He wants nothing more to do with me over a minor thing

[Hasinah101]

I’ve posted before about an incident that happened but just to a quick summary of what previously happened was, he wanted to leave me because he said he had an emotional break down due to us being an hour away from each other and him being so madly in love with me that he’ll find it hard not being able to see me everyday.. eventually he came round and was like sorry I love you, he wasn’t himself when he was having his breakdown and he said things he didn’t mean..

Currently as we speak I’m not begging for him to not leave me. I stupidly sent him a conversation between me and my ex where it was just me telling my ex I want absolutely nothing to do with him.. but a day before this my bf asked to see my phone.. more specifically look in my gallery and I have some embarrassing pics in there so I was like no but after like a min I was like ok.. but he assumed I deleted stuff..

Now he is telling me to leave him, that the whole time I have been faking our relationship.. he just wants to be alone, that his life is shit.. that I should go back to my cheating ex and why am I being so nice to him after he cheated in the past for 2 yrs…

Everything is a mess, I don’t know what to do.. please don’t be horrible.. I’m just thinking to leave him to it bc in all honesty I’m exhausted

Jesus Christ...get the fuck away from this weirdo now!

Block and move on, he sounds unhinged.

He's not going to kill himself, this is his way of trying to keep you trapped in the relationship - he wants you to feel so bad that you are not going to leave him or argue with him in case it makes him commit suicide. Even if he does commit suicide, that's his decision (sad as it would be).

There are people I chat to while passing through Kings Cross that I know better than you two know each other

Oh well in that case. Stay with him for ever. Because it looks like you are going to have a long and happy life together!

This is not normal. You know that. You owe him Nothing. Block. Get some therapy. And some boundaries. And the second you get a wiff of bad behaviour dump their arse. Don't wait for them to be telling you they might kill themselves. Which are words to control you. Is this what love looks like to you? Set your bar higher and don't settle until you find someone who meets it.

So much drama in such little time. Honestly OP it shouldn't be this hard. He's making a massive amount of drama over nothing.

@Hasinah101

I told him goodbye and now he’s saying I shouldn’t love someone like him and he just makes everyone sad and that he deserves to be alone, he’s just made it all about himself now

So block him.

I briefly dated someone who would eventually text me up to 100 times a night. A friend reported him to the police because inwas going through a bad time and couldn't see the wood for the trees. They ended up recording it as harassment and didn't pursue it on the promise that I would contact them if he ever got in touch with me again.

Get rid.

Urgh.
He's an arse, really he is. Don't give him another thought.

@Hasinah101

I told him goodbye and now he’s saying I shouldn’t love someone like him and he just makes everyone sad and that he deserves to be alone, he’s just made it all about himself now

This is manipulative and controlling. Saying this to make you feel sorry for him and responsible for giving him a relationship.

You owe him nothing.

By responding to him in any way you are just drawing this out . He’s fucking nuts, that’s all there is to it. He’s getting off on the drama of it all and by communicating with him you’re just playing into his hands.
You’ve wasted 30 days on him already, 30 days you will never get back. Ffs you don’t owe him anything, he said he needs to be alone, believe him, he absolutely does.
Block him on everything, go out with mates and have fun. Spend a bit of time without being in a relationship so you can work out what is going wrong and why you would even consider trying to work on a relationship as unhealthy as this obviously is.

he’s just made it all about himself now

Sounds about right. If you stay with him, prepare to spend 99% of your waking hours wondering how he is feeling and what he is thinking and how you should behave and what you should change about yourself to make him stop making your life hell.

Tale as old as time.

Can I just say guys aswell, I was ill the other day and wasn’t on my phone and he left me 171 missed calls that day

What the hell are you doing OP block him already!

Stop drawing it out saying 'goodbyes' and block!

If you don't do this now you will live to regret it. This guy is mentally unstable, manipulative and controlling.

How you can't see this for yourself is beyond me??

Neither of you should be dating as you clearly both have issues one way or another. It's good he's an hour away, because he has the attitude and attachment style of a stalker, you may well find in time to come that he is one.
How did him wanting to be with you every day and planning out your future together, in under a month of seeing each other, not alarm you? It should of as it shouts out that he is unhinged.
Have to say though, your own behaviour is also odd and goady - why on earth share a text exchange with your ex? Hello! Bound to cause problems that was.
You will get exhausted if you carry on like this, as every day he will get you to do stupid things to show how devout you are but none of it will be enough.
Clearly you are not over your ex, hate is as powerful emotion as love, when you are over him, you will be feeling nonchalant and not be in contact. A distraction from your ex this may have been, but overall, it just shows that it was too soon for you to date, so take time out.

I hope you assured him you don’t love him, given it’s been a MONTH.

Or have you swapped I-love-yous already in the hope that saying it will make it true?

@Hasinah101

I told him goodbye and now he’s saying I shouldn’t love someone like him and he just makes everyone sad and that he deserves to be alone, he’s just made it all about himself now

So disengage. Don't reply. Block. Move on. Get some counselling before dating again, to work out why you don't seem to get how unhealthy this situation has always been.

Stay strong, block him and don’t be wheedled back in. And stay single until you have better boundaries! You do NOT need crazy drama like this in your life.

@Hasinah101

I told him goodbye and now he’s saying I shouldn’t love someone like him and he just makes everyone sad and that he deserves to be alone, he’s just made it all about himself now

Ignore that. It is a classic bait or "hook"

I agree with a pp neither of you should be dating ANYONE let alone each other. Block him and get some therapy, the way you conduct relationships is not normal.

I blocked him and he got a new number And messaged me saying we can be friends and he can’t be in a relationship as he is too toxic And he doesn’t want to ruin what we have and still wants me in his life

So don't reply and block this number too. Stop engaging with him entirely.

Just keep blocking.

Just ignore, ignore, ignore.

When you were younger did you have a slim friend who would always say they were fat trying to get attention/compliments. This is what he’s doing just trying to manipulate you for his own entertainment and get you to beg him to be with you.
Get on tinder or something and find what else is out there.

Yes, what I look for in a friend is someone who is toxic and ignores my boundaries. They make GREAT friends. [sarcastic]

Just keep blocking the numbers until the penny drops....

If you keep this man in your life you need your head examining, seriously.