Dating Thread 206 - picking up tradesmen aswell as dates

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Great hearing all the good news. It does seem about 5-6 meets, 2 months of dating before things start to solidify?

Blocked one of the "I've just joined Tinder and you know I'm virtually a virgin looking for true love since I broke up with my childhood sweetheart" guys as he was asking for photos, kept commenting on my looks?

I could have wound him up a bit with a series of banal day-to-day photos or questioned him, but seemed a waste of time really on someone you've exchanged five messages with.

Probably just joined Tinder as he's normally on OnlyFans all day

Hey all 👋 need to catch up with the last two pages but just to report… he was a lovely guy, spent 4 hours together (can’t actually believe 4 hours flew past so quick), not sure if ill ever see him again, but I would like to 😊 I even ate pizza in front of him which is unusual for me to eat in front of someone new.
(And I know ill probably get flamed for this but he paid for the drinks and food and wouldn’t take my share ..have to say I like that in a guy)

@Shayelle2009 yay happy times, but what makes you think you might not see him again?

If it helps I always offer to split the bill but I do like it when they insist 🤷‍♀️

@Shayelle2009 ah so glad it went well. Mr Cricket paid for our drinks the first time we met, I thought that was really nice,he wouldn't let me pay. Mr Shack sounds like a goodun.

@SpringlikeBunk I keep getting the Tinder isn't for me, I'm gonna delete it ones.

Sounds good @Shayelle2009

and I'm of the same mindset tbh - great first meets are good but a lot of contacts do fizzle out with no blame, as you're strangers still at this stage?

Especially with online anticipation and dreaming after first matching, I find it's easy for me to think things are more advanced than they actually are.

That's not being cynical I think, just not attaching too many expectations to the situation until things are a bit more established?

Lol @Isitreallyme77 "Change my mind about online dating"

"Mate, I LOVE a challenge.

Can you text me your address so I can get dressed up in stockings and suspenders and turn up ready to fulfil your sexual fantasies?

I'll cook you a curry and do the washing up. but if you want something blander can also do that."

They normally are on the potato side of the spectrum as well.

@SpringlikeBunk 😂😂 they must think we're so gullible.

@Isitreallyme77

It's the sneaky ones who annoy me though. I mean if someone has on their profile "want someone DTF to exchange bored nudes with" then it's 2021, no-one is going to judge them?

Haha @SpringlikeBunk funny posts making me chuckle as always.

@cravingthelook happy belated birthday for last friday!!

I just didn’t get the feel that he’d be that fussed about seeing me again, though it was a really nice evening, he is a really lovely guy and he’ll be a wonderful catch for someone ☺️

@SpringlikeBunk I've had two now who just wanted no strings sex, they were both honest and upfront about it. It didn't bother me, in fact Mr Confused was good to chat to, although I did want to say to him see a prostitute for no strings sex. Mr Football from last night obviously wanted more revealing photos than I sent, considering the one he sent me 🤢🤮. I mean just be honest about it.

@Iamclearlyamug it’s not about the money I just like the gesture is that how you feel about it? I made sure I bought the drinks after.

Happy belated birthday @cravingthelook

I think tinder’s really shit to be honest.

@Shayelle2009

I think tinder’s really shit to be honest.

@Shayelle2009 I do too but Bumble is just as bad around me. I've had more luck (if that's what you can call it) on Tinder.

I think I’m all app’d out at the mo. Felt jaded with it before Shack came along I've snoozed them all for a few days now.

I hear that. The swamp is depressing at the moment.

It is, isn't it?? It’s grim to be fair x

@Heartbeats0708 Thanks for your kind words and sharing an old post of mine, its definitely helpful for people to have and refer to especially as dating in 2021 is so different to dating a few years ago.

Place marking - off to catch up on the new thread

Just RTFT… @VanGoghsDog very glad your plumbing’s sorted!! Is the waste water flowing away freely now? What was it in the end?? You must feel relieved.

Not heard a peep from Shack not even a ‘did you get home ok’ as he knew I was getting the train. I mean I’m not 5 years old of course but I think if a man’s a tiny bit interested they send that message?
Gut is defo telling me he’s not bothered.

Sod it, might unsnooze the swamp fest potato party today!! Onwards and downwards! Lol

"swamp fest potato party" 🤣🤣 Shayelle

I know how you feel. After an initial flurry of excitement on match, I've gone from having three dates coming up to having thrown one back in the SoT because he was too intense and a bit weird, having been ghosted by one after he suggested a place and date and clearly then got bored before we confirmed a time, and having had a date last night with someone who was good company and I could see him being a friend but nothing more than that 😐

And of course you should have heard from Mr Shack - not sending a little check-in to make sure you got home ok and to thank you for the date is a bit rude imo.

Sorry @WeWantTheFinestWines you're not having much luck either. It’s quite up and down isn’t it?
Thanks I felt it was a bit weird too esp as we’d chatted so much the last week and had a 4 hour date. My instinct told me at the end though we wouldn’t be seeing each other again! Weird. Think I’m too conventional for him that’s the feeling I have.

Is the waste water flowing away freely now? What was it in the end??

It was a combination of very bad design (wrong guage pipes, pipes where they shouldn't be, pipes sagging and water being unable to go "uphill") and a blocked "elbow" which was behind the kitchen units. The elbow has also been leaking under the kitchen cabinet, for potentially years.

At one point they thought they were going to have to dismantle the kitchen to get at a pipe.

As it is, the ceiling had to come down (about 3m of it) and they had to take apart the spare bedroom because that has a false wall in the back of a cupboard behind which is the bathroom plumbing. So that is still all undone (cupboard contents all over the house) and might as well stay that way until I get the bathroom totally redone which is due to be end July!

I woke up thinking it is Thursday (date with MrWG) and it's only Wednesday :(

I also think it's rude for there to be no check in text, even if they don't want to see you again that's pretty unfair.