Why *(content warning: concerns domestic abuse)

[mcdreamymcsteamy]

I'm shaking writing this but I don't have anybody to talk to in real life. I have no family and I'm too ashamed to tell my friends. I have no where to go.

But I need to tell somebody.

Yesterday whilst holding my 12 week old baby he slapped me across the face. Then when I swore at him he put his hands around my neck and choked me until I sat down on the sofa.

Today he was holding the baby and I was sat in the comer of the sofa, he'd made a comment that I am insecure that's why I always wear black underwear?! I said he is a sick fuck for hitting me with a baby in my arms, he put the baby in the Moses basket and said I'll show hits then bang there was 3/4 hits across my head and a chunk of my hair on the floor! I tried to kick him then more fighting but it's a blur but somewhere in there he shouted at me that I'm fat as fuck and made nasty comments about my stretch marks and my arms.

What the actual fuck.

He is not here right now and im sitting plucking up the courage to ring the police.

Op, if you have a chance to read this.. stay well out of his way tonight. Lock yourself in the bathroom and call the police if need be.

Leave the house with baby, go next door, anything.

Ring 999, press 55 to indicate
You can't speak. Please Do it now.

OP prayers for you and your lol

I understand you're scared. I hope you or your sister was able to call the police. Please update when you can. We just want you and your lo to be safe.

Why do my messages keep getting deleted?

Time to hide this thread.

OP I wish you and your baby the best of luck.

I'm not sure @Geanna2 I've been supportive throughout as I've been in OPs shoes and I know how hard it is to make that call, all I've really done is ask what felt like pertinent questions considering how long this thread has been running, and suggest a trigger warning in the title.

OP I get how terrifying it is. It is so so difficult to make that call. You are probably in fight or flight mode right now and anxious and paranoid about every movement. Sorry if I missed it but can you drive? Can you pick baby up and just walk out the door and drive to police station?

This is my experience incase it may help to know the practicalities of when someone else has made the call - I had to call 999. I ran out of the house away from him to a bus stop to do this. Police came and went in to house - took us to two separate rooms and took two statements. He was arrested and taken in and I stayed at house. He was questioned, charged and released on bail. Part of bail was not coming within certain distance of house / my work. He then went to court several weeks later for sentencing and police encouraged / supported with restraining order. Someone else in this thread said they were taken to refudge. Two different outcomes of the call but my point is you will be supported. As soon as he goes call womens aid and they can offer great advice and support.

This is a scary and awful reality for you right now. You should not live in fear. It is so hard to make the call but you can do it. Take care.

What an effin b*stard. No wonder women do strange things like laxatives in tea. Leave him and call the cops.

My mums friends went through this and called the cops she had 2 kids a 2 year old and a newborn. Best thing she did. He went to jail. She never looked back. He'll kill u. Stay away from him and call the cops.

Please leave him.

As for why. Because he's a sick fuck. He thinks he can beat women because he's a sick excuse for a man. It gives him power. It's not okay. You don't deserve this treatment and he doesn't deserve you or your baby. He will kill you and your child. Run away and don't look back.

OP are you ok?

As soon as he's gone to work in the morning get out, go somewhere public and call the police. They will help. You need to get out fast to protect your baby

@KurtWilde

Why do my messages keep getting deleted?

Time to hide this thread.

OP I wish you and your baby the best of luck.

Why hide the thread

@Snugglybuggly I wish OP the best but it's pointless posting only to have posts deleted. May as well just hide the thread and stop engaging altogether.

Op I hope you're okay. Thinking of you and baby. May God help you and make it easy for you. Hope someone sorts your partner out.

Now that I have the chance to respond properly I'll answer everything that's been said and maybe for those who have left negative comments about me, luckily I am resilient but in the future if someone post a thread like this it may make you think twice before your comments..

We are safe he has left the house and I am going to the hospital with my best friend to have my injuries checked and obviously it will be reported from there.
Initially I wasn't posting on here for advice, I was posting on here so that I had a record of what had happened because in the aftermath of it things become hazy. I knew I had to report it to the police but it's not as easy to just do it there and then so I wanted to have the facts somewhere safe. I can't write it in notes, can't text it to someone as he literally will just say give me your phone and it's expected to be handed over that very second. He knows I use the Mumsnet app I used to browse it my whole pregnancy, but I keep it logged out, so that there's no way he can see what I've wrote, but I can still see what's been said.

That one who said I enjoy the drama, or those who think it's not genuine, yes some of you may have been through this before, so you know full well that sinking feeling when the first blow lands and you think oh my god not again. If you see another thread like this ever please think twice before leaving comments like that again.

For those who offered me genuine advice and kind words thank you I really appreciate it and although I couldn't respond I could check the app every now and again and it kept me strong through these couple of days. Now I've taken photos of my injuries and saved them in a secret gmail google drive account I've just made. Then deleted them from my phone.

I'm going to pack some important belongings while the baby's still sleeping and then that's it

Good luck, OP. Thinking of you.

Very best wishes @mcdreamymcsteamy

Hope you are ok OP. Please try and phone the police today. Hopefully he will be off to work soon 🤞🏻

Good luck @mcdreamymcsteamy I'll be thinking of you.

Good luck OP. I'm glad you are going to get the help for you and your baby

Good luck op. Today is the first step to a better life for you both x

Your sister didn't turn up then? Or call the police for you?