I'll try explain with fake names what happened to me.
My name's Amy. I met Neil. Neil was lovely. Neil told me about his ex Jodie. She was still his friend. He told me about Emily. His old school friend who he had gone to catch up with after the split. She apparently forced sex onto him.
As time went on he told me about his ex wife Kate who he had two kids with. Obviously it was her fault and he walked away from his kids all innocent.
He eventually told me about Vicky. Another women who had come onto him through messaging and rude pictures. A friends sister from his school days. In the end he had to get his cousin to ask Vicky to leave him alone as he was ill after his split with Jodie.
At Christmas a woman called Anna was suddenly removed from his Facebook. He kept mentioning Emily again. She wouldn't leave him alone. He blocked her. Well he thought he had (bless him) but she kept messaging.
In February. He complained again that Emily had messaged him. Also his ex wives sister ebony. He also received a angry message from his ex wife Kate which he senr me screen shots of. Kate was warning him to focus on his now adult daughter. Who he had apparently been leaning on. The other adult daughter had cut him off.
A week later louise on his Facebook became single. For two weeks he shared and commented on everything Louise wrote. She got back with her ex. He left her alone.
About a month later he added Jenna to facebook. I already knew she was an ex school friend of his ex girlfriend. But he didn't explain why he had added her. He deleted her quickly when I asked why he was liking her half naked photos and then sending me suggestions to wear clothes similar to hers.
We fell out at this point.
Two weeks later he wanted to makr it right. So I listened. He told me I was insecure. He re-added me in Facebook. A woman called Linda had been added. Along with Jenna being re-added and three new girls millie and Jemma and stacey.
Linda was very interested in him. She seemed to suddenly know him as much as me. But she didn't live near us. I kept my eye on it. I watched him like the other threes photos. All blonde and way out of his league. I was hurt.
He started talking about Jodie all the time like he was stuck in the past. Then Emily was coming up. Emily by this point told me how he used her and broke her heart. They had sex for four months and he was starting a new life with her. But then his ex Jodie had contacted her to ask what was going on. Both women were played!
I started to get really annoyed at his attitude so I contacted Linda. "Who are you and how do you know Neil?"
Linda confirmed she was from a dating app and had been meeting up with Neil the last few months for sex. But he didn't want a relationship with her so they were now mates.
I dump Neil. But I find out through friends he's really eyeing up Millie. Millie gets comments on all her photos. He tells an old school friend Stacey she's hot. Another old school friend Claire is allover his photos. He's added a new lady Sammy who is liking his stuff. Then Caroline his old friend is suddenly getting lovehearts on her photos.
Neil unblocks me occasionally and then blocks me again.
This is aload of waffle but this is literally what it was like. I'm trying to make you understand the exhausting continued patterns won't stop. Look how many women Neil's hurt or lost. He still doesn't give a f!!! He sees women as objects.
His ex is trauma bonded to him. She can't get away. He attempted suicide when Jodie got sick of him. So I think she stays for that. He triangulated me and Jodie. Emily was brought up all the time because he was still messaging her when he was with me. He never gave her up despite telling me she's a stalking weirdo.
He was screwing Linda whilst I was trying to make sense of loosing him. He came back claiming he never stopped loving me and hadn't met anyone at all since we stopped speaking.
I could pour my heart out to him. Message him. But what's the point. He is always looking elsewhere. Before he unblocked me today he was writing on Millie's photo how amazing she looks.
Just keep going forwards now. You can join Me. I'm six weeks on now. I'm not going back. He can stay in the past where he belongs. He's hurt me too much.