DH waking me up

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Is it okay for your DH to wake you up early on a morning? Say you had to be up at 7 for work but DH wakes you up at 5:30, because he likes to get up then. Is that something that other couples do too or is it something you would be annoyed about?

No, not acceptable unless you've agreed it.
I'm an early riser but do my best to not disturb my partner who is not. It's mutual respect.

How does he wake you up? My DP gets up at 5:30 for work on my days off and his alarm wakes me up which can’t be helped.

I would murder my DP if he woke me at 5.30.

Doesn’t matter what other couples do, though. If it annoys you, it’s a problem. What’s he playing at?

Like purposely wakes you? Or just isn’t quiet enough getting himself up and it wakes you up?

It's not accidental, he will wake me up either by asking me to get up or sometimes trying to kiss and cuddle me.

Fuck no. Sounds like something you would do to someone who you hate.

No not if you don't want or need to be up then

Have you told him you don't want to be woken up??

What does he say when you tell him you don't want to get up that early?

That would drive me absolutely batshit. Totally selfish.

No that’s not ok!

Different people need different amounts of sleep. It's fine if he wants to get up then, but he should be considerate and slip out of bed trying not to wake you. Waking you up deliberately is shitty and selfish, (and possibly controlling).

He'll either try and be cute and say he missed me, or he needed help with something, or he'll say sorry but then do it again the next time anyway.

I’d be telling him to fuck off at 5.30 am

He's taking the piss.

He is a kind man in general or does do other selfish things?

Ugh! I’m sorry, but hanging’s too good for him OP. 😂

Seriously though, that would absolutely drive me insane. I need my sleep desperately and rarely ever get enough. If DH wakes me before I absolutely must get up, the house had better be on fire or similar.

He’d be sleeping in the spare room/on the sofa until he ‘remembered’ it’s 5.30am and I don’t want to be up.

I would be so bloody angry.

No not acceptable.
When dh get a up 2 hours before me for work, he keeps his deodrant and body sprays in another room after I asked him too. The noise and fumes waking me up so I asked him not to stay in the bedroom.
Tell your dh to stop It.

And he doesn’t even have to be up then, he just likes to?! What fuckery is this? I’d be livid.

Most days he wakes me up about 6:15-6:30 which I can just about manage with but when he wakes me up at 5:30 I can't function properly through the day and it affects my work. How can I get him to listen to me and not wake me up? I feel like he always thinks his own wants/needs are more important than mine he thinks I should get up early because it's more virtuous or something, he thinks it's lazy to stay in bed until 7.

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He'll either try and be cute and say he missed me, or he needed help with something, or he'll say sorry but then do it again the next time anyway.

Is he bothersome and smothering in other aspects of your relationship as well?

Honestly I'm angry on your behalf. Missed you?! What the fuck.

I'd make it a dealbreaker, that either he stops this shit or I'm moving into another room to sleep.

He’s being a selfish dick.
Tell him it makes him less attractive and that should stop it.

Does he go to sleep earlier than you? Or does he like a lie in at the weekend. I’d be banging about making noise (accidentally of course) and wake him up. If it’s ok for him to do it then it’s ok for you.

Lock him out of your room until he stops.

I would tell him if he doesn't pack it in I'll be moving to separate rooms (with a lock on)

My friend's DH does this, even though he goes to bed two hours earlier than her - he's a controlling twat.