Why *(content warning: concerns domestic abuse)

[mcdreamymcsteamy]

I'm shaking writing this but I don't have anybody to talk to in real life. I have no family and I'm too ashamed to tell my friends. I have no where to go.

But I need to tell somebody.

Yesterday whilst holding my 12 week old baby he slapped me across the face. Then when I swore at him he put his hands around my neck and choked me until I sat down on the sofa.

Today he was holding the baby and I was sat in the comer of the sofa, he'd made a comment that I am insecure that's why I always wear black underwear?! I said he is a sick fuck for hitting me with a baby in my arms, he put the baby in the Moses basket and said I'll show hits then bang there was 3/4 hits across my head and a chunk of my hair on the floor! I tried to kick him then more fighting but it's a blur but somewhere in there he shouted at me that I'm fat as fuck and made nasty comments about my stretch marks and my arms.

What the actual fuck.

He is not here right now and im sitting plucking up the courage to ring the police.

I really really hope you are ok ♥️

Take photos of your injuries and please go to the police. He's dangerous. How vile do you have to be to hit a woman, never mind while you're holding your baby. I'm sure you can probably get some sort of order preventing him from coming near you, the police will advise you. X

Refuge has an online chat function.Monday to Friday 3PM-6pm. I think other charities have similar functions.

The Police has an online reporting page - scroll down to bottom: www.met.police.uk/ro/report/domestic-abuse/report-domestic-abuse/

Sorry, that's just for London. I expect other forces have the same.

Text ‘Register’ to 999. Wait for the reply so you know you are registered, You'll be asked to confirm that you’d like to register and the original message wasn’t sent by mistake. Once you've done that you can send a text saying what service you want – police, why – domestic violence, and where you are located.

Please be extra careful if he's watching your every move and ring the police as soon as you get a chance.

Your baby needs a mum.

I'm so very sorry OP. When this happened to me the police took me and my DS to a women's refuge. They will help you.

Have you family that are close? Please tell mum or dad

It sounds as if it is escalating, and fast. You are in a really dangerous position, especially because of your baby. Believe me, he will target you when baby is at its most vulnerable. Please don’t wait. Have him out today. Get him arrested, because tonight’s football is the perfect shit storm for DV, even more than usual.

Call 999. You can do it silently by pressing 55 when they ask you questions.

He’ll come back if you allow him, beg for forgiveness, make false promises, get angry if you don’t respond the way he wants you to. But there are ways forward, there are a lot support available.

Do this, OP, before you and your baby is just another statistic in a small paragraph in the local newspaper.

www.google.com/amp/s/www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/2605184/call-999-danger-emergency-cant-speak/amp/

Oh I can't imagine how terrified you are. Is there anyone, ANYONE, that you could send a quick text too and ask them to phone the police?!

Op, like a pp said, it's better to ring police now. Tonight they'll be busy with the match. You Can and should take this step, it's for your baby. Once you do, you'll feel so much better and you'll have control over your life again.

If you are worried about phoning the police you can register to text them. Text "REGISTER" to 999

Hi Op I hope you're OK did your manage to get some help and advice? The police will help you 100% please dont want thus to happen again to you and your child,sending hugs to you x

OP are you ok??

your not safe, if you want, pm me your details and ill get the police to you x

@Geanna2 She can wipe her internet history and log out of mumsnet, 999 is going to be on her recent call log.