Partner won't pay, heavily pregnant

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I've been with my partner 2 years and recently moved in, heavily pregnant now and still paying everything.

Tried and tried and tried. Today I tried some more and was called a cow, nasty, horrible woman even though I've paid everything until now (I do have family money) -have de camped to the spare room as BP sky high. I just want to protect my little baby now but am in complete turmoil as do love the man and he will be a good daddy. I don't know if I can do this on my own as I suffer depression, lingering from a breakdown 2 years ago.

I am not money orientated if that's what it seems like.

I know things are really hard for you right now but please please do not let this man back into your life. He will not change and he will have you right where he wants you. The damage that will do to your mental health and your DD is unthinkable.

I very much doubt that he and his mum want to take your baby, it would require too much effort and money. But to take the advice of PP and do not put him on the birth certificate and warn your midwife and the hospital that he and his mother are not allowed at the birth; if possible do not let him know that you are in labour, do you have anyone else who could be your birth partner?

It really is true that no partner is better than a sh*t one, believe me.

Good Luck💐

Yes he's still here at night. It's very hard to get someone to go.

If he rang the doctor it would be the best thing he could do, they would pick up straight away that you have an abusive partner and get you some help.

If he won’t go then you will have to.

You need to move out for a few days. Go to family or just get an airbnb and then tell him he has to cover the rent as you want your name off the lease or he leaves.
Don’t give him any other option.
If he leaves then remove his name from the lease and change the locks.

You need to call Women's Aid immediately.

You need to tell them your situation. Your situation is that you are being abused, you are heavily pregnant, you can't get the abuser to leave the house you are renting.
Ask for support getting rid of him and getting sole occupation of the house. You may be able to get an Occupation Order and a Non-molestation Order.
You have to co-operate fully with NOT CONTACTING HIM AFTER THAT, AND BLOCKING HIM SO HE CAN'T CONTACT YOU.
Ask for a place in a refuge otherwise, and ask for their help dealing with the landlord to get you off the lease.

Bythmillpond she can't change the locks. The house is rented. The LL could possibly do this, but isn't obliged to.

Why on earth do you want your unborn DD to know this moron as her daddy? He is living off you, smoking around you, drinking, poncing off your income, how do you think he will be when he is kept awake by a crying baby? He is not partner material, or Father material, he is a waste of space who give the odd decent foot massage, big deal. Kick him out. If you had problems with your mental health before, there will be problems ahead with this selfish freeloading git and a new born baby.

How are you doing OP?

Hope you’re okay OP xx

Hope everything is OK OP