Everytime my back is turned.. how would you leave?

[love15]

We've had issues for 9 years since we've been together - we have DD.

Issues: Drugs, Lies, Cheating, Disrespect

Everytime I spend a night at my mums (generally to keep her company and my DD loves it) my partner is on Facebook messaging other women. Half the time he gets no response but it's things like "boo" "hello gorgeous" "oi oi" - just for the record I guessed his password and so I sit and watch him sending these messages from my phone.

I have to leave, it's more than time. But one, why do I find it so hard regardless of him being a complete and utter

How do I go about this? Tell him I've been looking at his Facebook and I've seen the message?

I'll have to go back to my mums for a while which at 33 is really rubbish!

None of this feels easy.

Advice needed xxx

www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/how-to-cope-with-anxiety

Is it normal to feel this bad???

Yes feeling awful is pretty normal.

It's grief, grief for what could have/should have been, what you thought you had etc.

It's normal to feel horrific after leaving a tortuous, diminishing relationship, yes. It's normal to be scared about the future and how to move forward.

What are you doing to help yourself? What strategies are you trying to control the anxiety?

My counsellor said to me a while back that actually although you feel anxiety controls you, it's actually you in charge of it. Which was really not something I wanted to hear at the time, but it is true. It's just your body working against you because of stress reactions, but you can work with it and manage it.

... ugh, still finding this so hard with a million things running around my head x

what is running through your head 🌸

Didn’t want to read and run OP - just read your thread and wanted to say well done for being so strong for your DD. You should be really proud of yourself! My friend was in a very similar situation 6 years ago - she’s now happily married and has twins with her lovely new husband. He will never change despite his promises - if you take him back he will just do it again unfortunately - I have seen this happen with another friends slimy DP - he promises and cries, she takes him back and they just go round in circles. for you

Think I'm going through some sort of depression... I can't feel ok :( x

See your GP @love15 and also access some counselling, you are having a real shit time and need some help.

Yup time for the GP - are you still seeing the counsellor?

Op please take credit for the stregnth you have shown to put you and your daughter first. Thing of the lesson you are giving her too. You are worth happiness

I have been in that heartbreak, older than you, with a little one.

I PROMISE you. That awful sinking feeling replaces with a sense of peace. Relief. And eventually happiness. It's not about meeting someone else completely but about being truly happy in yourself!

You will get to that point xx