He wants nothing more to do with me over a minor thing

[Hasinah101]

I’ve posted before about an incident that happened but just to a quick summary of what previously happened was, he wanted to leave me because he said he had an emotional break down due to us being an hour away from each other and him being so madly in love with me that he’ll find it hard not being able to see me everyday.. eventually he came round and was like sorry I love you, he wasn’t himself when he was having his breakdown and he said things he didn’t mean..

Currently as we speak I’m not begging for him to not leave me. I stupidly sent him a conversation between me and my ex where it was just me telling my ex I want absolutely nothing to do with him.. but a day before this my bf asked to see my phone.. more specifically look in my gallery and I have some embarrassing pics in there so I was like no but after like a min I was like ok.. but he assumed I deleted stuff..

Now he is telling me to leave him, that the whole time I have been faking our relationship.. he just wants to be alone, that his life is shit.. that I should go back to my cheating ex and why am I being so nice to him after he cheated in the past for 2 yrs…

Everything is a mess, I don’t know what to do.. please don’t be horrible.. I’m just thinking to leave him to it bc in all honesty I’m exhausted

He is abusive.. please don’t stay with him - he will really hurt you! Been there. Run like the fucking wind…

@Hasinah101

I blocked him and he got a new number And messaged me saying we can be friends and he can’t be in a relationship as he is too toxic And he doesn’t want to ruin what we have and still wants me in his life

All an attempt to keep the line of communication open so he can manipulate you.

He is simultaneously trying to be less threatening by defining himself as a friend and also relegating you.

Glad you have blocked him op as he is no friend. One month in and he is manipulating you or trying his very best to manipulate you.

Also ... "he still wants you in his life"

Does he now.

You get to decide that you do not want that.

Keep a record in your phone of all the calls/texts etc. Don’t delete them.

If he contacts you again send him a text saying directly that you do not want to hear from him, you consider his behaviour harassment and that if he contacts you once more you will call the police.

If he stops, great. If he doesn’t, call 101 and report it. The police will take it seriously and almost certainly issue him a harassment warning.

Again, if he now stops, great. If he doesn’t, he knows you are disturbed by it and is doing it anyway, so you report it to the police.

He won’t stop unless he is made to stop or moves onto someone else. Don’t let it get to the stage where it affects you more than it already is before taking action.

Wait, what? You’ve been seeing him for four weeks! End it now (don’t wait for him to do it) and stay single until you can work out why you have become entangled with such an unstable and controlling person.

You not knowing what to do in this situation after only 4 weeks is deeply troubling and suggests that you have issues of your own that need addressing.

He is really is the sort of person who would become violently abusive very quickly. Definitely stop engaging and escalate to police if he attempts to continue contacting you.