpires DH had dropped off DS and gone to run "errands".

I was livid and mortified. Swim school gave me a bollocking because there was no one responsible for DS in event of an emergency.

Not even mentioning DS was scared and freezing cold while he waited for a towel.

DH is swanning around like it is no big deal while I plot our divorce.

On a scale of useless arsehole what would you score him?

I've given him 10/10

How old is Ds?

7 years old

I would be livid!

Omg! What an absolute fucking idiot! I’d this the first incident or are there many?

What an awful cockend

I mean 15/10

I would be absolutely livid. He must have known when dc finished so why did he not go back at the correct time at least. Not that he should have left in the first place.

Totally unacceptable

My dad did this with my brother once. Left him at a martial arts lesson and didn’t think to pick him up again.

I could count on one hand the number of times I saw my parents argue. This was one of them.

Did he know he was obligated to wait?

If it's only the second time did he know he was supposed to stay?
Either way, surely he knew what time the lesson finished?

Why did they call you not him? Why did they bollock you not him?

100/10

Plan a patio not a divorce

DH is swanning around like it is no big deal

This is the bit that turns him from numpty in to arsehole.

DH is swanning around like it is no big deal

He put the wrong time in his diary apparently.

I think this might be the final straw for me.

What a total bellend!

Lol to patio comment though 🤣

Final straw I'm guessing there's more to this?

On its own I think it's a mistake we could all make

Jut fed up with him. No great horror stories, no cheating or anything.

He is a massive workaholic which is hard.

Last weekend he put a full pile of washed and dried laundry in the basket then a pile of wet towels on top.

I'm taking DS to the local fair tomorrow and DH wants to come. I'm said no because he will infuriate me.

I'll.pay for a few rides and look at DH to chip in but he won't notice because he absolves all responsibility around me. It's not a money issue btw. I just feel like he is another child with me.

When you say “final straw” is he a a knob at other times?

To answer previous question, the swim school called me because I organised the lessons. Like everything else in our lives.

I am feeling a bit like this today too OP. Husband's job is sooooo important that nothing else matters. I needed him to be at home for daughter this week cos l had to have a long dentist appointment but no he couldn't possibly do that and almost was a bit put out l even asked . So today is stomping round because he is hungry but doesn't know what he wants to eat as if l should know . Just made dinner for dd and myself cos l am not running a fucking restaurant. Aaarrgghh.

Can your husband tie his own shoelaces?
He's an idiot

I get that Op - you want an equal partner and not another child to look after. I'd be struggling to stay with someone like that.

Your husband sounds infuriating. I’m getting rage just reading this!